Kids are out of control!

Jennifer - posted on 05/18/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )




My kids are 9, almost 7, 5, 2 and 4 months. My older 3 have been through a lot, but now they are out of control! My 7 year old daughter acts out at school all the time, none of them will do a thing i ask, and destroy everything. Although my roommate is A LOT stricter than I am, they refuse to follow simple instructions like.... do not leave the room unless you need to go to the bathroom..... My roommates yell at them all the time for this. Or my sons way of acting out is peeing behindthe toilet instead of in it. My 9 year old does things like call 911 if I forget to grab my cell before I go to the bathroom then she blames it on my younger 3 and says they did it. Thats just some of it. I have tried time outs, spanking, taking their few toys away for a while....Im gonna get kicked out with nowhere to go....What do I do?


Rebecca - posted on 05/18/2010




i hate to say it but maybe you should try some king of counseling. they might be acting out for they have some hidden issues from things that have happened in the past. you can try one on one counseling or even family counseling. sometimes it really helps.


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Eugenie - posted on 05/22/2010




Yes Jennifer, do try counseling and soon before the younger children starts understanding what is going on, and join in. All the best!!!

Jennifer - posted on 05/21/2010




Thankyou everyone for the advice. I think I will try the counsoling for all my kids. Its hard to narrow down which one is the worst behavior wise because it like they switch off weeks and at the end all of them act up. So the taking only one at first wont work. I have held my kids in the corner but they scream like im killing them instead of just sitting there thinking about what they did wrong. I have taken all toys and moved them to storage, I even took my tv once but nothing has worked. Im tired of 5 against 1. I am tired of my roommates. I dont want to start the "I wishes" like my kids do....But I do, I wish they would just be good. When i just have the 3 little ones its ok during the day, my son still only listens to me half the time, but its some kind of listening, when the older two get home though thats when it gets hard to handle. I will try the counsoling though. Thank you for your advice.

Jennifer - posted on 05/20/2010




Wow this is tough. Well my daughter whom is 7 use to do this for a while and I had her in counseling for a couple of months until I just could not afford it. Lay the law down, you are the parent and what you says goes! If they do not like it put them in timeout. One minute for their age. They will set bad examples for the younger ones. I also learned to punish my daughter from everything! Television, playi8ng outside, all her toys you name it she was punished. If they will not stay it is not against the law to physically hold them there in time out. I had to do that with my daughter. It breaks your heart but you cannot be homeless. Children are very ungrateful. Hit them (not physically of course) where it hurts. I also use to pack up my daughters toys in a garbage bag and walk it to the car and tell her I was giving them away and until she got her act together would I bring them back into the house. You need to find a means for this to work for them. Even if it is battling with the one who causes the most trouble. When the others see what will happen to them they will cut it out not right away but soon there after.

Jennifer - posted on 05/19/2010




i agree with rebecca, my children acted out awhile after we had been homless and the home setting was not a playful happy setting were we had stayed the counsoling got my kids to open up and communicate better it took awhile but eventually they turned around. also maybe a reward system would help like a treasure box 1x a week if they havent been in big trouble they could earn a prize from the dollar store prize box. i do that i buy 15 dollars worth of 1dollar toys and they earn them if they get timeouts they still dont loose it but if i have to punnish them for homework not beeing done or diffiant attitudes they loose there prize. they work hard now to get them and after awhile of them actually behaving i made it a little harder to get the prizes. there behavior is better and communication is better as well. good luck i hope this helped. jennifer

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