Newbie w/6yr old son w/ADD

Caran - posted on 01/13/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




Hi, I'm Caran. I have two boys, Bryce and Cam. Bryce was diagnosed with ADD last year, in kindergarten. We had suspected that he had ADD since he was a little boy, like 2, but of course the doctors won't even mention it then. He was always distracted while doing anything. He couldn't pay attention for more than a minute, and he would be off looking for something else to do. He isn't so much hyperactive, as inattentive.

Finally after many meeting with his kindergarten teacher, we got him tested, and he was diagnosed. We waited until he turned 6 (last June) to put him on meds. He takes Medadate, about 18mgs. We started with 20mgs but his ticks were too bad, and it just hyped him up too much. So we cut it down every morning, and he takes it with applesauce.

He tells us his brain isn't foggy anymore, and that his brain likes to do things now. Whereas before, he would hit his head and tell it to stop making things so hard to do. =)

We still struggle with afterschool time, melt downs and not wanting to do homework. He is also becoming not as social as he used to be. He doesn't want to go outside after school and play. He wants to play video games. So we are working with his dr. on that.

But his reading, writing, and math skills have improved dramatically since he has been on meds. I honestly don't think he can handle school without them at this point. But I am very interested in learning ways of dealing with this without meds, if possible.

Thanks for reading, and I hope to learn from this group, and possibly help others out too.



Nancy - posted on 01/15/2009




Hi!  I want to tell you things will get better.  Both of my boys diagnosed at about the same age. They are in their 20's now and doing well.  Both in college and working with a number of friends. You are doing everything right. 

About homework.... You can talk to teachers about the meltdowns with home work.  I foud that my boths oth worked so hard at school to keep things togete and on an even keel that by the time they came home they were mentally exhuasted. I was able to get the teachers modifiy the amount of homework each night focusing on what was critical.  We sent a daily log back and forth to keep us working on the same page.  Eventually both of my boys got a 504 plan. This is not special ed but recognizes that ADHD interferes in all aspects of their life and can provide accommodations which can lessen the stress.  A book I found helpful was 'How to Reach and Teach ADD/ADHD Children' by Sandra Reif.  It was helpful for me and the teachers.  Another thing I found helpful was joining C.H.A.D.D. (Children and Adults with Attenton Deficit Disorder)  They are a national nonprofit with groups meeting monthly.  There may be a group meeting in our community. They were great for keeping me informed with what is happening in ADHD research. It gave me a network of people in my community who were going through similar things I was and I could talk to.  Some of those members became great friends.

My boys were on meds too.  I looked at them as a tool to help teach them the social skills/ behavioral skills that they needed to become good citizens. Otherwise, they just missed so much of the social cues that they/we were often frustrated.  Meds helped.

One last thing that helped me was not to think of ADHD as a deficit but as a GIFT.  ADHD kids are often very bright with a unique way of looking at the world and accomplishing their goals.  They often are very creative.  It was helpful for my family to focus on what they did well and guide them towards their gifts.

Hope this is helpful.



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Debbie - posted on 01/16/2009




There is a great book that gives parents tools to help their kids in school.  It is Right Brained Children in a Left Brained World.  I read before I started homeschooling my then 4th grader because of ADD issues.  It is really helpful.

Gale - posted on 01/14/2009




My son is 5 years old. We just found out in Dec 08. I knew he had alot of energy but he was outgoing. When he started Kindergarten he lock up. He was going to be held back b/c the teacher didn't think he knew anything. Now he is doing great. He told me he loves to learn. And with a schedule after school tantrums are very low.

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