Are any of you moms biracial?

Shaina - posted on 11/21/2009 ( 121 moms have responded )

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I ask because it seems like almost everyone is the mother of a biracial child, but not actually biracial themselves.

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Shea - posted on 08/23/2011

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I am multi-racial and a mother. I see messed up kids on a daily of all races. Strong parents make strong children. The unfortunate truth is prejudice and racism are well and alive and always will be. Fortunately we have choices. Either roll over or continue the fight. I say all of this because it's not one sided black women who hate on white women..believe I've dealt with Caucasians in general with far worse slights then hitting on my man or being rude. It's all bogus..we all bleed red at the end of the day. no matter cultural or ethnic differences. just saying...

Jessica - posted on 01/15/2010

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LOL, most all people in this world are technically one race (human). Most of my family is creole, and I have no idea how many flavors we are, but I can tell you that most people nowadays are a mixed with a little of everything.

Elina - posted on 01/03/2010

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oh and if you think white people have a monopoly on racism, you are sadly sadly mistaken.

Sue - posted on 06/21/2014

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i am a single mom who is black and white 1 child has a black father and the other 4 have a white father and again i am a SINGLE parent when i was growing up i was the only one who was mixed in school and used to take alot of crap from both sides it was i was either too dark for white people or too light for black people. now its so common here in upstate new york nobody bats an eye.its how you teach your kids to feel about themselves that make the most importance cuz no matter where you go your bound to run into ignorance.

Debbie - posted on 05/24/2013

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I'm multi-racial. I'm Lipan Apache, Mexican, and Spanish. My kids father is white (we don't know anything about his lineage). Our kids are very interesting and a diverse mix of our genetic make up. I find it facinating. :)

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Amber - posted on 07/10/2013

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Hi, I am scottish, Irish, Native American, and a little German. I also have African American cousins. My children are mixed also mixed black/ white.

Lucille - posted on 05/27/2013

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Hi I am a biracial mom. I have two children now 21 and 19. My family are biracial
My sisters and brothers have causation children and one African and ! light brown.
Well had all this all my life...thinking about doing something artistic to show moms of Biracial children.

Flora - posted on 01/01/2013

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Dajovan, you must face your fears of what other people think. Why are you letting them get next to you? Your kids will be exposed to a lot, the same way I was. I don't think about it anymore. My parents did not emphasize it and we married people we loved regardless of what they looked like. Join a support group or therapy group that discusses this issue, If you think your daughter's life will be messed up, then it will be. If kids are taught their heritage then they will know be ok. I think you are letting the insecurities that were poured into your head control your life. It ain't a black and white, either or world. If your daughter grow up screwed up, then you ask yourself if you didn't have a lot to do with it. If you choose to, you can focus on the negative. Like you can focus on all the negative things the world has to offer. What is your payoff for focusing on negativity? As parents, we need to shed the all or nothing thinking associated with our ignorant young adult years. You have been given a sacred trust to care for a love a being from the Divine. focusing on the negative will bring more negativity. Only a person who loves the control of being negative will continue down this road. Do not fear love, embrace it.

Roxanna - posted on 09/08/2012

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I am of Dominican descent on both sides of the family where my ancestors were of African, Spanish and French descent. My Paternal Grandfather was Black and My Paternal Grandmother was White with Hazel Green Eyes. My oldest daughter's Father is Panamanian Black, with Indian and Spanish. My youngest daughter's Dad is Mexican of Apache, French and Spanish descent..../

Does that count?

Cindy - posted on 04/06/2012

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Actually yes I am biracial. I am also married to a man of Filipino descent who is also biracial. I had a co-worker tell me that she did not believe God intended for races to intermarry and I had to laugh at her. She meant color should not inter marry. As she was also in a mixed marriage...her and her hubby were not of the same racial descent. Why she tried to credit that to God is beyond me as I believe God did intend for races to intermarry. (To much discussion to go into on this subject)

Color does not determine if you are biracial. I am of a white appearance but a mix of several races as is most of those who live in the U.S. And my children are stable. They have traditions passed down from both sides of the family as I do!

TINA - posted on 04/06/2012

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I am biracial but not the way everyone thinks of biracial. Mo mother is Korean and my father is a white american.

Ellie Richardson - posted on 04/05/2012

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I myself am Multiracial.My mother is spaniard, My dads mom is full african american and his dad is creole.My husband is african american.

Kyrie - posted on 04/03/2012

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I know black children are not growing up fatherless because they are black skinned. It's fine to teach a child to be happy in their skin, but lately the way many people are going about the black is beautiful is causing much more racism in the black community. I know because I have to deal with it all of the time from both ends and while most white racists are racist out of simple ignorance, black racists tend to be actively teaching racism and thinking it's better. You think white children don't grow up fatherless? They do. You think biracial children don't grow up fatherless (regardless of whether their father's black or white)? They do. I can't stand racist comments. Every race is the same, the only differences are the ones that people teach and enforce. Even the idea and reasoning are different. If I talk to a white person about why they won't date a black person, 90% of the time it's because their parents won't approve and/or the way black people are portrayed in the media. All of my black female friends on the other hand say that white men are not attractive. ?!!!! While most black men don't discriminate. See the issue? On both ends, men will go for it regardless most of the time. People need to get over it.

