Behavior Problems at School

Michelle - posted on 03/04/2009 ( 58 moms have responded )

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My 9 year old daughter is driving her teachers crazy. We have recently uped her medication from 30mg of Ritalin LA to 40mg, but this dosen't seem to have helped. Her teacher called me today and said that Allea will not stay in her seat and will not keep her mouth shut. To top it all off she is starting to get a snotty attitude toward the teacher. So now we are dealing with ADHD combined type AND an attitude problem. I have tried everything I can think of. I don't know what else to do. Any suggestions would be a great help. I'm so frustrated!!!

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Kristin - posted on 11/08/2011

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Many gifted and talented children are being mis-diagnosed by health care professionals. The most common mis-diagnoses are: Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), Oppositional Defiant Disorder (OD), Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), and Mood Disorders such as Cyclothymic Disorder, Dysthymic Disorder, Depression, and Bi-Polar Disorder. Specific social and emotional characteristics of gifted children are mistakenly assumed to be signs of pathology.
Many gifted children are being mis-diagnosed as Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). The gifted child's characteristics of intensity, sensitivity, impatience, and high motor activity can easily be mistaken for ADHD. Few gifted children do suffer from ADHD, and thus have a dual diagnosis of gifted and ADHD; but most are not. Few health care professionals give sufficient attention to the words about ADHD in DSM-IV that say the gifted child's developmental level is different when compared to other children, and health care professionals need to ask whether the child's behaviors occur only in some situations but not in others (e.g., at school but not at home; at church, but not at scouts, etc.). If the problem behaviors are situational only, the child is likely NOT suffering from ADHD.
Remember that ADD is really just a description of behavior that may be caused by a brain defect. The environmental causes of brain defects leading to ADD include things like lead poisoning and exposure to drugs as a fetus. These factors also REDUCE IQ. So it seems rather improbable that a high-IQ person also has such a brain defect.
Gifted children MUST have an education that fits their needs. If they don't, they should be expected to act out or space out, and it is NOT their fault! Placing them on medication so that they can tolerate a more boring school is absurd. There are much better options available, such as home schooling, alternative schools and grade skipping. Stimulant medications allow gifted children and adults to attend to things they otherwise find too boring. That is exactly how the medications feel, too. Parents, if your child seems bright then PLEASE have a qualified person evaluate him or her for giftedness BEFORE you accept a diagnosis of ADD and medication.
Here are a few great sites that can help you get your child the CORRECT diagnoses and provide information and support for both ADD/ADHD and Gifted Children:
http://borntoexplore.org/gifted.htm
http://www.sengifted.org/articles_counse...
http://ritalindeath.com/ADHD-Criteria.ht...
http://www.behavenet.com/capsules/disord...

AMANDA - posted on 01/24/2012

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Quit pumping your poor children full of pills to turn them into what YOU ALL think they should be. Kids get in trouble, kids are hyper, kids act out, you need to learn to PARENT and not FORCE INNOCENT CHILDREN TO TAKE DANGEROUS MEDICATIONS.



EVERYONE WANTS A QUICK FIX. QUICK FIXES CREATE LONG TERM PROBLEMS!



It is such a tragedy that parents give their children Adderall. It is a amphetamine stimulant and is basically shoving SPEED down a child's throat. Children who are given Addreall are more likely to develop substance abuse problems as adults. It is like the army giving soldiers speed so they perform better in war. Look at what happens in the long run. I was diagnosed as having ADHD as a teenager and given Addreall. It is highly addictive and you should see how college students abuse the drug. They sell it, snort it, etc. If you have ever taken it it's basically like doing a line of cocaine. If gives you energy, focus (almost hyper-focus), can increase the speed of how you speak, you lose your appetite, can't sleep. Initially, I loved it because I got a high off it. Over time you build up a tolerance and it stopped working. It made me antisocial, irritable, but totally unable to function without it.



Adderall is the biggest HOAX of the pharmaceutical world and sad to say, half the doctors in this world prescribe drugs without really understanding the long-term effects, or properly diagnosing people.



