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Sarah - posted on 03/31/2009 ( 35 moms have responded )

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Hi... Sarah again...I have mentioned before that my 10yr old son has ADHD/ODD...and I was just wondering how early they can diagnose this?? Reason being because my soon to be 4 year old son is showing all the same signs....if anyone knows could you please let me know! As always any responses are greatly appreciated.

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Aubrey - posted on 11/02/2011

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I have a 5 year old that was just diagnosed ADHD. I think it all depends on how well your Dr. knows you and your family. My family Dr. has seen me and my children for the last 13 years so he has seen all the challenges that we have gone through with my oldest and it was him who actually brought my youngest's behavior up. He told me that since he knows the whole family (including my husband, who is also ADD) he had no problem at all diagnosing and medicating my youngest. Now the only problem we are facing is that my 5 yr old is only about 40 lbs and none of the pharmacies around here can get in a chewable 2.5 mg prescription. So we are trying to work through that. Hopefully this helps!

Aubrey

Julie - posted on 10/25/2011

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I just read an article in the San Jose Mercury News that they are now medicating some preschool children for ADD/ADHD

Jacque - posted on 10/24/2011

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Well, if you can already see the signs. Then it's probably not too soon to talk to your doctor and let he/she know of your concerns. I've worked in Special Needs Preschools, and I've seen a lot of similar issues in some kids that were diagnosed at 2 or 3 years old. So like I say, if you are worried about it then you should go see your child's doctor.

Scotty - posted on 04/26/2009

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Hi Sarah- My name is Scotty and I have a 9 yr-old who has the same diagnoses as your son....my experience with the diagnosing process is they won't test til the age of 5. Things may have changed in the last 4 yrs, but I don't think it has. I hope this helps a little and I wish you the best ( I know how trying it can be with just one).

Ashley - posted on 04/26/2009

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Hi sarah, My son is now 8 and was diagnosed with adhd/odd last year. I saw signs in him as early as 3yrs. Everyone was telling me that he was just being a 3yr old littleboy and I continue to tell them that there was more.I could not get himto do a thing I told him for almost a year! I was ready to pull my hair out. The pediatrictian told me that they would do anything till he was "school aged" so i put him in a preschool program through the local school district. That didn't help. I couldn't get anyone to diagnos him till second grade. I have heard there are some psychiatrists that work with children younger but you need to call around and ask. I had to call 13 doctors before I could get my son into 1.

Dawn - posted on 04/25/2009

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My son hasn't been formaly diagnosed yet with ADHD through his pediatrician but I know he has it from just reading all of this...He did show signs of something since about a year. But why we had him tested in the first place was because he did not speak for 2 years of his life. He finally started saying a few words in Birth to Three and right before he entered into his preschool this year. But just since Sept 2008 he has made great strides and you would never have known he had a speech problem. Now if we can get his outburst and tantrums under control. He has been through a special program through the state of Washington and was able to get help at 2 in a Birth to Three program and then when he turned 3 he was retested with the public school district and with the combination of the testing and the recommendation from birth to three, he qualified for early developmental preschool at age 3 through the public school system. Let me tell you it really does help. His sister had speech problems but never the attitude and behavorial problems I am getting from my son. But being in school for 3 hours a day 4 days a week has helped. He still has outburst but we can kind of catch them now and i am hoping with 2 years of this by the time he turns 5 and is suppose to go into Kindergarten he will already have the skills to behave like the rest of the children in the class with minimal problems. One can only hope. I am very happy with the help that I have been getting through the state and if people are wondering what they can do when this starts., look into what your state might offer. You find you are not alone. I really thought I was until I found out about the Birth to Three programs. They are wonderful. At his 4 yr old well check it is going to be the first question I ask my doctor and start the process of getting him diagnosed. Thanks for all your posts here. They have really helped me believe what I have known all along.

