Accidentally pregnant at 44! Healthy pregnancy so far...anyone else in the same boat?

Suzy Lewis - posted on 07/19/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




So...I am accidentally pregnant at 44 (beach vacation with my husband). We were REALLY surprised, since we had tried some years back, couldn't get pregnant, and adopted our amazing son, who is now 2 and a half. I'm 10 weeks in and two ultrasounds look good. But I am a bit scared about the genetic risks. Does anyone else have (or know) moms who have had healthy babies at 44? If you do, please share the good stories.

P.S. I wouldn't change a thing about our previous infertility issues. If we had gotten pregnant years ago, we would never have adopted our amazing son, and I can't imagine our lives without him. But it is quite weird to suddenly be fertile NOW. The universe has a sense of humor.


Carolyn - posted on 08/20/2012




Hi Suzy,

Yes, I had a similar experience in 2005. I found myself pregnant at 45.

We had already ruled out adoption a year prior, I thought I was just too old and tired. So I focused on my health instead.

Long story short, it was an uneventful pregnancy, a difficult labor and delivery, and a beautiful, healthy boy who is now 6 years old. I was 46 when he was born and he is my first and only.

NOW, we are thinking about adopting a little brother for him (a four to six year old) so we're doing things in the reverse from how you're doing it!

I don't agree with the woman who said to avoid tests. I felt fine and secure that I was having a healthy pregnancy and a normal baby, but I did submit to the recommended tests if they made sense to me. For example, I didn't do the CSV at nine weeks because it carried a small risk of miscarriage. But I did the high level ultrasounds, the amnio, and the blood tests.

Congratulations and let me know if you have any questions!


Marybeth - posted on 07/21/2012




Well, congratulations! I do not know anyone who was 44, but I was 40 and pregnant with twins! I will tell you NOT buy into all those tests they will most assuredly make you take. I had to see a high risk specialist (top in her field) who told my husband and me that not only did one of boys definitely have Downs, but the other could have something worse and may not make it out of the hospital. Needless to say, we were devistated! Make a long story boys were healthy and beautiful, albeit premature. I will say that I believe having a baby @ this age is harder on the body, but ultimately worth every ache and pain. Best of luck!


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