Does anyone...

Keri - posted on 11/10/2008 ( 11 moms have responded )

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Does anyone worry about how old they will be when their kids are teenagers or when you become a grandparent? I am so thankful that my parents had me young so that they are still healthy and young enough to be able to play and keep up with my kids. Especially since I had kids in my late 30's. I just hope medical technology keeps improving to help keep me healthy as I age. I just want to be around when my grandkids are born! Maybe I worry too much.....

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Michelle - posted on 08/01/2010

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I'm 41 with 2 daughters age 7 & 5 and a baby on the way. I do hope i'm around to see my grandchildren but my age does make me think sometimes if I will be, especially if they wait until they are in their 30s before having children, like I did. I'm sure if I look after my own health and fitness I will be around though. My grandma is 91 now so there's hope there :-)

Paige - posted on 01/17/2010

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I think about it from time to time...I'm a "mom again" .. had my first 2 rather young and now at almost 40 have a 5.5mo and would like to have MAYBE 1 more.... I THINK about it, but never worry about it. I always say if I had the wisdom I have now, and the energy I had then...I'd be super mom!!
enjoy your bub!!

Mickie - posted on 01/16/2010

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You know - I raised my two who are now 34 and 36. And at age 48 I got the surprise of my life when I was given my granson to raise. He was born and my daughter has bi polar and personality disorder as well as OCD. There was never a question of giving him up for adoption. My husband and I knew we would raise him. Two years later, he died. I have total legal custody of him. I thought the same thing at that time. What I can tell you is this: take care of your health as you would normally. Eat healthy and do all the things you would normally do ... because you would want to live long and happy lives with or without children anywya, wouldn't you?? What I have also learned is that having a child in your life at our age helps keep us young. Looking at the world thru the eyes of a child helps us see the things we missed and keeps us young and happier. Don't worry about the tomorrows of your life Keri. They will come with their own set of circumstances evn if you didn't have children. Just take each day as it comes and make the very best of it. My 14 year old drives me nuts right now. I didn't like teenagers the first time around and believe me, it hasn't changed the second time around BUT I wouldn't have traded this life for anything. He has taught me how to laugh at things I didn't laugh at the first time ... and although I am smarter now - I have also learnd to flow a little more with the times. I know what to teach him and I know more about more things now. Medical science will work to your favor ... if you work to your favor. Worrying wastes energy - energy you could be putting to your children. Trust me. You are only as old as you choose to be. Enjoy it. It's God's gift ... God doesn't make mistakes when he gives out children. Mickie

Mandy - posted on 01/15/2009

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hi i have just joined , and yes i also think about that ,but my mum was in her 50s when i was at secondry school and it never bothered me or my friends ,most of my friends mums were in there 50s too !so i try not to let it bother me too much, i have a 26 yearold son 21 year old daughter 18 year old son and 5 year old daughter,and 2 gorgeous grandaughters 3 and 5 and i am 44!and young at heart!!!!

Caroline - posted on 01/12/2009

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Hi, just joined. I'm 46 and I have a 6 yr. old daughter . I've always been young at heart and I've been with my wonderful husband for 17 yrs. who is 8 years younger than me. The funny thing is that he feel and sometimes acts older than me! I think of how old I will be when my daughter will be in college, not being a grandmother yet, but then I think of my husband who lost both of his parents before he was 20. Although I'm thankful that my mom had me when she was young and that my daughter has one set of grandparents, I reflect on the fact that the most important is to enjoy the present. Only became a mom 2 1/2 years ago, adopted our daughter when she was 3 1/2, and I can tell you that becoming a first time mom of a toddler at 44 was a big adjustment. I've had thoughts of a second, but then I think will I have the energy!

Sharon - posted on 01/11/2009

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Yes, I worry about the very same thing as you.  I am 45 with a one year old and I can't help but feel a little sorry for him that his parents are going to be very old when he's still very young.  However, I will try to keep myself fit and healthy (like my husband does) and keep young at heart.  I tell myself that the right frame of mind is more important than the physical body.



You are not alone.

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Hey ladies! I just joined, and I have to tell you that, technically, I'm already a grandmother, and I just turned 40! It's my step-daughter who has an almost 2-yr-old, and it's definitely kind of a strange thing. Even stranger is that my boys -- ages 6 and 3 -- are already uncles!
And even though my parents had me when they were younger, they're still old enough that they can't really get down on the floor and play with the kids, especially my dad. When the boys were just babies, he'd hardly interact with them at all. But that's getting off the subject. I'm glad I waited to have kids -- there's no way I was ready to be a parent when I was in my 20s!

Keri - posted on 11/11/2008

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Kim - I know what you mean about your parents working and not having as much time to spend with their grandkids. But I have to say my MIL is retired and seems even more busy now than she was when she was working! I am just thankful that we live a block away from my parents and about 30 minutes from my MIL (sometimes I wish we lived further away from her - but that is a different story!) LOL



Thanks for all the replies!



Keri

Lesley - posted on 11/11/2008

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Dont worry it will take the joy away, I have a 25 yr old a 11yr old and a 6 yr old, also lucky enough to have a beautiful grandson 3 granddaughter 13mths and my goodness one on the way ..Life is what it is , I always wanted children not maybe in my old age lol but thats when they arrived wouldnt change anything, by the way I'm 51...sounds ready for a wooden overcoat lol my son says that I'm a sexy mama thats enough for me..just because your young having your kids doesnt mean you will see your grandchildren who knows what might happen..my parents had me young ..they are still alive thank god but live abroad now to escape us all ha ha..all the best ...

Justkima - posted on 11/11/2008

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No, I don't really think about it too much. I just waited so long for these girlies that I'm just trying to enjoy each and every moment!



A different perspective though...yes, my parents had me young (mom was 20 and grandma was 20 when she had her), but my parents are still in their early 60's and working. They own a business and while they are young, they don't necessarily have the time like my DH's parents do. His parents are more my grandparents age (around 80) and they have all the time and patience in the world with my kids.



But even though I'm not even remotely thinking about grandkids, yes, I would still like to be around! ;-)

MIchelle - posted on 11/10/2008

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My husband worries about it more than me. Right now I am just enjoying my children. I got married late so kids came late, but I found a wonderful man to grow old with. Grandkids are so far down the road for me now....

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