Callie - posted on 04/02/2012

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Im sorry but there are a couple ignorant comments on here, some people have no idea what its like being bi-racial, so please don't judge. My mother is white and my father is black. My son is technically bi-racial; My husband is from Liberia, Africa, so he is black, so my son is about 75% black and the other white. In this day and age, im not classified as mixed, im classified as black, because people are to closed minded and ignorant to know the difference. Were all God's children and human, thats all that should matter.

Tj_shanell - posted on 09/21/2011

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I'm Bi-racial ( White and black) These days I'm white girl to everyone because over the years my hair has become fine and my skin light. My black grandma is half indian and yellow as can be. I do not deny my white side because that would mean denying my mother. However I do consider myself as an African-Amercan woman because that is the world I was raised in. My sons father is black and my son actually appears to look cuban or many say west Indian, but to me he is black and I am raising him to view black as beautiful. In my comunity black women are being left behind to raise their black children alone, yet most of the black men are very active in there byracial childrens lives. Yes this angers me. It is easy for my son to be taught the the typical white or light skin is the exceptable beauty in this world and I want him to know that he is just as beautiful as I am if not more.

Robyn - posted on 09/15/2011

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I agree with you u Ppl will start seeinging more and more mixed children and thats find cuz we are all human

Robyn - posted on 09/15/2011

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I my self am a bi racial mother my mother was white and Puerto rican and my dad was blk. My son dad is white although my son looks white he still is bi racial

Vyckie - posted on 09/13/2011

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I am, I am half white and half black. My twins are white and black and my daughters (from another marriage) are black white and puerto rican.

Melissa - posted on 09/01/2011

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I am, as is my daughters father. My current bf tho, that I've settled down w/ and am trying to start a family with is as white as they come so it'll be pretty interesting to see what our kids look like. My daughter, for her father being Filiphino, white and American Indian looks like a white girl except she has the Filiphino features such as her big forhead, nose and ears......people didn't believe she was mine when she was born because she was tan like her dad. lol

Jessica - posted on 08/16/2011

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I am mixed. I am Irish, Scottish, German, french, Italian, English, dutch, Swedish... OK, lets just say all of *points at that whole area* is in me. that and Hebrew(but not very much. so... I am mixed. I get lumped up into the "white" race a lot though(because that is the color of my skin). here's what I say.

yep. I am a person and my kids are people too.

I know this is probably going to come back to bite me for pissing someone off but... oh well.

technically, since I was raped by a person on native American decent, my oldest is part native American.

we don't talk about races. we talk about people. I treat nobody different by the color or lack of on their skin and I consider everyone people. I honestly don't understand things like this.

Amber - posted on 08/12/2011

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my grandfather is of Spanish descent. But my mom is half irish-english. I don't really know my dad. But I'm the only blonde hair blue eyed and as fair. I'd guess my dad was white since I don't know who he was.

Crystal - posted on 08/07/2011

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I am half white part mexican and part native american and my babies are all mixed with black...

Nina D. - posted on 08/04/2011

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Hi, my mother is african sudanese, my father greek cyprian, and i`m married to a norwegain, we have four children . So our children are 50% norwegian, 25% african and 25% greek.......:)

Christine - posted on 07/21/2011

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I'm half Taiwanese and half caucasian. My husband is black. Our kid will be 1/4 taiwanese, 1/4 caucasian, and 1/2 black.

April - posted on 04/07/2011

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I'm filipino/australian. My husband is filipino. So are kids are 3/4 asian and 1/4 white.

Kendra - posted on 01/29/2010

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I understand wat dejovan is saying im not mixed either but my siblings and most of my friends are and they always complained of being confused. especially those who look one race but are being raised by a single parent of another race. Or being raised in a community where the race u mostly look like is predominately another race. they want to belong to wats common but are not excepted by them until they branch out. My daughter use to get teased because im dark skin and my daughter is a tropical complexion wit fine curly hair and teachers and peers u to ask her if she was black. I even had a school aide hand me a dark girl wen i went to pick of my daughter and i told her this aint my kid and wen i got my daughter they looked at her and me and sed she must look like her father. I can see the confusing in my daughter and i cnt do anything about it cuz its her grandfather who was 100% italian who also passed away 2 months after she was born so i have no info to help her deal wit those issues. But as for Dejovan i get wat u sed alot of older mixed children had conflicts wit who they shud be as far as wat they look like and wat they are and society didnt help especially yrs ago. for our kids now its a lil bit more acceptable due to multiraccial actors, singers, and models. they have somebody to compair themselves too.

