doing it by myself

Sacha - posted on 10/13/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )

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ok thing is...i have noe idea how all these single mums can complain about doing things on there own....in april 2011 my bois turn 3,,2,,,nd 1....nd im hear by myself while there father is inncarcirated....at first i thought it wuld b really difficult....but if u get each babie intu there own routine then u can manage one by one....its very easy now...nd i have noe problem with looking after three bois under three all by myself....my favourite qoattion is never give up.....

anyway my eldest son was toilet trained about 2 mths ago for four wks he didnt wear a single nappy nd didnt make a accident but now some reason he has just gotten lazy nd wnts nappys again now how du i get him outta tht gain....

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Monica - posted on 10/20/2010

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Completely find that to be an insult to the single mothers who are having a hard time. I'm a single mother of a 5 year old, I don't complain but I know damn well every situation is different. My son has ADHD and ODD, so there are days that I just want to crawl up in a ball. SO before you go judging people remember everyones home and family situations are different and it may be the ones who are truly struggling who complain or what i would call vent about things sometimes. Isn't that the point of this support site. Not give an opinion but support other mothers!

Melanie - posted on 10/14/2010

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i totally agree on your single parenting part,,, Im also a single mum of a 11, 10,8,5,4,and a 17 month old and due to have my 7th in 7.2weeks...... and closest family or friend i have is 1500km away, as long as there is a routine everything is pretty much settled but once the routine mucks up it does get chaos a bit.... all kids are different, does he actually wet the nappy or just wanna wear it maybe for security/comfort.... I put my 5 year old daughter back in night nappies 2 years ago cos she kept wetting the bed, She is still in night nappies.... drs dont do anything ubtill the child is about 8 and then if still wetting they do some tests, i not sure what tests, but im not worried cos he isnt.......... Maybe just let him wear night nappies, and praise the "BIG BOY" compliments to him through the day....

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Grace - posted on 10/19/2010

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Everyone is different and every situation is different. We all make our individual choices, therefore, we are responsible for all the choices we make. To jnegatively judge others based on how you're coping based on your individual situation is not exactly fair. Some people have more support and resources than others. Unfortunately, there are many who may not be as fortunate. If you're doing and coping very well in your special situation, kudos and job well done for you. I think it is important to have empathy to those who may not be in as good situation. This site is based on the premise that all mothers regardless of background, status etc... all share the same blessing - having children. It is also important to remember that not one shoe fits all, we have different sizes. Even the child experts would tell you that there is no fool proof way to raise a perfect child. There is no such thing anyway. Every child is different and special in their own way. Some take on to routines quite fast while some take their time which is quite ok. . I have been a single mother for so many years and I think I'm one of the lucky ones because my kids are truly amazing. We all go through the challenges of parenting, no matter how perfect we think our children are, there is no denying like us grown ups, they too have their moments. Times are becoming tougher esp for single parents and I think it is uplifting to know that you're not alone in this world, that there is a community of caring single mothers who understand support you through all your struggles.

Teresa - posted on 10/14/2010

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I don't think most mothers complain about raising a child along per-say but its all in the reasons why they are raising there kids on their on. I don't know any single parent the can honestly say that everyday is easy. Everyone deals with things differently and some have it harder than others. We all need a time and place to vent lord knows we don't anyone to take it out on there kids. Im glad that you've are doing so well and hope that you continue to stay positive and focused.

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I think that for some people its just harder to do things on their own. I mean I honestly love being a single mother. I have an 8yr,6yr and 8 month old. I have had a few off and on relationships some serious some not so serious but I love raising my kids the way I want them raised with out someone else s opinion! LOL!
question? did he go back to them when the father got incarcerated? When my daughter was 3 she went back to her bottle because of a some bad things that happened in our lives. Her doctor told me that it was just her way of coping.

Sacha - posted on 10/14/2010

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yer he still goes tu the toilet all the tym but he just wnts tu keep wearing nappies even they he not doing anything in them....nd omg i feel for you....thts alot of kids....

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