Just because a child is dreamy, has a short attention span, is challenging, hyper or even has bad grades you shouldn't FORCE them to take this horrible addictive drug, that has long-term consequences as it will forever change their brain chemistry. Those things you are trying to "fix" in your child are not a DISORDER, they are your child's unique personality and don't need to be FIXED. It's better to let a child be a little hard to handle then turning them into young drug addicts by feeding them pharmaceutical METHAMPHETAMINE, which is exactly what adderal is.

Abigail - posted on 03/09/2009

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An IEP is an Individualized Education Program. Under the American with Disabilities Act, a child with ADHD qualifies for an IEP under the label "Otherwise Health Impaired." This can make her eligible for a number of accomodations and services. For instance, my younger son sees an occupational therapist to help him with fine motor skills and writing. He sees a social worker to help him with socialization skills. He has a special cushion on his chair that provides sensory stimulation and helps him focus. He has fidgets to play with and keep his hands busy during class time. He can wear a headset that is tuned to a microphone for his teacher, to help tune out distractions in the classroom.



That is just one example for one child. To get an IEP you need to send a letter to the school (it must be done in writing), advising them that your child has been diagnosed as ADHD and you want to set up an IEP. Also request that the school assessment her for any other learning disorders. It is important to ask for this assessment, because she may have other issues that are hidden by the ADHD or improperly written off as being a part of ADHD.



This will also help you protect your daughter's legal rights. If she has an IEP because she has ADHD, it makes it harder for the school to suspend or expell her for behaviors related to the ADHD. Maybe not an issue now, but that could become an issue down the road.

Melissa - posted on 05/17/2014

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As a nurse and a mother of 3 children I am going to tell you that medicating your children for ADHD is the worst decision you could make. Hyperactivity is a behavior problem, why would you medicate a behavior??? If your children was extremely friendly would you medicate them? 9 times out of 10 medication makes the problem worse. If you are a parent medicating your child, watch this.....
http://youtu.be/zQegsqYhuZE

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User - posted on 02/28/2014

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This sounds exactly like my son. What resources were yougiven? Im just looking for advice yo help with dicipline and consequences.

Pamela - posted on 05/29/2013

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Hello Amanda,

Thank you so much for your input. I too have a 11 year old that's busy in class. I am fighting tooth and nail to keep him from these alternating mind blowing drugs. The school has failed my son 4 out of 5 classes. The only class he didn't fail was gym.(LOL) Imagine that! They have gym once a week. You are scared of the school doctors because they are out to win for the school. You are scared to take him to a private doctor because there is so much fraud going on. Some doctor's will misdiagnose so that they can feed their families. Where are all the remedies that mother's have naturally before all these wonderful drugs came along to assist in making the teacher's job easier. I just don't want my son medicated.

Christy - posted on 04/02/2013

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My son is 9 and since he started school we have all ways had issues with him. He has OCD, anxiety NOS, and ADHD. He is all so gifted. I have tried all the non stimulant meds with no luck. We have him now on adderall xr 15mg. It works but not with out side effects, iike loss of appetite, mood siwngs when he comes down off the meds, anxiety attackts whne he comes down off the meds. The only reason my son is on meds is because the school was going to kick him out if I didn't do something. I have some problems with him but nothing a normal child doesn't do to there parent. His Dr wants to up his adderall so it doesn't wear off till later in the evening. I think he is on a high enough dose as is and I really don't want to see any more side effects. I do not have him on meds on the weekend of non school days. It has been suggested to me to get him tested for autism due to his sensory issues and lack of peer contact. I read the post about gifted kids and now it has me seoncd thinking having him on meds?

Maritza - posted on 02/27/2012

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You just need to get him evaluated s they can find the source of the problem and help him out.

Maritza - posted on 02/27/2012

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I know what you are going through my 9 year old son has that same problem both at school and home and he is taking concerta with Imutivi sometimes I feel that it does not work sometimes it does, he screams, kicks, hits, cries.



I had him in judo classes and it helped discipline him but since we moved now he is in martial arts there are times that I feel like screaming and running away.

Maritza - posted on 02/27/2012

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I know what you are going through my 9 year old son has that same problem both at school and home and he is taking concerta with Imutivi sometimes I feel that it does not work sometimes it does, he screams, kicks, hits, cries.



I had him in judo classes and it helped discipline him but since we moved now he is in martial arts there are times that I feel like screaming and running away.