Franny - posted on 04/24/2009

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I think they like to wait until the are in school full time. I have an 8year old son with ADHD and a 5 year old son who is showing the same signs as the oldest. Dr won't diagnose until he is in kindergarden. Hope that helps

Glorielsa - posted on 04/24/2009

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hi sarah my name is gloria, my son was diagnose at 3yrs but he had the signs at 2yrs it tooke a long time to get a diagnose.

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Started my little one on Retalin at 5. She is doing great. I took Retalin from 5 to 11 with no side effects.

Corilyn - posted on 04/24/2009

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I have an almost15 y/o and a just turned 4 y/o. The 15 y/o was professionally diagnosed just before he started school at 5 and has been on drugs since that school year started. I knew well before that (at 2 he kept blowing his knee out, and the dr said he was "too active for his body"), he also was kicked out of 2 daycares. Once my younger son could walk, at nine months, I knew then that he had it too. His daycare actually recommended he get tested at 2, (I believe because they couldn't control him anymore) and sure enough, he had it and now goes to a special class called Early Childhood Development Program for eary intervention. He has not been put on drugs yet, but he gets LOTS of help from OT, to counseling,to smaller class sizes. He also goes to counseling outside of school and I think it is wonderful. They have taught him lots of things, like how to control his anger, how to release his anger, and then how to calm himself/body down after he is done from being angry.Please look into this program because there is help out there and the govt. must accomodate him for his special needs. Good luck. Start as early as you can, cuz it has huge payoffs. I wish I did it for my oldest.

Alicia - posted on 04/23/2009

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Hi! My son is now 14 almost 15 and I was told by a preK teacher to get him diagnosed!!Well I took him to a psych and didn't like the guys attitude. He said if the teacher had noticed it then he had add....I waited and read a book called Running on Ritilin. The next year his Kindergarden teacher said he was scoring at 7 yr old level even though he was only 5 years old. So I asked her about the other teachers recommendation. She told me that Scott was the proverbial bull in the china shop BUT as long as it did not affect his grades and he was still learning and not struggling at all not to worry about it. Scott started having problems with grades in 4th so I got him on concerta and he is still on it. We experimented with other stuff Straterra... but the concerta seems to work best for him. Now at 14 he is 6'3 and weighs 220 so he of course is maxed out on it and it doesn't seem to help near as much as it used to but i guess eventually he will have to maintain his behavior alone. His grades are average now and some classes are a struggle but i think thats cause he is a teenage boy and is lazy about homework. He is very active in sports but if he skips taking his meds I have noticed that he gets hurt more.(accident prone) My dr has him on it 24/7 for the benefit of accidents.

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Hi! My son was 4 in January and we feel the same way. His older sister has ADHD with anxiety & Depression. My pediatrician agrees and is sending us to UVA for a pysh eval. I'm not sure what will happen but I'll keep you posted. So, to answer your question... my pediatrician says its not too early to intervene.

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You need a good pediatrician to get the diagnosis..and especially one who has experience in dealing with ADHD.. dont be afraid to ask for a second opinion..some pediatricians just wont diagnose till about age 10 (this is far too late) whilst others diagnose as young as 2.. i personally feel after a child has completed the first year at primary school a good age to diagnose.. my son was 14 before i gave in to medication.. and once on it i bitterly regret all them years i wouldnt medicate him.. he passed his exams and done so well once he began medicating.. but please be ware once in late teens many children can become quite suicidal on meds.. and suffer depression and anger issues..
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Raelynn - posted on 04/23/2009

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My second son was diagnosed when he was 2 years old. I believe the signs were there within a year before he turned 2. His Psychiatrist said he has seen a hand full of children diagnosed that young in all his years of practice.

Lori - posted on 04/22/2009

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I'm getting my son tested. He has all the signs and he is 4. Even at a very early age(baby) I knew something was not right with him. Its been a fight. I think the sooner these kids get the help they need the better off in school age they will be..

