Any pro spanking moms?

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Hello, I would like to chat with other like minded moms or dads who are pro spanking.

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Allison - posted on 03/24/2010

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I am also pro spanking...there is a BIG difference between beating a child and spanking a child. Mine (both girls 7 & 4) get spanked..I was spanked....I think the entire Generation X was spanked and I do believe that we are all normal, well-adjusted adults because of it. Many of today's parents are afraid to discipline their children for fear of being charged with Child Abuse....THERE IS A MAJOR DIFFERENCE!!! And America is going to Hell in a Handbasket because of it!!

Jennifer - posted on 03/23/2010

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I am pro-spanking, "Spare the rod, spoil the child." I am a single mom of 3 boys, and I spanked all of them. I wanted them to know I was boss, and not worry about them getting wild or physical with me when they got to be bigger than me.

Angela - posted on 03/27/2010

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I just have to reply to this thread.
I have twin 3 year olds, and I have been known to swat a bottom when necessary. And I work for Children and Youth Services, so I know what abuse really is- a good old fashioned over the knee spanking is acceptable. I recommend you all check your state Laws, as some states have actually outlawed corporal punishment. And I am glad to see that none of you will be raising the next spoiled brat who thinks they deserve the world handed to them!

Renee - posted on 03/23/2010

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I have to say I am pro spanking , if you get control of them when they are little then when they get older you don't have to worry about them running the streets and getting into trouble with the law.

Kara - posted on 03/23/2010

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Hello there...i am a mother of 3 and feel that today the kids are becoming out of control and we have lost control so pro spanking?? I say...YES!!!!! LOL nice to meet u..



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Tina - posted on 11/27/2017

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Hi my name Tina I pro spanking mom to I do spank on bare bottom would like to chat wit other mom tinabaker750@yahoo thank u

Mackenzie - posted on 09/26/2016

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I do not believe that physical pain is the right way to discipline a child. I, personally, am only expecting. I've never raised a child, but I firmly believe that punishing a child for doing something wrong, especially a young child, simply scares them. I don't want my child to be afraid of me.

Jodi - posted on 05/10/2016

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No, she posts that 4 are step children (her husband's), 4 are adopted because her sister died, 1 is hers (obviously from a previous relationship ) and 2 she had and the one on the way are with her husband. I'm just confused as to how the 4 year old he had with his wife who died from breast cancer only 2 1/2 years ago and the 4 year old she has are both his.

Jodi - posted on 05/10/2016

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No, Molly, I can't see your baby's details. I just checked her profile because I was trying to keep up with the story, that's all. It was a little confusing and I'm just trying to clarify. She has also listed all of her kids ages in her posts, and because there are so many, I think we are all bit confused. Possibly even her!!

Jodi - posted on 05/10/2016

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You will notice that Kienna (stepdaughter) is 4 years 1 week, while Julianna (according to her a child she had with her husband) is 4 years and 5 months.

Jodi - posted on 05/10/2016

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Her step kids are all the ones with the K names.

Cecelia, Emily, Abigail and Tiana were her sister's kids.

Hers are Sienna, Julianna and Ariel.

Jodi - posted on 05/10/2016

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I'm a little confused, Sarah, because you mention here that the youngest two special needs children you had together with your husband.But the youngest two are 4 and 10 months....and yet your husband's youngest child with his wife, who died 2 1/2 years ago is also 4. That makes no sense.

Kay - posted on 05/10/2016

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Hello. My husband and I have three boys 15, 13, and 10. We are big believers in spanking. For smaller offenses they take a trip over my lap for a hand spanking. For bigger offenses they get the belt while paying over the side of the bed. Would like to chat with other like minded parents. My Yahoo IM is kayburns37

Sarah - posted on 05/10/2016

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My stepchildren biological mother passed away from breastcancer when my youngest stepdaughter was 1 1\2. Anyway, my husband said he and his first wife hit the kids. But we stopped hitting now.

Jodi - posted on 05/10/2016

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You may have to look at other measures for your special needs kids. It won't be a one-size fits all discipline regime in your house, that's for sure!!! Have you considered some professional advice on discipline in your home based on the number of children with special needs, the fact you have a blended family, the number of children in your home who have suffered the trauma of the loss of their mother (not to mention the absence of their father), and the struggles you have with all of this?

You also have to consider the wishes of the biological mother of the step children......if you were the stepmother of my biological children, I'd have you charged for hitting them.

Sarah - posted on 05/10/2016

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OK, me and my husband discussed stopping, and we are going to. We are just to use timeout and taking toys\privileges.

