How can I help my 7 year old granddaughter who has adhd/odd?

Sheila - posted on 05/30/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )




My granddaughter has ADHD/ODD. She is 7 years old. She will be 8 in October. She has been on Concerta, strattera, focalin and one other medications. She has also been to counseling for two years. None of the medications worked. They either made her withdrawn or too active. She in the first grade and on a kindergarten level. She has to repeat the first. She is not on any medications because they cause other problems. I have been asking the school to test her since last October 2011. They took so long, now she won't be tested until next September 2012. I am heart broken that she has to repeat the first grade. If she would of got help already I think she would of been ready for 2nd grade. She is frustrated. She doesn't like school. Sometimes she doesn't have a desire to learn. How can I help her to succeed in school and at home?


Jennifer - posted on 06/21/2012




She needs to be qualified as special education if she is truly ADHD/ODD. The federal statutes state the the school district has 180 days in which to complete the testing, and make final decisions from the date the formal request was made for special education services. That includes the summer days. So, if you made a formal request in October 2011 for Special Ed services, the school district has not followed the federal guidelines. You are the only advocate for your child. Document, document, document. Request an IEP (Individual Education Plan) and ARD meeting. And coming from personal experience, my daughter (not ADHD, but very immature) spent an extra year between kindergarten and first grade. Better to repeat first grade than to fail standardized tests and be held back in 6/7/8 or not receive high school credits because of issues in elementary school.

Beth - posted on 05/30/2012




if the medications do not work or make her more active she needs one that's not a stimulant.
OR she's not ADHD. She has other issues. Many times Autism is diagnoised first as ADHD. Has she been tested for dyslexia? Sometimes that can be the root cause of some behavior as well as academic problems.

Marlene - posted on 06/19/2012




Does she have an IEP???? When the parents ask for one they have a timeframe (not sure how long) to get it done. My son was on alot of different medication until we found the one that works for him.

Sandy - posted on 06/05/2012




You (and mom and dad) have to advocate for her. Demand from her doctors that you want her tested for other syndromes. Study up on various learning disabilities and syndromes so you know what to look for and ask about. Does she have an IEP with the school? You must keep the school accountable and DEMAND that they abide by that IEP.

It is tough and frustrating, but without you fighting for her, she will get lost in the crowd.


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