Alphine - posted on 01/03/2012

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Reading these comments have fully convince me that I need to have my now 12 yr old tested. He is driving me and his Teachers crazy. He got suspended from school etc. I am loosing it right now. I am heading for a nervous break down if there is no change VERY soon!!

Jaymie - posted on 12/23/2011

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wow i see this post is frm 2009, but anyways my son , wh/ is 4, is in pre -k and he is disrupting class short attention span , basically all the signs od adhd, i set up counseling for him, but the appt is in 2 weeks. i honestly dont think this will help bc he cant sit still for 1 min he will be running out of the office. anyways i know they are going to tell me to put him on meds, but i know it causes a " high" anyways i am going crazy. constantly chasing my son and getting calls for the past week to pick him up. my husband is totally against putting him on meds. but sometimes i think thats the only way, and i heard there is meds that are not narcotics that people would buy off the st. any suggestions?

April - posted on 12/21/2011

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i am haveing the same problems with my son who is almost 9 he is adhd and odd and he is haveing trouble at school and he also has a attiude and i dont know how i can help him he is getting into fights at school

Lynn - posted on 12/13/2011

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i know how u girls feel. i have been struggling with my son sheyne since he turned one. he has a severe learning disability, with adhd and a mood disorder. also has ptsd(post traumatic stress disorder). its hard to go a day without the school calling to tell me to come get him. hes only in school now from 8 am til 11:15 am. hes on an iep. he was in birth to three, early childhood, headstart, 4yr.old kindergarten, 5 yr.old kindergarten and is now in 2nd grade. he struggles every day. he cant read yet, and struggles with words and math. hes getting teased because hes slow and behind his classmates. but hes a smart kid when he wants to be. hes just to active to focus. hes on concerta for the adhd, guanfacine for the mood swings, ridalin to help with the adhd, imipramine for bed wetting. its a constant battle dealing with all this stuff. but im handling it the best i can. get all the help u can get it makes life easier for u and the family. sheyne also has a social worker thru social services, a daily skills worker that comes to my home sun., mon.,tues. nights to work on a nite time routine. and wed., and thurs., mornings to work on morning routines. she is an angel. we r working on getting a respite worker hired so i can have me time. its a place that i can take sheyne or have them come here so i can go do what i need to do. mainly a vacation time for me. sheyne sets the hours. but there r alot of programs out there that can help u. ask around to different people. ur courthouse is a good place to get help or info. i wish u luck. it aint easy but i wouldnt trade sheyne for anything. my granma always says god dont give u more than what u can handle. and all gods children r gifts and special. sheyne says hes gods special gift just for me. and he loves him for who he is.

Linda - posted on 11/29/2011

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hi Michelle, my son is 8 yrs , he has Aspergers, he is mostly in trouble every day in school, he is great for me at home, so i feel terrible, i've been in the school loads of times, so i know what you are going throught. try a star chart for her, it help for awhile with my son,

Laura - posted on 11/08/2011

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The Vyanse works wonders for my son, he was put on the highest dose but since turning 12, my dr. is weening him off by putting him on a lower dose. Because he is going to try to find ways to handle his emotions. That is why I have done research or read a ton of articles of other parents on how they handle some things. My son also has Aspergers along with ADHD, I give him chewing gum and it keeps him focused on that thing at task. I have shared that with his teachers to give him sugar free gum if he gets off task. My son as well has used his outburst against me at times. I can be his little punching bag, but word outburst not physical. It just makes me feel like a punching bag. But I find that if I sit him done by me and rub his back and use yoga breathing has calm those outbursts to a low minuim. We have done it some much, that he ask for his back to be rubbed or wants me to share the breathing together to calm down. Hope those work.

Kary - posted on 10/25/2011

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I have an 11 yrd old son and his 3rd grade teacher kept making suggestions that I up his meds or change it all together....First I would ask the principle if teachers are allowed to make suggestions about meds because where I live they are not..Thats your and your childs drs call if you and him/her think the meds should be chaned or upped....But I do understand where you are coming from about your daughter's outbursts because my 8 yr old daughter is the same way but only at home never at school and I'm about to pull my hair out she talks back throws fits and stomps around maybe its puberty about to hit but she makes me feel like I'm a bad mother because of the way she acts but my son doesnt act that way...Ask your dr about Focalin xr it works wonders for my son but they had to change my daughter to Vyanse which seems to help but not much

Txt - posted on 10/19/2011

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I had same problems with my son. he is 8. i started giving him an hour daily to talk to him calmly and be with him. and also pray to GOD if you do believe in.. it really will help

Stephanie - posted on 09/29/2011

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sounds like you need someone to develop a behavior plan. get a behavioral consultant to observe school and home.