Jodi - posted on 05/10/2016

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So your husband has no special needs kids? That's a relief by the sounds of it!! However, I would suggest you refrain from spanking any of them - the ones you spank may resort to violence themselves, especially if they feel others are not getting spankings. Firstly, you are still teaching violence to the children who are special needs and don't understand the difference. And you are also creating some inequity amongst the children.

Jodi - posted on 05/10/2016

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Oh, so you have 7 children of your own (4 of whom you adopted recently from your dead sister.....) and then 4 stepchildren. Right.

Is this a different sister you are talking about?

And if you and your husband spank your husband's children, why don't you spank yours? That doesn't seem very fair.

Jodi - posted on 05/09/2016

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Possibly, Sarah E. is wondering about your 7 & 8 year old that you mention here - according to your profile, you don't have a 7 or 8 year old.

Sarah - posted on 05/09/2016

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I don't it my sister does:) She has a 7 year old and a baby. She spanks the 7 year old bare bottom with her brush over her knees. When she is in public two extremely hard smacks on her bottom clothed. And her dad is a big man and pulls her over his knees, bare butt, and spanks with a thick leather belt. I have seen her getting spanked. I also have 4, 6, 7 and 8 year old stepdaughters who my husband and I both spank the same way as my sister and brother in law. The kids scream really loudly, and we feel bad but know it has to be done. The spankings are a last resort though. We use timeout and taking things away first. The special needs kids (2 are mine and 2 we have together) just get time-outs and taking privileges.

Monika - posted on 11/19/2015

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hello i am a new mom here from egrmany with 2 children and woudl like to tak with other moms about spankings.
feel free to email me at:
strengmonika@yahoo.de

Kelly - posted on 08/11/2015

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Yes I do spank my daughter's age 14 and 11. The 11 year olds are twins. I only do it if necessary as I handle the discipline in the house.

Stephanie - posted on 05/16/2015

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I never really spanked my kids, now they are 17 and 21 and believe the world owes them everything!my husband and i ( their step father for 16 years). had several disagreements early In our marriage due to our view on spanking, i won out in the end. Now, they respect no one! I feel as though i made a mistake and should have let him handle the punishment. We also have a 9 year old, who has never been spanked, he often does not listen to his father and my husband gets frustrated and raises his voice, doesnt yell or demean though. But, all i have to do is firmly say Michael David listen to your father, and he will do whatever it is that my husband has been trying to get him to do. So since i have " reprogrammed" my husbands thinking he has never even threaghtened to spank him. Have i made a serious mistake, I dont want him to grow up like the other 2. And just as a side note, we grounded, took away privileges, and threaghtened spankings on the older ones, nothing ever seemed to phase them. Is there anything we can do now to change their behavior or is it just to late?

Brooklyn - posted on 03/18/2015

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To Caroline, yes I feel the same way, I want to run back in their room and comfort them after a spanking. However now that they are 11, 13, & 15, my husband usually gives them their paddlings.Somehow seeing them grow in age has made me a softiee when it comes to delivering a good spanking even when I know how much one of them may need it. In my own defense, just know my 3 girls are very dramatic prior, during & after a spanking. I was once the same and now I see what I put my own mother through. However once I began going soft my husband and I agreed to begin the old "wait in your room until dad gets home"...this is like sentencing MYSELF TO THEIR SPANKINGS! Lol! I laugh, but it is so true. Listening to my babies wail, cry & plea for my sympathy to "not tell dad" is horrific. All I want to do is to hold them and promise I won't. But it is knowing my likelihood of making such a bad move that forces me to automatically text or call my husband and let him know he has a daughter to discipline when he gets home. This locks me into their fate with the paddle and keeps me from messing up whatever lesson one of my girls needs to learn.
Ps, I do still spank as well, for my 11 year old I still don't have too much of an issue with pulling her panties down for the paddle, but my two older girls for the most part I find myself just giving the occasional 3 to 4 swats to a still fully clothed fanny for disrespect or back talk, given on the spot and used more as an embarrassment tactic & as a reminder of what's to come if they keep it up.

Sandra - posted on 11/26/2014

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Yes, I have let Deddie after I have spank her bare bottom just lay across my lap and cry.

Sandra - posted on 11/26/2014

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I began by thinking spanking was wrong and abused a child. This was a wrong appraoch to take. I did change my attitude toward spanking. Now days, I take out a chair and sit down. I take my daughter over my lap. Take down her little panties and swat a few times.

In my option, a spanking is utterly rendered useless unless those pants come down.

Cara - posted on 09/13/2014

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Moms,

Look at the research. Research shows that physical punishment (spanking) contributes negative to the development of children.

Maybe you turned out fine because you were spanked, but you could have turned out better had you not been spanked.