Christine Weinandt - posted on 04/19/2009

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that is old enough.. my kids are all in thier teens ... and up... and i had a daycare full of all the kids kicked out of other daycares mostly (ADD or ADHD) i think if you are seeing the signs you can help him by taking steps to suceed better... kids with add and adhd need to learn diff methods to suceed that other kids... just help him to acheive his goals if he has add or not.... just make sure preschool or kindergarden teachers know you think he may need extra help and what signs you are seening and..discuss them with your doc.... gl christine

Nicola - posted on 04/19/2009

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I live in Ireland and we are way behind the times when it comes to ADHD and other such matters. I am currently waiting for an appointment for my 5 year old to see someone. He has always been a challenging child. He started school in September and 3 weeks into it the school called and asked for a meeting. They had gotten every teacher in the school to observe him and they all aggreed that he had issues. The school have been wonderful and very supportive. The medical field is very lacking in help and resourses. I just want him to be the best he can be and get the help he needs. You guys are lucky to have the professionals you need. In a city of 120,000 we have one person who deals with this problem. I will let you know how the appointment goes when we eventually get one!

Denise - posted on 04/19/2009

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I just wish I would have had my son now 6 tested at 4. It would have same him and everyone involved alot of stress and anxiety. Once tested at 5 we found out he was 98 out of 100 kids. So he is currently on Concereta and it is wonderful.

Kathy - posted on 04/17/2009

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Hey Sarah, not sure what the medical field can safely diagnosing, but if your "mommy gut" is telling you that youre seeing signs, dont ignore it. I tried to tell my childs pediatrician when she was 3 yrs old that she was adhd, but he wouldnt listen to me. he said it was "just the age". her 3rd grade teacher finally got him to sit up and take notice that we were dealing with. sometimes you have to fight to make sure that we get the medical attention that we need. but you know what they say, the squeekiest wheel gets the grease! keep squeekin!! best of luck Sarah

Kimberly - posted on 04/16/2009

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Well here in our area the pediatricinas will not diagnose nor medicate adhd, odd, things along that line, they refer it to the neurologist. i dealt with the critiscism(sp) about medicating her and my answer to those people was well you take her to live with you and watch her daily struggles and outbursts and then tell me you wouldnt do all u could to help her be a better person and to reach her potential..noone askes anymore, they all have learned its not their business and they always say how proud they are of her grades etc...i always throw in my lil word like YEA thanks for the meds...her and i uused to battle like crazy, now we are best friends since they have her meds evened out and she has learned to deal with her issues and to be above it and try her hardest..she is a very happy tween i wouldnt change a thing about her now...

Narelle - posted on 04/16/2009

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wow kim that is terrific...they say kids with ADHD are super intelligent and I believe these kids need the medication to be able to achieve there best so they can concentrate. I have never heard of seeing a neurologist for a diagnosis what a good idea...I have been highly criticised about putting my son on medication and people who believe ADHD is an excuse for bad behaviour...well its not its real and only people with our children understand...I was pleased to read your story with a positive outcome..

Kimberly - posted on 04/16/2009

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My daughter was properly diagnosed by a neorologist at the age of 5, i in my heart beleive its started at about 6 months old, she was never sleepy and had the worst tantrums, to me they were early signs of what was yet to come, she is now 11 and medicated and sees a neurologist regulary, and counselors at school have been wonderful.good luck and have him tested asap, i always tell parents that are not quite sure about meds i feel it was the best gift i could have ever given to my daughter. she is a straight A honors student..

Narelle - posted on 04/16/2009

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I knew my son had Adhd from age 3 as I use to baby sit a boy as a teen with it and knew the signs, but I waited till he went to school and completed his first year before considering my options..

