Tierra - posted on 01/27/2010 ( 12 moms have responded )
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Im 34 weeks pregnant and just found out the sex of my baby. The day I found out I immediately called my sons dad to give him the news. However every time I called he was not there, or at least thats what they told me. I have called a total of like 6 times in one week and I'm starting to think he has instructed his family to tell me he isnt there. As far as I know he still isnt working so he really has no reason to be so busy everytime I call. Does anyone think Im over reacting or do I have reason to be concerned?
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Sara - posted on 01/29/2010
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My son's father went back and forth the entire time I was pregnant. He came to one dr appointment when we found out the sex. I didn't see or hear from him from February 09 until April 30th of 09 when i called him to tell him i was in labor. He seemed very excited so I thought he would turn a corner on being responsible. My father had told me all along that sometimes for men it doesn't become real until the baby is in their arms because they don't have the attachment and stuff that we get by carrying the baby for 40 weeks. Well .... we saw him for the 3 days in the hospital and then again when my son was a week old. My son is now almost 9 months and we are MUCH better off without him. I stayed open for his father to develop a relationship and was as supportive as i could be ... you can only do so much for them. They have to stand up and want that bond in order to get it. I would just start to prepare yourself to be a single mom and if he decides to step up then it will be a nice surprise ... but if he doesn't you haven't set yourself up to be disappointed.
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i agree with everything that Sara said. except that i would not let him come and go as he pleases. That will be really hard on your son. He either needs to be involved or not. and believe me, if he chooses not to, your better off without him. i dont know what state your in but child support, and visitation are two different things. so even if he never sees your son, he is still responsible to pay.
Jessica - posted on 01/28/2010
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I would give it a little more time, maybe he'll get back to you. Has he been involved with the pregnancy up to this point? If so, I find it hard to believe he wuld disappear now, after so long. If not, then maybe he has decided he doens't want to be involved.