i need help my 2 year old daughter...

Michelle - posted on 01/29/2009 ( 16 moms have responded )

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...almost 3 refuses to get potty trained she has all kinds of pretty panties and when a pullup was put on her she was demanding i put a diaper on her.I don't want to force her but she is just about 3 HELP ME PLEASE

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Cj - posted on 10/23/2010

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I agree with Pamela. She'll do it when she's ready. Read her books about potty training. Let her see you going to the bathroom. Buy her a training potty or two. Give lots of awards and praise. A sticker chart works well, as does a small sweet, such as M&Ms. I also used the pants-free method. It worked for me because I didn't carpeting in the common areas of the house. As long as she stuck to the wood floors, we were good, LOL! It took her about a day to figure it out; although she had accidents for several months after. She was having accidents at three-and-a-half but I think that was regression due to having a new baby in the house.

Jane - posted on 10/09/2010

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get a dvd/book combo, play the dvd the same time each day, read the book at bedtime w/her other books. keep the topic alive, but don't pressure her, "nana potties", "i'm going to potty". just don't get into a conversation about if she will or if she won't. it's not anything she has a say in. also, set her up for success once her interest is shown, load her up w/liquids so she can produce. i limited training to morning time only for the first few weeks, once she got the hand of it, i took her cues.

Nancy - posted on 02/11/2010

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It will happen "when it's time." Try not to be frustrated or make it an issue. My daughter is just now potty trained at 3-1/4 years. A friend said her son and daughter became potty trained between 3 and 3-1/2, and lo and behold it happened in this household at that time. Today's diapers are so comfortable I think toddlers are taking longer.

We used a homemade chart with stickers (a teachers monthly calendar purchased in the school supply section at the Dollar Store) - she got to choose the stickers. At first, the stickers were exciting, but it seemed to impress her most when I said how PROUD I was of her going. Soon the stickers (with little prizes after 5 or so stickers) didn't matter so much.

We had a lot of potty seats, books about potties, panties, etc. Sitting on a regular toilet seat works the best for her, one book "The Princess and the Potty" worked the best (the princess gets "pantalettes" - which my girl now calls them. We used the panties as motivation - if you can stay dry, you can try to wear panties. Her biggest motivation is going to school (preschool) - she wants to go, but you need to be potty trained. A video from the public library "Potty Power" had her singing along.

It seems to be something the kids learn to "feel" - and you can't rush that. Eventually everyone gets the hang of it. Hang in there!

Nicole - posted on 02/03/2010

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My son absolutely wasn't interested at 3 1/2. He turned 4 and started preschool and HAD to be potty trained. Fortunately, the teacher was willing to 'work with me' (as in, bringing changes if he had accidents); but the school almost kicked him out twice (from preschool!!!). He is 6 1/2 and still will have pee accidents (but we're forcing him to handle wiping on his own). He's oblivious - has too much to do; doesn't care if he's wet (or poopy either, for that matter). Many have told me it's 'normal' with boys. My hubby assures me that he won't still be doing it in HS (Thank GOD!!!!) - so he's got his own schedule... Let them be until they're ready.

Josie - posted on 10/22/2009

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don't panick...when she's ready she's ready...obviously she's very smart, she know she's getting your attention....dont make it a big deal.....take care

Tonjia - posted on 04/27/2009

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Quit trying. I have 4- 2 of each. The girls are older, they both day trained few months after 3. The older boy refused to even think about it until after he was 4 now the little one is 3 and he doesn't want to wear underwear but will go poop all of the time and pee most of the time in the toilet. When they are ready they will do it. Just keep giving positive encouragement to them. Let them witness the same sex parent go so they get the idea and tell them this is a big kid thing. We have too many things in our lives to stress over, let this one go for now. It will happen but you stress more, when you keep expecting something they are not ready for. All children are different. Don't let other parents influence the way you think of your child or your self as a parent.

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why is it some rule that every kid is suppose to be potty trained before they turn 3??? I think everyone is different. My Philip is 3 and going on 4 months, and he still wears pullups, and when I set him on the potty chair, he won't go. well, I am tired of worrying about it. He will learn, one of these days. Just keep encouraging, but don't become upset about it. Tell her what she is doing right, and when she sits on it, reward her, wether she goes or not. I don't think kids should get in trouble for not going, on the potty after 3. They just need more time.