Kim - posted on 09/20/2011

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Teachers lack the education in ADHD/ADD or any other issue out there. They are taught how to teach these children if they are employeed by a school that offers IEP's to children. For ADD/ADHD children this means they are taught the same material but taught in a different way.



The public needs to be better educated about ADD/ADHD children as well!!!!! Sitting in a doctors office my husband and I were speaking of our son's ADHD, the women sitting next to me ask "aren't those the crazy kids"? It is frustrating to me to see this kind of mentality..and I see it in the threads in these post... Children with ADD/ADHD are ADVANCED from the AVERAGE Child with no ADD/ADHD. Their brains work so fast they must be slowed down, and stimulants do that in children. Reversed for adults. Mostly the reason that natural changes in some of these children is due to them not having adHd...the changes they make really are more for they hypertencity. Tho...all medications produced are a synethic form of something natural in the world. So yes some children (usually those that rate on the boarder line of having ADD/ADHD) have good results using natural remodies.



I would like to suggest everyone to read about the medication your giving your children...if your have heart problems in your family history don't put them on ADDRELL without watching and keeping notes on complants your child may make or have...chest pains, heart palpations etc. There are so many different one's to try and the one with the most side effects or cause long term damage is Ritolen...so please educate yourself. There are GOVERMENT medication websites...not just webmd...or Ask.com....The goverment websites give you the harsh truth about what your giving your child. Be sure you understand that just because one child has a problem with one medication doesn't mean they all will.



Organization is one of the biggest problems that ADD/ADHD children have. To construct an organized routine at home and school is very important to give all the tools they will need once they become independant.



I have seen some good suggestions and some I have to shake my head at ..... A cure??? Really? I wouldn't want a cure for being advanced..yes these children get bored easy...yes they can make bad grades but usually thats a sign they need to be challenged. Remember over 90% of your surgeons have ADHD...did they get there by being stupid or needing a Cure? NO...they had parents that made sure they gave every opportunity to their children ...making sure they can charge at their independant future full force. A lot of the social problems are because they have a hard time socializing with kids that are threatened by them being smart...then they are nerds right? or you have adhd children that are frustrated because they can't communicate with child that don't have ADHD/ADD because they can't get the words out to where the other child(ren) can understand what they are saying and why.



If your child(ren)(s) school doesn't provide IEP's then find one that does!!! or get your school started...they benifit so much from it also not just the children (they get special funding for the material and teachers needed to teach the IEP classes)!



Find a doctor that can give you personal insight on what it's like to have an ADD/ADHD child from exsperience! We have been that lucky...and one of the other things I needed to point out from one post made. When your child focuses on something...if they draw, talk, sing, write, read, play with whatever it is...they are showing you their interest!!! An ADD/ADHD child always has something they have a strong interest in...they want to do all the things I listed above (play, read, sing, talk etc..) about the subject they are interested in. Mine was Horses..I hated to read but loved to read anything about a horse I could get my hands on...then when I got my own I wanted to make sure she had the best, and I did the best for her...that we were the best companions, it spild over into doing graphics, webdesign and promotion, drawing, painting etc. My daughter has a very creative line of talents, all of the above from my list to writing stories, music...can't read a note in a book but she can hear it once and replay it within seconds. My son loves video games but that can be taken in the direction of creating them, making a new system (that can go all directions also). He makes a 100% correct in his advanced testing in Geometry...this could lead him to designing cars, video games, computer programs, designing buildings, aircraft etc. He has been speaking of designing cars tho! He has anxiety over weather...here in oklahoma he worries to the point of being sick to his stomache the possiblity of having a tornado...but this anxiety has also gave him interest in being a metoraligist...so who knows..but I do know I know they don't need to be cured of it! It isn't a disease...not truly...if it was a disease it would be contagious...it is genetic but not contagious...



