True to Yourself

Susan - posted on 05/10/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I was wondering if anyone has felt conflicted about how to be true to yourself and stand up for yourself without having constant confrontation with your spouse in front of kids? It seems like there is always so much going on it's hard to find time to talk about things so if they don't get said in the moment they fall by the wayside. I personally don't believe it is fair for the bulk of things to fall on the woman in running a family and maintaining a home ... it is very hurtful to me that my hubby has no problem thinking he is being so helpful but has no clue that he "gets to pick and choose" what he does or does not do and when ... and quite honestly when it comes to the house meals etc he does very little ... he is only involved if it is child specific ...I feel like I'm angry and resentful all the time and on overload and snap easily or annoyed all the time. I hate feeling and being this way.

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Lisa Lukawski - posted on 12/18/2009

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I went thru that for years husbands come and go as they please and even when they are home you still have to do it all i used to have to ask him every day to do something i needed, it usually worked but i still had to ask all the time ; its as if they are oblivious how can they not see where to help.....Who knows i was told men arent wired that way and that they would if they could.......But my husband has left me for a old high school flame mid life crisis i guess so now were in divorce.........

Susan - posted on 05/21/2009

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Yeah well the funny part is I know with every fiber of my being if I were working right now ... nothing would change in his taking on more household responsibilities or kids ... and he would not even question if it is right or fair.

Belinda - posted on 05/21/2009

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I have to say that when i read this it sounded just like I was reading something that I wrote myself. I am very defensive with my hubby. I stay home & he works so he feels that I should be responsible for the house all by myself. It sometimes make me feel that he is belittling me for not contributing financially$$$$ to this household. Honestly he makes the money & i see too it that the bills get paid & we have the things that we need. Which seems to make him think that I spend all of the money NOT. Just try to take a moment and make him realize how important you are to everything around you. Good luck & Maybe I will talk to you again.

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