Need advice on sibling rivalry

Kim - posted on 06/16/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I am 42 with 2 boys ages 11 months and 2 years 8 months. I am feeling a little stressed lately because they are starting to fight with each other more often. The older one will push on the little one because the baby is becoming more mobile and wants everything big brother has. I feel like I'm constantly consoling the baby and scolding my 2 year old. I'm guessing this will eventually work itself out as they both get a little bigger. However, it is driving me crazy at the moment. Anyone have any suggestions?

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Michelle - posted on 07/13/2010

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Try sitting with them when they play and encouraging them to share nicely. Perhaps ask your older son to show his younger brother how to do things as it may make him feel more important and less jealous. Of course you need to teach your older son that pushing his brother around is wrong but, at the same time, you need to ensure that he's not just getting negative attention and his brother getting positive, as that will just make the jealousy worse. Good luck.

Jane - posted on 06/28/2010

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also, you need to ask yourself what you would do if he were doing this at school or in a park to someone who isn't his brother. i imagine you'd intervene so do the same at home w/his brother.

Jane - posted on 06/26/2010

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it's not going to work itself out. you have to get on your 2 yr old about it; timeouts, losing toys until he earns them back, no books at bedtime, for example. talk to him about being a brother and being in a family, being kind, how it hurts and scares his brother when he does what he does. how you know he is a good kid and he needs to behave all of the time. he is old enough, he is doing it on purpose and he needs to stop doing it.
good luck.

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