I wish you all the best! If anyone want to just talk, I welcome it! Go to my profile and message me, join my circle of mom's!



Hope this link helps those that would like to compare the ADD/ADHD medications! http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK455...

Staci - posted on 09/18/2011

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Wow, alot of medication talk here. My son is 6 and has horrendous behaviour problems. Thankfully I have a teacher and principle that are 100% dedicated to helping him. After a behaviour assessment, we completely overhauled his school and home routines. We made him a behaviour chart, emotion board, work/free time chart NO MEDS........this has completely changed his behaviour.
Albeit its only been 2 weeks but there has been obvious significant improvements. Seems you need to have a word with his teacher. If they arent willing to put in the hard yards it is really pointless. Australia seems to have a different view to medicating than America. My doctor avoids all meds at any cost. Natural seems to work best. GOODLUCK

Amy - posted on 09/18/2011

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It sounds like there's a bad combo of teaching style plus ADHD. I think it might be a good idea to check into changing classrooms. It doesn't mean the teacher is BAD, it's just not a good fit. Also, you might talk to your doctor about adding Intuniv to the mix. It's really helped us, anyway. I'm not your doctor, so I'm not going to pretend to know all about your daughter's needs... but I thought I'd throw it out there in case it was interesting to you.

Sherry - posted on 09/18/2011

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I had the same problem with my daughter. We moved to a different school and she is now ok. We found out at her other school that she was not getting enough help with her work from the teacher so she was acting out for that attention. She was also being bulled by another little girl due to her getting in trouble all the time. My daughter found out that more that she can act out the more attention she would get from the class room and that made her worse.

Apple - posted on 09/17/2011

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discipline is one of the major issues in dealing with children with ad/hd. if the parent seemed to be so lenient at some point but quite autocratic in other instances, this would confuse the child. however, this may also apply to regular kids. the parent should be firm and consistent about implementing his/her rules at home. don't be confuse about patience to passiveness. a lot of parents think they are patient about their kids but turned out to be passive. furthermore, right modelling is also another point a parent needs to consider. the effects/ disasters may all be blamed to the child's condition but the parent overlooks her/his own way of behaving at home. remember, the child doesn't learn these behaviors all be themselves.. just saying :)

Mary - posted on 09/14/2011

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I would go back to the dr again and try a different med. Her body is going through changes and with that being said her meds will be way out of whack. My 10 year old is just starting her meds and just on 18mg of concerta there is alot of chances within the last 2 weeks of her taking them. I know our dr wants to put her up to 72 because of her height and weight ( she is a very tall girl - tallest in her class and done stage 2 of puberty) but even with the teacher this year she said she is doing better then last year and she is doing good.

Chiquita - posted on 09/04/2011

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My 8 1/2 year old son has been getting in trouble with School since he started every year I have been up to school and not for good reasons, I am very frustrated and I am up to my elbows with it. Any Suggestions??

Michele - posted on 09/03/2011

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Have you consulted the school pyschologist? My son was acting the same way and he tested normal for everything. NO ADHD just boredom!

Neva - posted on 08/23/2011

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I had the same problem with my 10 yr old, but he has ADHD/ Bipolar. I still have probs with him acting up in school,not doing his work, mouthing, no matter what I do or the principle he seems not to care one bit. I know what you are going through.The school will not give my son a IEP because they say he is to smart for one. I do not know what to do myself. I am about to just homeschol him and see how that works.

Jane - posted on 08/09/2011

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sometimes kids get diagnosed with add and adhd and its something else, my grandson was tested for similar stuff and its sensory dysfunction, he is getting help now and its great, Its called sensory integration dysfunction, not saying thats what it is, but its worth a look up they have similar symptoms and stuff.

Laura - posted on 08/08/2011

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My son is 12 years old and has ADHD and Aspergers. He is on medicine, VYVANSE 60 mg. He is on an IEP in school. When he was in Kindergarten, he had a checklist that was his alone and each new session came up or about to come up, he was to check it off. This kept him on task and focused. The IEP set up for him, was based on what I wanted to him to be doing. I am in constanted contact with his school to this day. I also research online of different ways to handle school work. And we work on it together. Also, for sake of him not being ridcule, I have a teacher with him and he is in big classes that has his peers with him, that way he feels apart of everyone. They also at one time put him on a behaviour IEP as well. When dealing with an ADHD/or special needs child, consistenacy and consequences is the key. One thing I have not been able to handle is anger to bullies, he shows anger to anyone that picks on him. When I have researched that I can share.

