Stealing

Robin - posted on 02/22/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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My 9 year old son has ADHD, OCD, Mood disorder. Every morning he goes into the kitchen and takes a lot of food, and candy. When you ask him he denies it and becomes very aggitated. Even when you catch him red handed he will deny it. He lies about everything also lately. I am at my wits end and don't know what to do?

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Julie - posted on 03/05/2009

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My 9 year old son has same three diagnosis and he steals all the time. Sometimes it is things that he wants that belong to someone else and others it is just stupid things that he sees and takes (like a pipe from his grandmas house?) We really noticed more of the impulsive behavior when they started him on prosac. I decided to take him off the medication and it has gottena little better but he still takes things. Some of it I don't think he is able to control it is part om the impulsivity that comes along witht hte disorder. The only thing I know to do for my son is take privaleges away and we constantly remond him that it will get him in a lot of trouble one day when he is a teenager and that he could go to jail.

Hellsbells2311 - posted on 03/05/2009

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OMG I thought it was me!!!! My son is going through the assessment stage now but the more I read these posts the more I see my son!! Aidan has stolen money, food (half hour after eating on some occasions) twice he has stolen from a shop (both occasions I made him take it back and face what happened). In response to the money I called our local police officer and after explaining the situation to him, he came and spoke to Aidan, which I think scared him more than anything.......until he started laying into his sister and wouldn't stop (again I called the local bobby). As for the food we banned Aidan from going in the kitchen for a month, harsh maybe, but I have to teach him and the others that stealing is not acceptable.

Ariel - posted on 02/23/2009

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My daughter is also 9 with ADHD. Part of the disorder is compulsion. They act without thinking about the consequences. It is an ongoing issue. I don't think he is really going to understand or care for that matter that if he keeps it up he may end up in jail one day. That is going way to far in the future for a child with ADHD. There has to be the one thing that he will resond to. It is hard sometimes to find it. Maybe if you steal something of his everytime he steals from you. He may not even care at first. But put the stuff away and after a while he will realize all of his stuff is gone. Then you can work something out that for everyday he does not steal he can have one of his belongings back. It might work. Every child is different and some kids react differently. Remember it won't happen overnight. He will probably act like he doesn't care if you take his things. But soon enough he will.

E'Lisa - posted on 02/22/2009

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Tell him if he keeps up with the stealing if could get him into trouble with the law. Explain that although what he is doing now isn't a major offense, it can become habit and lead to real trouble.

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I have done the same. Privileges, timeouts, reward system, everything! It's hard too when they have no concept of consequences. It's like a compulsion. They cant control it.

Robin - posted on 02/22/2009

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I have been taking away privelages for a few years now, same with timeouts and they dont seem to be working.

Tina - posted on 02/22/2009

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take away privileges he likes when he is lying that way he will u know u mean business

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