Sarah - posted on 04/15/2009

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We have a docors appt next week so Im keeping my fingers crossed...he has so many of the same characteristics of my oldest son and I have have 2 other boys who show no signs and I hear all the time its this its that but if people dont get the fact this is a disorder and not lack of parenting then its all in their own opinion... it really doesnt bother me anymore. I know I do everything for them including getting them the help they need....thanks everyone for the feedback

Amy - posted on 04/15/2009

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Mine is almost 3 and every single dr. I have took him to has told me that he is adhd. And we have took him to counsilng also..and they say the same.

Cheryl - posted on 04/12/2009

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Hi Sarah! I think I knew from birth that there was something up with Heather. We started taking her to psychiatrists, counselors, etc. at four years of age. She was actually expelled from a pre-K program. Of course, as I now know is typical, family and friends thought it was just lack of discipline and my parenting and such. Ironically I had raised two sons before her and didn't have these issues but people didn't see it that way. I assume you take your ten year old son to a counselor and psychiatrist? Perhaps you should simply ask them about your other son and see what they think.

User - posted on 04/10/2009

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Get him tested ASAP



They tested our son when he wasn't quite 3. But they thought he might have autism.  We tested several times that year to make sure it was ADHD not Autism.



Better to know and be prepared than just stand by and wait.

Sarah - posted on 04/03/2009

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I have seen the same signs in my 4yr old for almost 2 years now too, I knew my oldest boy was ADHD before the doc's were able to complete all the assessments and such for a "proper diagnoses" Thanks to everyone who has replied :)

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My son turned six in February this year. He was diagnosed at the age of five by a Pediatric Neurological Development Specialist.

Sarah - posted on 04/01/2009

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Yeah I have been actually thinking this for awhile so I have asked my 10yr olds councellier and he said it requires him to be referred to a peditrition but I guess I was just wondering if it was going to be waste of time, and if they would actually do anything at this young of an age...I do however trust my feeling on this and think that I will be heading the same road with him...Thanks Rabecca

Rabecca - posted on 03/31/2009

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eventhough the doctors want you to wait until school age to do the actual testing and assesments I think you can tell years before that I think i had my first feeling that my son now 8 was heading down this road was at 6 months he was all ovetr the was all over the place ans really stubborn even throwing fits at that early of an age he had never been a good sleeper so by 1 he had stop taking naps because it woul be 3 in the morning before he would fall asleep he was never a kid to crash out in the car or while playing anything like that and he was alawys a great talker by three he talked like an adult but he did not have any kind of filter at all and hardly ever took a breathe while talking there were lots of other things the defiance and for sure he is a very a anxious kid around other kids as well as once school started the getting up all the time not doing what they are told the constent intrupting people and not chatching on to Q's such as body languge and noticing other reations to him but yep really I knew at a very young age and now we seem to have it under control after a long process of finding what meds worked for him. trust you feeling you know your child and you have been through it before and it is genetic apparently so talk to your doctor maybe with the family history you could nip it in the bud before school starts for him. I wish i could have had a dx before school started just to have saved him some of the troulble with teachers and other kids

Rabecca - posted on 03/31/2009

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eventhough the doctors want you to wait until school age to do the actual testing and assesments I think you can tell years before that I think i had my first feeling that my son now 8 was heading down this road was at 6 months he was all ovetr the was all over the place ans really stubborn even throwing fits at that early of an age he had never been a good sleeper so by 1 he had stop taking naps because it woul be 3 in the morning before he would fall asleep he was never a kid to crash out in the car or while playing anything like that and he was alawys a great talker by three he talked like an adult but he did not have any kind of filter at all and hardly ever took a breathe while talking there were lots of other things the defiance and for sure he is a very a anxious kid around other kids as well as once school started the getting up all the time not doing what they are told the constent intrupting people and not chatching on to Q's such as body languge and noticing other reations to him but yep really I knew at a very young age and now we seem to have it under control after a long process of finding what meds worked for him. trust you feeling you know your child and you have been through it before and it is genetic apparently so talk to your doctor maybe with the family history you could nip it in the bud before school starts for him. I wish i could have had a dx before school started just to have saved him some of the troulble with teachers and other kids

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