Tamera - posted on 03/25/2009

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My daughter was 19 months when she decided to go poo in the toilet. She's 27 months now, and we go back and forth with peepee. Some days she goes on the potty and one day she will have an accident. I try to be as patient as possible and always praise her when she goes on the potty. She prefers her own potty chair that sits on the floor. I think the big potty is somewhat frightening, she has fallen off when trying to get off a couple times. Even if I put a pullup on during the day, I still try to remind her to tell me when she has to go, and get her to a toilet. Keep at it, and be patient.

Tonya - posted on 03/24/2009

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Well I have a 5 & 6 year old boys at the age of 46 --I can tell you they didn't want to potty train--they both were 3 to 4 before they would--however my older son did at 15 months---so wait till they are really--and don't use any thing--no pull ups or panties--kids don't like wee wee on them---they will train in a day--you just have to have the potty in the room with them--and keep watch--it works!!!!

Cathy - posted on 03/20/2009

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I felt the same with my second daughter.  She had a talk with my husband and they decided that when she was a big girl she would go to the toilet.  They decided her 3rd birthday was the day for wearing undies..I thought Oh boy I am going to be in a serviced apartment with a toddler peeing all over the floor(on holidays)  but she had 2 or 3 accidents and that was with her portable potty seat breaking.  I purchased a new toilet step seat while away and she has rarely had an accident since.  3 weeks later she decided no nappies at night and that was done too.



Strongly recommend waiting until they are ready.  Definitely talk about it and give it a go/  My first daughter it was going to Daycare at 2years and 8 months, for 2 days a week for the first time.  She saw all the kids and a month later wanted to do it herself.  We made a sticker chart and after 3 weeks we no longer needed the chart and she was trained.  With in a few weeks night as well. 



 



Both my girls took and interest at 2 and we had a lot of hit and miss in between I just took their lead and didn't fuss. Also gave them the opportunity to feel wet in the summer months and know what it is all about.  Staying home was the hardest part for my second daughter as we had to take her sister to school every morning so we couldn't just hang around.



 



good luck! it is such an achievement when it is done..

Judith - posted on 02/15/2009

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I think for my kids they were afraid of the sensation of 1) sitting on the toilet 2) peeing without the security of a diaper/pull up. So I had them go in the shower at first.  Until they got used to peeing without something on.   To coax them on to the toilet, I started a surprise bag.  They get to pull something out of the bag everytime the use the toilet.  Little prizes for peeing (candy or special treat), and a toy (matchbox car or plastic jewlry) for pooping.   Anyway it seems to be incentivizing them.  So far so good and only a few accidents.



Good Luck!

Shelly - posted on 02/09/2009

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My daughter will be 3 in 2 months. When she soils her pull up she takes off her pants & pull up.  She has gotten to where she wants to run around the house naked. Last week after her bath she took off naked & I caught her squating & got her to run to the potty & she did it...she pottied for the 1st time. I praised her & clapped for her & we "high fived." I put a chart up on the bathroom cabinet door by her potty & she gets to put a sticker on it every time she uses the potty. Today about 30-45 minutes after she ate she told me her belly was full & then she said it hurt. I asked her if she wanted to go try to poo poo in the potty & she said "yes" & she did it!!!! We  have had success about 3 times with her pee peeing several months ago & then she started to fight when I would try to sit her on the potty.  Hopefully, we are on the right track now & she will  be pretty much trained by her birthday. Good luck to you all with your potty adventures!!!

Kathleen - posted on 02/06/2009

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one month after her third birthday our daughter just started using the potty-- we had been talking about it, and trying when she felt ready to since she was about 2.5 years-- our experience and many of my friends is its best to let it go and she'll do it -- you'll be shocked how quick and easy it is when she decides it's time... good luck-- at any rate, she is right on track in my mind, not late at all.

Suzanne - posted on 01/31/2009

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The worst thing you can do is to push her where she does not want to go. During the day put her panties on only(unless your in the car and running an errand then use pullups). Let her see some videos about toilet training and then introduce her to her own little potty. As long as you give in and put her diaper on she will return to that comfort zone. Just remember that she will have accidents in the beginning and that is ok. Dont punish or scold just explain that she needs to use her potty and take her to it and let her sit on it throughout the day so she can tell that it is not something that will harm her. It is just her fear of the unknown. Most of all be patient, encouraging, and loving at all times. If all else fails she will eventually begin going when SHE is ready.

Pamela - posted on 01/31/2009

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Every child is different. My daughters were both PT by the age of two; but my granddaughter was not at all concerned until she was past three. It didn't really bother her even when she was soiled. But, when she decided to start going on the potty, she was ready and trained very quickly.

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