pregnant at 36

Elena - posted on 07/07/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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Hi! My boyfriend really wants to have a baby (he has none and i have 2, ages 5 and 7). I will be 36 at the end of the summer. I would love to have a child with him, but i'm feeling a lil nervous about my age, seeing that even if i did get pregnant right away, i would be close to 37 years old by the time the baby was born. Any thoughts or suggestions ot experiences anyone want to throw at me to help alleviate some anxiety about my age? Would really appreciate it!

Thanks!

Elena

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Jill - posted on 08/25/2010

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i had my 1st at 36 and my last at 42... the one in between was at 39.. and am considering 1 more.... i was not mature enough to handle kids when i was younger .... although i wish i did start alittle earlier cuz i would love to have some more...

Michelle - posted on 07/13/2010

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I had my first daughter at 32, the second at 35 and now, at age 41, I'm pregnant with my third (I wasn't originally going to have a third but, like you, am now in a relationship with a man who doesn't have children). The only difference between my pregnancy now and the other 2 is that I get tired a little quicker. I also have to see a consultant as i'm classified as an "old mum" and they like to fuss over things like that. The benefit of that of course is that I get 2 extra scans so more chances to see my baby before she's born.

So, if you really want another baby then go for it and don't worry about your age! Good luck.

Cj - posted on 07/13/2010

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I was 37 when I gave birth to my first child and almost 41 when I gave birth to my second and are both very healthy. Don't worry about your age. Most likely, you'll talk to a genetic counselor who will determine your odds of having a child with Down's Syndrome and other genetic anomalies. At 40, I had the same odds as a 30-year-old but it differs from one baby to the next.

Jane - posted on 07/10/2010

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if we were 20 yrs younger, we'd have had a lot more. but i'm grateful for the three we are blessed with. my husband is such an amazing father, i am so blessed to have him and am so glad that our kids have a dad who wanted them so much and loves them endlessly.

Jane - posted on 06/24/2010

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we got pregnant when i was 37, had her at 38, then pregnant at 39, had her at 40, now at 41 and will have him just two months before i turn 42.
the pre-screening tests at 12 weeks for any special needs the baby may have can be a bit nerve racking but other than that, i've had healthy, un-eventful pregnancies. you also get more ultrasounds after you turn 35 which can be fun. and as far as the pre-screenings went, once they factor in all the tests (blood test, ultrasound and family histories), i tested as a 20 yr old.

Sherry - posted on 04/29/2010

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I got pregnant at 41 and gave birth at 42, natural birth, no problems. Don't worry about your age!!!!

Barbara - posted on 10/13/2009

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I HAD MY LAST 2 CHILDREN AT AGE 37 AND 39 AND BECAME GRANDMA AT 38 AND 39 . THEY DO KEEP ME YOUNG AND FULL OF ENERGY THEY ARE NOW IN KINDERGARTEN 1ST AND 3RD GRADE AND WE ARE RAISING THE 7 YEAR OLD GRANDCHILD CAUSE HIS MOM HASNT SHOWN INTEREST INHIM I WOULDNT CHANGE ANY OF IT

Elena - posted on 09/02/2009

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Thanks for responding! I just turned 36 last week. My boyfriend would really like to have a child...but our plan is to first buy a house together! We don't live together yet, although we are very serious. We are going to be ready to buy in Feb. Then he wants to start trying. I will be half way to 37 by then!! I appreciate reading yoru responses. It makes me feel not so nervous about the idea. He would REALLY like a child. I have my 2 already and am enjoying the freedom of having a 5 and 7 year old and fear that i am getting a little too comfortable in that freedom to start over. It scares me!! I know that would change the second we conceived though. I would be able to do it and i DO gt excited about the thought of a baby. However, i am sometimes ont he fence about it and flip flop back and forth!!! I wonder if htat is normal, or if the flip flopping means that i shouldnt do it?!?! On a good note though, my kids woulkd both be in school full time by then and it wouldnt be quite as hectic!
Bye for now!!!
p.s. i'm open to more pop talks or advice from people! please post! thx!
Elena

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Hi Elena, I'm with Jeanne. I have just one child, a son I delivered by c-section at 39 years old. He is 14 months now, and we are having a ball. Do you want another child? If you do, go for it! Your body might not bounce back the way it did with the other two - things do tend to sag a bit more when you're older - but it seems a small price to pay to have a wonderful little human around to enjoy!

Jeanne - posted on 07/17/2009

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Hi Elena, I was two months shy of my 36th birthday when I had my daughter and I was 38 1/2 when I had my son. Both children were born healthy, happy and strong and are thriving. My daughter is now 4 going on 40 and my boy is 19 months old and I am missing having a baby in the house. If it weren't for the lack of sleep with a baby I'd have another one in a heartbeat. With my daughter I had a really rough time after the delivery and never thought I would have another child. Even though I was older my pregnancy with my son was textbook and even though I wound up having a c-section (he had the cord entwined around his body) but it was an easier time of it. I was released from the hospital less than 48 hours after surgery (most mothers are kept 3 to 4 days post c-section here in Alberta) and I was fully recovered from the c-section in less than a month. So I think it all depends on if you want to have another child or not....I think that is the most important question you have to answer. Good luck and keep us posted.

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