Do Not Forsake Your Teachings - A message I spoke recently

Victoria - posted on 05/30/2013 ( no moms have responded yet )




Do Not Forsake Your Teachings
(Three Key Aspects to being a Trainer)

Growing up I always thought my parents were strict & sometimes mean when they would instruct & discipline me. As a kid we don’t tend to appreciate that our parents are generally looking out for our best interests, we usually think that they are just trying to ruin our fun & that they couldn’t possibly understand where we are coming. Now that I am a mother raising my own kids I can look back & truly appreciate what my mum was saying & doing, but it also makes me think about how I am raising my kids, the example I am giving them. My mum wasn’t & isn’t born again, but I am, so the instructions & teachings I give my kids isn’t just about common sense & morals as was hers, but it’s primarily about their spiritual experience with God.

A few weeks ago when I was asked to prepare a Mother’s Day Message God gave me a scripture that really got me thinking about what my kids are learning from me, from their dad & from others, yet this isn’t just a message for mother’s day, or father’s day, but one that is important for us to grasp at any time as we are example setters for those around us.

Pr 1:8 Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction and do not forsake your mother’s teaching. 9 They will be a garland to grace your head and a chain to adorn your neck.

We are instructed to listen & not forsake the things our parents taught us, as parents this is also accountability to what exactly are we teaching our kids. Now you may say that I’m not a parent, so this doesn’t apply to me, yet in our Church we believe we are all called to ministry & leadership at some level as pastors & teachers we will be training & teaching others in the way they should go & we have been set an example through our Pastors & teachers that should be a garland & chain adorning us.

Pr 22:6 Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.

If we want the next generation to listen to our instructions, not forsake our teaching then we best be training them in the way they should go, so that when they don’t depart from it, it is the right thing for them to be holding onto.

Today we are going to look at 3 key aspect of being a trainer.

1) Words
2) Will
3) Ways


So the first key aspect is our words. Now I’m not talking about the use of obscenities that is certainly in there, but what does our language teach in the spiritual realm of things.

Pr 18:21 The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.

The message version puts it this way,

Pr 18:21 Words kill, words give life; they’re either poison or fruit—you choose.

Our words should be life giving words. They should be like the fruit of the spirit.

Ga 5:22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control.

Our words should be love, we are told to speak the truth in love, our words should emanate joy, peace & patience, these can certainly be tested by our kids, especially when they don’t seem to want to listen, calling out to them “I said NOW!” certainly doesn’t seem very peaceful or patient, yet is often an act of kindness in regards to their wellbeing. Goodness & faithfulness encouraging our kids when they show that they are truly making an effort in the right direction, gentleness & self-controls, using our words to build them up, while tearing down things that shouldn’t be there.

Job 33:14 For God does speak— now one way, now another— though man may not perceive it.

Our words should be formatted after God, so sometimes we speak one way and sometimes another. Sometimes we are quite loud & verbal & others we pull the kids right close & speak very quietly to them. Yet our words aren’t just about what we say to them, it’s more about our confession.

2Co 9:13 Because of the service by which you have proved yourselves, men will praise God for the obedience that accompanies your confession of the gospel of Christ, and for your generosity in sharing with them and with everyone else.

What is our confession, what do our words say about us, does our general language say it is just us speaking, or does it say we have been sent & also shown how.

Joh 12:49 For I did not speak of my own accord, but the Father who sent me commanded me what to say and how to say it.

When we think of our Pastor's confession, God uses every word he speaks & not a word falls vainly to the ground, God uses Pastor as a man who speaks Gods word more than his own. This is also there for us, but we must believe it to be so. When we sit around the dinner table chatting, our words, our confession will teach our kids, but what is it teaching them, when we have visitor over, what is our conversation teaching, they may not be kids, and yet we are still being an example. The words of our mouth can bring life, building up & encouragement, or they can bring death, tearing down & discouragement, we choose.

1Co 2:13 This is what we speak, not in words taught us by human wisdom but in words taught by the Spirit, expressing spiritual truths in spiritual words.

God is raising us, so that we might be used to raise others, not just our own kids, but all those who he places in our paths, so God is training us with spiritual words, that we in turn may speak those spiritual truths to other.

1Th 2:4 On the contrary, we speak as men approved by God to be entrusted with the gospel. We are not trying to please men but God, who tests our hearts.

Our words should not be to please other, but to please God, our confession should not just be a verbal confession, but should represent what is inside of us, our will, in scriptural terms Mt 12:34

Mt 12:34b For out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks.


The Second key aspect is our will. Do we express a willing spirit, a willing heart & not just willing, but as we’ve learned often in recent months are we also wanting & waiting, as this is something that not only our kids, but others pick up on.

Ps 51:12 Restore to me the joy of your salvation and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me.

We’ve been granted a willing spirit, but it’s for us to make it evident.

1Ch 28:9 "And you, my son Solomon, acknowledge the God of your father, and serve him with wholehearted devotion and with a willing mind, for the LORD searches every heart and understands every motive behind the thoughts. If you seek him, he will be found by you; but if you forsake him, he will reject you forever.