Jessica - posted on 08/03/2011

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After 2 years of trying many( 8 kinds) medications. I removed my daughter from everything. I fought with her school daily. I got so sick of hearing "the meds take time" from doctors. During this summer my husband and I started her in therapy. This has seemed to help with controlling her "outburst" Also my daughter really enjoys her time with her "friend"(therapist) Thru the therapy program our daughter and us as well get to sit and talk to a psychiatrist. It turns out that all those meds weren't going to help her they just amped her up more. My daughter suffers from generalized social anxiety.. and also has traits of aspergers(higher functioning autisim). Remember these are drugs we are giving our kiddos and they are only human and if you are experiencing any of what we have I know your frustration and wish you all the best. Be patient with your daughter and with yourself.

Cristine - posted on 07/12/2011

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I have noticed a BIG difference in my son taking Zoloft! It has helped him tremendously and we can teach him what is/ isn't acceptable more easily .

Chrys - posted on 07/12/2011

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Hun I hear ya the terriable two`s stage is a drag but when you have a child with ADHD its all the time. My son is almost 7yrs old and I noticed a change when he turned 2rys old. My boyfriend and I for the last 2rys didnt want him on meds but we looked into it and he has been on Addreall for two months and he seems to be more focused which slows him down. I find children and even Adults with ADHD just get bored easly and lose intrest. I do know that here in london they have a specialist who deals with children with these issues and hes been a big help to our son.

Deanna - posted on 03/10/2009

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Is your daughter in talk therapy?  I am the mom of two add'ers...both boys and both adults now.   Does she have an IEP?  How about you, Mom?  Are you in talk therapy?  I have lots of experience with boys...but am more than willing to listen! 

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Quoting Cristine:

your daughter might need to be assessed for ather problems as well. my son was diagnosed with adhd and major Obsessive compulsive disorders. maybe she could try some zoloft. It has worked woners for my son. also try figuring out why she feels that she needs to do this. I have been doing this with my son and it has helped him work through some issues.



My daughter was jsut put on zoloft for OCD, she has been on adderrall since Jan. My childs anxiety is through the roof. Have you noticed a difference with the zoloft??

Cathy - posted on 03/09/2009

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He is so young and it breaks my heart to hear that he is struggling.  They feel like they are bad kids because they are always getting into trouble.  I will keep you and your son in my prayers.... have been praying for 10 years for a cure and will continue to pray.

Diana - posted on 03/09/2009

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My son is 5.. I having the some problem with him in school. he taking 10mg of Adderall. I don't want to change med. The teacher and I are working together with him. He started telling me that he hate school. He crys every morning to not go to school.. At this time I'm taking it one day at a time.. I will keep you in my prays...

Michelle - posted on 03/09/2009

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I don't know what an IEP is, so probabley not. I do think she has an obsesive compulsive disorder. Once she gets on something she can't stop. She will talk about a subject for DAYS at a time.

Abigail - posted on 03/09/2009

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Does she have an IEP? I ask, because there are things that can be done inside the classroom to help.

Cristine - posted on 03/09/2009

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your daughter might need to be assessed for ather problems as well. my son was diagnosed with adhd and major Obsessive compulsive disorders. maybe she could try some zoloft. It has worked woners for my son. also try figuring out why she feels that she needs to do this. I have been doing this with my son and it has helped him work through some issues.

Cathy - posted on 03/09/2009

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 Sometimes if the classroom is not organized and is cluttered this can have an effect on the child. If it  loud and chaotic this can also contribute to  behavior.   The teacher can let you know what is going on in the classroom....but should never suggest increasing or adding a medication. We have also found in some cases that once a teacher knows that our child has ADHD and is on med's they seem to find and point out everything little thing that he does....even at the age of 15.

