Tricia - posted on 07/01/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )




I am a mother of a soon to be 4 year old Autistic child. In October I have to have a major surgery. I will be in the hospital for 5-7 days and then I will be bed bound for at least two weeks after and I won't be able to lift for 2 months. My biggest concern is trying to get my daughter to understand why I won't be able to pick her up. Also, should I let her come to the hospital to see me? I have never been without her that long? I need some HELP!


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Jennifer - posted on 08/01/2010




Yes, let your child know about what you will be going through. I have had to have multiple surgeries in the last six months. I have three autistic children ranging from 7(severe), 6(mild w/ mild mental retardation) and 2(yet to be decided). I sat them down and explained the whys, wheres, hows and whos to them. Obviously, I did not take them to the hospital with me. But we talked on the phone, marked the time and discussed what I was doing in the hospital to the best of their understanding. The two year old was the least understanding of course. I also made sure to leave a spot next to me for her to sit with me. I would just casually move her over to a seat and then guide her to sit beside me when she need that physical closeness.

Liz - posted on 07/15/2010




I think that you need to consider how your child will react to being in the hospital and seeing you in that situation, if you think she will be fine, then go ahead and take her.

If you have concerns but still want her there then make sure to speak to her before hand and if possible write up a social story about your hospital visit. You can use a story to address that you will not be able to pick her up for a while, you can even put the dates on the calendar if your daughter likes to refer to calendars and dates.

Tara - posted on 07/13/2010




Yes you should treat her as if she was not Autistic. Let her visit you, let her do what she can for you and with you. Autistic kids are not dumb or clueless, there is a lot going on up stairs, it is just difficult for them to get it out.

Ashley - posted on 07/02/2010




Yes your baby girl deserves to be by your side and she will understand something about whats going on it all depends on how she reacts

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