Our willing heart & mind should be seen in our acknowledgement of God & wholehearted devotion to him, it should be evident by our seeking of God, not just when we want or need something, but because he is worthy to be sought after.

Ps 119:108 Accept, O LORD, the willing praise of my mouth, and teach me your laws.

Our willing heart & spirit should be accompanied by our willing praise. These things make evident that we are seeking Gods will not our own.

Lu 5:12 While Jesus was in one of the towns, a man came along who was covered with leprosy. When he saw Jesus, he fell with his face to the ground and begged him, "Lord, if you are willing, you can make me clean." 13 Jesus reached out his hand and touched the man. "I am willing," he said. "Be clean!" And immediately the leprosy left him.

Here we see a man asking Jesus to do something & Jesus immediately reaches out to do it willingly. When God asks us to do something, do we respond as quickly, with I am willing, I am wanting & I am waiting? Even when it is something that we would prefer not take place, do we like Jesus have the willing spirit that expresses, “Not my will, but yours be done.” Whether we act with a willing a heart or with one that it really saying NO it will be evident to those about us & of course God already know as he judges the heart, not the actions or words.

1Pe 4:19 So then, those who suffer according to God‘s will should commit themselves to their faithful Creator and continue to do good.

Our willingness tends to be most evident in times of trials & suffering. Do we show to others, such as our kids, brethren, even our unsaved loved ones that we are committed to our faithful creator.

Our kids & others should be able to see that we are willing, wanting & waiting to do Gods will, whatever it might be, but no only that it should be evident to us that we are & not just thinking we are.

2Co 8:11 Now finish the work, so that your eager willingness to do it may be matched by your completion of it, according to your means. 12 For if the willingness is there, the gift is acceptable according to what one has, not according to what he does not have.


The third & final key aspect of being a trainer is our ways. If we are willing than it should be matched by our completion of the task, that is our actions or ways. What are our ways, and what do they say about us?

De 28:9 The LORD will establish you as his holy people, as he promised you on oath, if you keep the commands of the LORD your God and walk in his ways.

We are being established by God as his holy people, therefore our ways should be walking in his ways, Gods ways.
This should be evident in all we do.

1Ki 3:14 And if you walk in my ways and obey my statutes and commands as David your father did, I will give you a long life."

We should want God to be able to say this to the children in our lives, if you walk in my ways as your Mother Doris does, as your Father Harold does, as your Sister (in the LORD) Erica does or your Brother (in the LORD) Martin does…………. It’s not pasted tense for us as we are still living, we are still able to be that continued example for our kids & to each other.

Job 27:11 "I will teach you about the power of God; the ways of the Almighty I will not conceal.

We shouldn’t want to hide the good work that God has done in us, we should be pleased to let other see Gods handy work in our lives & therefore praise him. If we are walking in his ways, it will be noticeable, it is our distinguishing factor.

Ps 25:4 Show me your ways, O LORD, teach me your paths;

As we walk in Gods ways, so others will glean from our experience, our example & do likewise.

1 Co 11:11 Follow my example, as I follow the example of Christ. 2 I praise you for remembering me in everything and for holding to the teachings, just as I passed them on to you.

We want our young ones & those we are called to be examples to, to hold to what they have been taught as they are being taught in the way they should go, the way that is the truth & light; the way that is God. Then just as they have been taught, as we have been taught & passed it on to them, they too can pass it on to others.

Ho 14:9 Who is wise? He will realize these things. Who is discerning? He will understand them. The ways of the LORD are right; the righteous walk in them, but the rebellious stumble in them.

By his wisdom God is teaching us to walk in his ways, to train our children according to his ways, to be an example to others in according with his ways, so that we & they won’t be found stumbling & not able to get up.

La 3:40 Let us examine our ways and test them, and let us return to the LORD.


We need to examine our ways, our willingness & our words, not to return to the Lord, but as we continue in Him to new levels. Do we speak & act in faith walking in all Gods ways, are our words the ones we use most or are we lead by the spirit that our words would be in accordance with the word & are we willing to do all that God calls us to with a wanting & waiting to do so. If we want not just our own kids, but those we are called to be an example before & minister to, to listen to our instruction & not forsake our teachings, then we need to be making our words, our will & our ways into that garland that adorns us as it mentions in Ps 1:9, one that can be handed down from generation to generation like an inheritance.

Pr 13: 22 A good man leaves an inheritance for his children’s children, but a sinner’s wealth is stored up for the righteous.

The message puts it this way,

Pr 13:22 A good life gets passed on to the grandchildren; ill-gotten wealth ends up with good people.

We’re not just talking about a good moral life, we are talking about a good godly life and as we pass that inheritance to our children & those with us, they in turn will pass it on to others. Just as God is using our Pastor to train us up in ministry so that we in turn can be used to minister to others, as Mothers, Fathers, Brothers & Sisters and in the time that is coming as teachers, pastors & the other offices of the fivefold ministry that we are called to occupy.


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