Michelle - posted on 03/09/2009

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I have always hoped that behavor modification would help, but Allea seems to be one of the few that really CAN'T control her outbursts. I do wonder if we are hitting puberty early. She just turned 9 in December but her attitude is really out there sometimes. Her teacher wants me to have her medication reevaluated again. We just had an increase from 30mg to 40mg about 2 weeks ago. I don't usually give her the meds on the weekend but I did yesterday. She behaved fine. Her attitude was still there but she didn't run around screaming and she went to the aquarium. I'm really begining to think we are having a problem with the teacher not controlling her class room. She has told me before that Allea's stories are so funny and she loves to her them because Allea is so smart. I think Allea has learned that she can get away with anything with this teacher.

Crystal - posted on 03/08/2009

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my step son had adhdand i have never dealt with it. he is 8 years old and in second grade. we have had alot of problems with him in school. we get phone calls all the time about him not doing what he was suppose to be doing. he can never sit still and he never stop talking. he takes 10 mg of adderol a day and it just isnt working anymore. so i know how your feeling but i dont know what to do either!

Cathleen - posted on 03/08/2009

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the teacher could also suggest that she would talk to her about the cold after the lesson then make a point to ask her after the lesson. that has helped with my son

Cathleen - posted on 03/08/2009

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Austin is 7 he takes daytrana patch and respirdal. he still is ansy in the morn ing, but by 10:00 has settled down. however he has a wonderful teacher who tolerates his moving around along as his assignments are finished and not interrputting others. does your daughter do any therapy along with medications? that may help with the attitude, she probably is just frustrated.

Amie - posted on 03/07/2009

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Have you thought about puberty? My own girl will be 9 this summer and she's already started the puberty road. She showed some of those same signs and at first we thought it was the ADHD or her meds had stopped working. haha. Her specialist she sees was at a loss this time because her meds were upped because she had gone through a growth spurt and is in special classes for kids with learning disabilities but was struggling again. Then we started noticing that her outbursts (at home and school) were happening when she would be emotional over something. A few weeks later she came to me and told me she saw blood when she wiped after peeing. So off to her regular doctor we went to make sure there wasn't something wrong with her. She's fine just puberty is starting so she's hormonal, sore and quite unsure of what's going on with her body yet again. I sat and talked with her so she knows what's happening and to expect but the hormones are driving me and hubby batty. Bad enough just dealing with my own! LOL! She'll cry for no reason or start yelling or stomp around all mad. We've told her though it's ok to feel this way, it's not her fault. She has a diary too so she can write out her thoughts in private if she doesn't want to talk to us about it. I remember all to well how mom & dad can be the cause of frustrations when going through this. So maybe this could be it as well? Never know, I know sometimes I get so caught up in oh maybe it's her condition that I forget it could be something completely normal and natural that happens to us all. =)

Tonya - posted on 03/05/2009

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that good she likes her teacher, dakota teacher don't care, it the way she says things in notes when she sends them home that makes me mad! i think teacher should have classes about how to deal with kids with adhd.

Michelle - posted on 03/05/2009

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My daughter actually loves her teacher and the teacher admits to having adhd also. You would think she would understand more but unfortunately she doesn't seem to. I wonder if she can't keep control of the class room very well. I know she said that Allea talked for 15 minutes about having a cold the other day. My question is why didn't she give Allea detention or send her to the office if she would not stop. It's begining to sound like the teacher dosen't try to inforce the rules.

Tonya - posted on 03/05/2009

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i understand what u are going thru my son who is 6 will be 7 in april has adhd, and have problems at school and with his teacher, he won;t stay seated and talk when he not suppose to, im at loss what to do. his teacher all suggestion to do up his med. he takes concerta. i up his med and it still the same. he don't like his teacher and that part of the trouble, and i have to say i really don't either (he doesnt know that i don't like her) she see him as trouble maker and that it i don't think she understand anything about adhd. that may be your daughter problem she may not like her teacher that why she has attitude toward her teacher. i know i didn't help much but know u are alone!

Michelle - posted on 03/05/2009

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Sometime knowing your not alone makes all the differance in the world. I had a really rough day yesterday and this was put on top of it. I ended up sitting in my living room crying with my boyfriend going "I don't know what to do so I'm going to go". I felt completly alone. It's really hard sometimes. Parents who don't understand that these kids really CAN'T control their impulses think your not disciplining them enough and tell you so. It gets really frustrating. My Mom is on my case because she thinks my daughter is on to much meds and the teacher thinks it's not enough. It gets REALLY frustrating.

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