anyone in tha same boat as me

Nikita - posted on 03/24/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )




i had a misscarrige on 22nd of january 2010, totally cut me up and near destroyed my relationship but were back on track kinda, i have just found out that i am pregnant again and finding the emotions quite up and down at the moment, i am so scared of losing tha baby i know it only a few weeks but im am happy and sad at the same time is that normal.


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Destiny - posted on 03/07/2012




Hi may name is Destiny and I am 16 years old. This is my story...

On October 5 of last year, My boyfriend and I found out i was pregnant. For a few week, we had arguments on what should we do. My boyfriend swear his first child is going to be a boy. And i swear my first child is going to be a girl. The last week of october we made the decision of, if he didn't have an job by the time i was 3-months pregnant (nov- Dec) i was going to get an abortion.

November 13, my boyfriend Muller, was admitted to the hospital on life support. November 16, the doctors pronounced my boyfriend was brain damaged and wasn't responding. He was pronounced dead later on that day. November 18 was the last day, i saw my boyfriend laying on bed 11 on lifesupport, some what alive. That night i felt my baby move.

On December 1, i had an miscarriage. December 2, was my boyfriend's Muller funeral. I broke down in tease i wanted to go with my baby and my boyfriend. i think of them everyday of how my life would be like if they were still here. In Feb i would of been about 5 0r 6 months (Due-date June 18, 2012). i was having a boy. I guess Muller asked God to help my baby hang on a little more longer, to prove to me that that our first child is a boy. I guess he wanted our son to be with him, and asked God to make his wishes happen.

May my baby and my boyfriend muller rest in peace

Lauren - posted on 03/05/2011




Emotions are gonna be everywhere!! I know my Husbands & Mine are. We found out were we pregnant (7weeks along) we were kinda nervous, already having 2 boys and having another? We were shocked to find out so after a day or so we started to get excited until i started spotting, so then we were worried (not wanting to get attached). Its just normal to wanna be happy & sad at the same time. So, we put it off on telling any1 and a week later (just this morning) we lost the baby. I thought i was gonna be ok but as soon i layed down w/my husband holding me I cryed my butt off....I know how hard it must be to feel this way but all we can do is go day by day & hope everything turns out the way we want. Good Luck!!

Charity - posted on 07/12/2010




I too had a miscarriage on July 13, 2007 and then I got pregnant in Oct 2007. I gave birth on July 4, 2008. I still have roller coaster moments, because I'm excited and happy celebrating my son's birthday then the next week is the anniversary of my lost baby. I was worried the entire pregnancy. The Drs weren't able to find a reason as to why I miscarried, which left me wondering what went wrong and if it would happen again. Don't worry, you aren't experiencing anything that isn't normal for a woman who has been through one of the biggest losses you could possibly experience!!

Allison - posted on 04/07/2010




I had a miscarriage on Feb. 19th, 2010. We decided to go ahead and try again. I haven't tested yet because I want to wait a week after my missed period in case I have another early miscarriage (I don't want to get excited or attached) but I already know I am due to the cramps and the twinges that I had with my first child and with my lost child...I just know, and instead of being excited i'm scared, nervous, and not at all happy. It's hard to open yourself up to the happiness and excitement that most pregnant women feel now that you've experienced the worst. I don't know that any woman who has had a miscarriage will ever be without worry because we've experienced a loss first hand...we've found that it CAN happen to us. I guess the best any of us can do is hold onto hope and count each day our babies are thriving inside of us as a blessing and take it day by day. Then hopefully after 9 months all that worry will be worth the bundle in our arms! Good luck to you Nikita, you will be in my prayers.

Natasha - posted on 03/29/2010




I had a miscarriage in July of 2008 then was pregnant again 2 weeks later. it was really scary but it also helped me deal with my loss. I hope that you can get through this hard time and begin to enjoy being pregnant! All the best!!

Chelle - posted on 03/27/2010




i had a loss in dec 07. i then fell pregnant in aug 08 and gave birth to a healthy little girl in may 2009. im now pregnant again, 31 weeks along due in may 2010.

its totaly normal to feel the way you do. even though after my loss i had a healthy child, when i fell pregnant again i still worry ill loose far pregnancy is going well :).

Joey - posted on 03/24/2010




I had a miscarriage in July 2009 and got pregnant in October - my emotions and fears have been a roller coaster the entire time. I am now 21 weeks and still scared daily. I hope things go well well for you and your emotions get better. Just remember to remain positive - stress is not a good thing for you right now.

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