Kids struggling in school

Amy - posted on 01/25/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )




Does anybody have a 9 or 10 year old that is struggling with his grades at school?

Our 9 year old is in 3rd grade and up until last year everything was great! He loved school. He got good grades etc... Now all of the sudden this year his grades are dropping and he's always saying how he hates school. I've spent alot of time up at the school and turns out there are alot of kids in his class that are really mean and misbehave. I don't know what to do since they're not my kids.


Kay - posted on 03/23/2010




You simply MUST go to the vice principal or principal and tell him/her what's going on. It is not fair for a poor little boy to now be hating school. There will be a reason why he hates school now, and it will not be his fault. Plus it means he is unhappy and he doesn't deserve that.My experience is different to yours because my 3rd grader has always struggled academically so we had him assessed a couple of years ago [psychologist, audiologist etc] and it turns out he can't hear with background noise and he doesn't have a very high IQ. So we engaged the school [we went higher than just the teacher] and asked them to put in place certain strategies to help him, which they did. His grades are still low but they will always be low. We don't care. He's happy and no longer frustrated and that's all we care about. Good luck!


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Trudi - posted on 02/22/2009




my daughter is nine years old and in 4th grade, she has really had a struggle this year, she has always been very social but unfortuantly as they get older the cool factor comes in and I have never let her play with brat dolls (yuck)which I guess the cool girls at school do. she is very artistic and I have always taught her that it's not all about following the crowd. The playground seems to be all about who is cool and fashionable now. She has fallen behind in grades and has some mean girls at school. I have talked to her about finding new friends but everytime she does they end up ditching her for the meanest gril in school ,it is driving me nuts! Her class has 35 kids in it and it seems like she is getting behind because of this. I am thinking of changing schools but I don't know if I should move her again. She has been begging me to homeschool her, that is not going to happen. I live in San Diego so I was considering placing her in a magnet school. Has anybody had a magnet school experience?

Amy - posted on 02/18/2009




Thank yall both very much for replying!

Renee, I agree, 3rd grade is a tough year. I will try some of the things you mentioned. Thanks for your help!

Sami, I agree, we never went through terrible two's actually with Jacob (our 9 year old). He has always been the sweetest little boy ever but man it seems like we are sure going through something now! it must be something about 9. I'm so glad to hear your daughter had a happy ending though. That gives me hope =)

Sami - posted on 02/10/2009




9 years old is a tough age... My daughter is about to turn 10 and 9 seemed to be worse then the terrible 2's.  School was an issue with her in the 3rd grade. We had our ups & downs. Not doing homework, forgetting it... There were a lot of times that she stayed on punishment. No trips to the park or to fun places or even watching tv. If she didn't do something that she was supposed to do for school things would be taken away. Now in 4th grade she's an A student...

User - posted on 02/10/2009




There is really nothing you can do about the other kids in the class. You can try to help him stay away from the mean boys and find friends more like himself. I think school is very hard for boys. They naturally want to be very active. I remember reading an article about our school system is not optimal for boy learning b/c it requires them to sit for long periods of time. I also think that third grade is a tough year. They learn alot of new information. Maybe he is finding the work difficult. Talk to him and be patient. This year will end soon enough. Hope this helps.

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