Is home schooling damaging to a child's social development?

Tina - posted on 03/07/2010 ( 12 moms have responded )

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My daughter is home schooled and I am wondering if she should go back to regular school....

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Chet - posted on 02/08/2014

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It's really about the needs of the particular child. School can sometimes be damaging to a child's social development. Anything that's a poor fit can be damaging.

Michelle - posted on 02/18/2011

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No, as long as she's active in other areas, such as church, athletics, girl scouts, volunteering. Athletics have year round competitive groups...they're not just available in school settings.
I know lots of homeschooled kids and they are just like most kids their age...with a touch more maturity.
Also, you can do both--homeschool her at home for part of the day, and send her to regular school for things like band, art, and other subjects.
My daughter goes to private school, so if you think she must go back to regular school, then I'd look at private schools if you can afford them. I'd homeschool my kid before sending her to public school, thats for sure.

Kekua - posted on 03/07/2010

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I wouldn't really say damaging per se, but it definitely does affect them. If you make efforts to keep them social then it's not so bad but if not, she's not going to get the experiences she needs to learn how to be in the world socially on her own. And we humans are a group animal, we get lonely. See if you can find social groups for home-schooled kids or something along those lines. Check moms club.

Mandy - posted on 03/07/2010

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i think that home schooling can keep a child from reaching complete social behavior. they need the surroundings of kids their age and the enrichment of knowing how they are doing as far as grades and learning. i know a friend that her sisters were all home schooled and now having no interaction from other people has left them hermits and not wanting to leave home, all over 18...

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Rebekah - posted on 02/24/2011

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i was home schooled for most of schooling growing up and my mom just had us involved with other home schoolers. there are home schooling groups out there where you go on field trips together and a lot of other things. i never felt out of the loop when it came to socializing. i've always had tons of friends and done tons of things. as for an education, my older sister is now in her last year of nursing school and i am also in college. i don't feel less educated

Michelle - posted on 02/19/2011

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I home schooled my daughter in grade 3. I found it was hard for her to interact with other children, she didnt pay attention like she should have in a regular school and she became more attached to me so it was harder to go anywhere. I personally think they need the interaction with other kids there age.....other people and kids in general this is where they will learn their socializing skills.

Michelle - posted on 02/18/2011

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@ Amanda...I don't know where you went to school, but PE is so not a big part of public schools here in Texas. I don't think more than 2 years is required to graduate...and in my daughter's school, they only have it every other day, not every day.

Nadia - posted on 02/07/2011

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Amanda, I totally understand! My sister has been strugggling with weight and so have i... not as much as her, but ya, the physical activity was almost nothing when i was homeschooled. I learned a lot about how to budget money and go grocery shopping cuz i always saw my mom do that, but i missed out on so many other things!

JuLeah - posted on 02/07/2011

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Keep her in sports, on teams, let her take classes in art or dance or .... playdates with local kids ... she will be fine.
Is she complaining? Homeschool is not the best choice for all families. I am sure you have seen the parents that just buy the work books and call it done. It takes so much to be a good teacher, so much. But, if that part is good, don't worry about the social stuff

Amanda - posted on 02/06/2011

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I wasnt even homeschooled for as long as Nadia but I can def relate. it was hard socializing with everybody once i went back to public school. I cant even count the number of times i was asked if i lived under a rock! And on top of it, i had put weight on cuz lots of the physical activity that is incorporated in public school i missed out on.

Nadia - posted on 02/06/2011

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Me and my sister were homeschooled for 4 years... I was grades3,4,5,6... my sister 2,3,4,5. Academically it was great; we were on average 3 grades ahead of where we should have been, but socially it was awful! When we went back to public school we had no clue how to fit in with other kids. We didn't know the "cool" thing to say, the "stylish clothes", nor the "hip" music. It was very difficult to make friends... and though I eventually learned my grade 10/11 how to fit in, my sister (now 24) still is incredibly socially awkward. She has maybe 1 actual freind, never goes out, had never had a boyfreind and has incredibly low self esteem. I'm not saying every child will be like this, i'm just telling you how we aare because we were homeschooled. They need to be able to hang out with other children their own age. So if you really want to homeschool her, i think that's great (she will have a much better education) but if its financially possible, put her into some sort of activity. Dance, music, soccer, ice scating... something where she can make freinds and meet other kids her age.

Terra - posted on 03/08/2010

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If you think she will accomplish more homeschooling go for it. She still needs contact with other kids thought; having her on a sovccer team or in a dance class of some sorts would help with that. I know people who have grown up to be awesome sociable people and they were homeschooled... just home wasnt their only place to be. they did a few outside activities each and are really smart as well.

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