Out of State Child Support HELP

Terry - posted on 02/13/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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For 6 years now my daughters father has been hiding from his support payments by moving out of state. I live in New York and he is in Florida. I call my support agency once a month and they have "filed a violation" but it has done nothing. I can't get any information from Florida Child Support as this would be "a violation of his rights". As far as I know, he has no bank account, no drivers license, and no job. Though I KNOW he must have a job because he has two other children that live with him and he supports them. He is working "off the books" so that I can't have his checks garnished. Shouldn't there be some kind of arrest warrant issued or SOMETHING??? I feel completely helpless and I really need this money. Can it really be that all a dead beat has to do is move to another state and he will never have to be responsible? I need to get aggressive about this but I'm not sure where to even start.

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Theresa - posted on 02/18/2009

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you know what I feel your pain...sometimes I feel like child support is useless...Mine hasn't paid a dime in the 6 years he's owed. He lives locally but the system seems to not care enough. People always told me that he will go to jail or they will come after him but it's BS...he owes about $40,000

Terry - posted on 02/18/2009

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thanks for the advice guys. But I have covered most of this myself. Definately no drivers liscence, no bank account, no "real" job. No way I could ever afford a lawyer or PI. I hve no idea how to find an exact address for him. he rents, does not own his house and as far as i can find is not listed in any phone book. I have no contact with him and never have since he moved. My daughter has never even met him. At this point I'd take the $12,000 he owes me and leave it at that. This is such a hassel. I don't want to chase him for the rest of her life. I give up.

Olivia - posted on 02/17/2009

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if you are looking for his exact address, this is easy.  the world wide web and many of the sites can help yu track him.  have you hired a lawer?  they can check to see if he has a bank account and cashed the checks.  if you think he is getting hard cold cash, hire a PI, i know this is extreme, but desperate measures and needed in desperate times.  also, you can track his address by applying for reverse cell phone look up

Sarah - posted on 02/15/2009

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Does he have to pay through the state and this still happens? I'm in Florida myself and my ex is here too, but he is flying under the radar. He hides everything and cries broke but buys new cars and harleys and you name it. I'm debating on taking him to court but since he hides everything I don't know if it's worth it. The IRS is after him too. He says he'll leave the country if they try to get him. But in FL they pull their drivers's license if they don't pay. I know a guy down here that pays to New York and he wouldn't dare mess with it.

Shorty - posted on 02/15/2009

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My x is also in another state and it doesn't matter where the father/mother lives your local CS office is the only one you should have to deal with they should be contacting the state office where the x is located. all you can do is update the information, (new address, SS#, Driver License#, other childrens school, and last known job information)

his "bill" will add up and in some states yes he can be arrested, you will have to look up the rules for your state.

Keep record of everything also, phone calls you may get, notes, letters, emails, everything. keep it in paper form by year in a fireproof safe,

and just make sure you keep your CS Office up to date with information you have.

Julie - posted on 02/13/2009

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Have you verified through the state if he has a license. If anyone hold a state license of any sort it is public knowledge. You should be able to look up through the state DOL if he carries any license, that way if he does you may be able to place a lein. Do you know if he owns any property? House,lot, any form of Real Estate? Depending on state laws you may be able to put a lein on his property. I live In Washington State, Our policies here are if they get so far behind they do let you get a warrant issued, and they go to jail if the support isn't caught up in a sufficiant amount of time. Online you can look up the state policies usually by looking up the Revised codes. (ours is RCW for revised code of washington)....It might take you longer than using an attorney, but if you don't have the money to hire an attorney, it will get you the same answers an attorney has to look up.

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