Do you feel like spanking is the only thing that works? Do some research. There are other, more effective strategies that don't involve hitting. Doesn't that sound GREAT?!

If you want an excuse to hit your child....go ahead with all your reasons why spanking works. Just think about what kind of person you are that you have to argue reasons FOR hitting a child. That's just wrong.

Amanda - posted on 07/07/2014

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nope I use to spank but am not teaching my daughter its okay to hit when done something wrong.. I do time outs for minor offenses and longer time outs for major offenses... For minor offense its 6 mins cuz shes 6 yrs old and major offenses she'll be in the time out till I let her out

Natalie - posted on 06/29/2014

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My parents never used any form of violence in my upbringing, or actually punishments of any sort at all. I grew up with very good understanding and respect for authority, never been in trouble with the law or anything like that, was actually a straight A+ student all through my master's degree. Never had a situation with my own daughter (now 6) where I felt like I needed violence to manage her behaviour. Would never accept if another adult person tried to hit me, so the only situation I can raise my hand at someone is self-defence.

Foxtrotter - posted on 04/24/2014

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Definitely NO! I imagine I'd feel angry, scared, and powerless if someone older and bigger than me abused me physically. I have always used other forms of discipline, but not corporal punishment. I'm not saying that what works for my family should work for everyone. I just don't believe in physical punishment.

Theresa - posted on 06/09/2010

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I am a pro spanking mom however I have limits and rules that help the situation stay under control. I give my children a warning the 123 but I never back down, I am consistent, if I get to three they get a spanking; most of the time by the time I get to 2 they have complied. I have a three lick rule that I don’t break regardless of the offense and it helps me keep a line drawn so I know I am disciplining not abusing my children. I have to admit I struggled with this in the beginning with my first child. When he was three he had hit his little sister in the head with a toy and I popped his butt and told him not to hit her. He looked at me and said, "Mommy you are not supposed to hit people." So I cringed...Was I reinforcing the behavior by spanking him? But as time went on I realized that there are times when spanking is needed to show I mean business. I am now a single mother of four and am proud to say my kids are well behaved. I use spanking when it is needed but I am not reluctant when it is.

Gina - posted on 06/09/2010

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YES. YES. YES. YES. YES. I am a pro spanking mom. I was spanked and I'm still alive, smart, happy and healthy. me and my kids' fathers have very bad tempers and are very stubborn and it really comes out in the kids to. and as a single mom of 3 who also babysits 4 other kids and all of them range from 1 to 6 years of age I need them to know that I am boss. I only spank my own but it shows the other that I do mean business and not to mess with me. As long as the line between discipline and abuse isn't crossed spank away.

Nareeda - posted on 06/07/2010

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i am a pro spanking mom, i am a single 23 yr old with 3 kids (2 boys nearly 6&7 1 girl 3) and i think if i didn't spank my child when they deserved it then my house would be a horrible place to live. the other day i was at the shops and my daughter threw a temper tantrum and through herself on the floor, i gave her to the count of 3 to get up and hold my hand or i was going to smack her bottom, i ended up having to smack her and i was abused by a lady telling me i was a horrible mother, yet on the other hand praised by an elderly lady saying it was good to see young mothers disciplining their children.. so i say "YES"

Jen - posted on 06/05/2010

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I am a pro spanking mom as well. I'm a single mother of two. I've got a 2 year old daughter who gets spanked when she needs to be. She knows when she does wrong so she needs a form of punishment that will show her that she's not in control and it will also keep her out of harms way. My other daughter is only 5 monthes so she has a while before she gets that sort of punishment. I'm glad that I'm not the only one out there that is a pro spanking mom. lol

Rotacha - posted on 05/20/2010

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Definetly a pro spanking mom!! It's biblical!! The bible says "spare the rod and spoil the child", now that doesn't mean beat your child til their near death (lol). My daughter is 10 now, but when she was a toddler I definetly popped her hands, or legs when she got out of control or disobeyed. Again I have to reference the bible, "Train up a child in the way he shall go, and when he is. old he shall not depart from it." With that said, I have spanked her in years. Now, all I have to do is raise my voice or use a certain tone and she gets right in line.

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I'm definitely a pro spanking mom. My girls got it more than a few times when they were young, first with my hand and as they got older and still acted up the belt was used to teach them a lesson. Sure helped! they are happy and healthy young ladies now.

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Hello!! Thank GOD you all are pro spanking moms as well. Kids today have no respect for authority and they are getting away with way too much. I have heard too many arguments that it hurts their self esteem but I don't agree. I was spanked (a lot) and my self esteem is fine. I spank my son when needed but I am honestly afraid to do so because people get too nosy and all it takes is one phone call. My son knows at home anything goes but out in public I am more reserved.

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