Jennifer - posted on 01/29/2010

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I myself am not bi-racial however my husband. Our daughter is White (me), Mexican (Dad), and Korean (Dad). Right now she is only 4 months old so she has not experienced any racism and hope that once she gets older that she will not have to deal with it. Only time will tell as we grow.

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I am 1/2 African-American, 1/4 Caucasian & 1/4 Native American so when I was younger, I was never fully accepted by ANY race! I also grew up in a small country town where my mom & her family grew up before me & faced the same issues(they are all fair skinned & green/hazel eyed). Most of my friends were white (mostly because that was what was predominantly in my classes) so I was picked on unmercifully by most black schoolmates saying that I wanted to be white. My hair was different so I was accused of having a spiral perm & "trying to be white" when I wore my hair curly. I was very pale as well which didn't help either with my black folks! But on the flip side, the government said I was black, my dad was full African-American, I had been called a n***** or two along with others in my community, I had to use hair grease & lotion, etc. Now here I am married to a white man with a beautiful daughter that I have to oil her hair & she has to put lotion on, but is mostly accepted by the white community & just had her first encounter last summer with racism because I put her in a mostly black summer camp where she was told she couldn't sing certain songs by a fellow camper because she had to be black! Guys, this ignorance has to stop! We are in 2010 & are still having the same hang-ups & issues as when we were back in our younger years! We need to educate our multi-cultural babies so that they don't go through the same things we had to endure growing up! We need to support each other & I thought that's what this page was for, not making nasty comments & then saying "no offense" behind them! So if you feel that strongly about bi-racial kids to call most of them "messed up", maybe this is not the page for you! Maybe it would be better to find a hate group to join instead... I am new to this page & I know this is an older post, but this was the first thing I saw when I came on here & I felt compelled to respond in kind. Everyone be blessed & I look forward to more positive information in the future!

Amanda - posted on 01/19/2010

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i sure am and proud of it. being bi racial doesn't make you messed up. yeah bi racial children go through an identity crisis of some sort but, all kids do. how you react to being biracial is, for the most part, based on how your parents brought you up to react. if your parents made it seem like it was a bad thing or a taboo then that's how you'll think of it. it, like many other things in life, mind over matter. i don't mind so it doesn't matter. that's my opinion based on living life as a biracial child and having a daughter who is multiracial.

April - posted on 01/18/2010

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I am biracial..My mom was white and my dad is black..So obviously my children are also biracial..But their father is also biracial..We all mixed up over here..

Brittney - posted on 01/17/2010

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im mexican, native american, english, irish, welsh, german, and french. I look pretty whit though only cuz my dad was half mexican and half native american and irish and then my mom was english irish welsh german and french. so my son is half everything i am and then half black.

Trish - posted on 01/17/2010

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I'm bi-racial. My mom is German while my dad is Vietnamese, Chinese, and French. I don't think my daughter will have any problems. I didn't!

Carole - posted on 01/15/2010

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Hello, I am biracial and have children who are also biracial and yes we are all fine. I don't feel like i have to choose any one race. I am very proud of who i am and what i have achieved as a mother and woman. good luck to you and god bless.

Shantae - posted on 01/15/2010

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i am i mixed with white black and Indian i have two girls my olds is more white and Indian with just a little black and my youngest is black white Indian and Mexican

Valencia - posted on 01/14/2010

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I read through EVERY post, lol......I'd like to bring out something that no one has really talked about and get some opinions on it! :) To me I often tell people that almost every African American person is "mixed" for the most part. The only difference is that most of us can't trace it back to exactly where it comes from. There was a really interesting show on PBS where a geneticist was trying to help some high profile African Americans such as Quincy Jones, Oprah Winfrey and some others that I cannot remember to try and figure out what part of Africa their ancestors were most likely from (due to the fact that during slavery they didn't keep those types of records on black people so it is impossible to find a paper record of where you come from if your ancestry involves slavery). Well - low and behold the suprising result was that for many of the people they tested they found out that the majority of their genetic makeup wasn't even African. It was combinations of African, European, Native American and even Asian (Oprah came up with having some Chinese descent). I personally view myself and am viewed as a black woman, but in all honesty, my biological father (I'm adopted) is half black and half white (white mother/black father). On my biological mother's side her dad is Creole and her mom has some type of black and also Indian ancestry, so in all honestly if we didn't live in a society that tends to consider you black no matter what other things make up your heritage I might be considered mixed as would so many other black people. Just my .02. :) My kids' dad is Dutch, Polish and something else I've forgotten but they can trace their family back to one of the sister ships of the Mayflower. I am big into ancestry and it has been refreshing to be able to tell my kids some actual facts of their heritage since it is so difficult to trace my own due to the facts stated earlier as well as being adopted.

Tammy - posted on 01/14/2010

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I am.. my father was a mix of many things.. my mother is 1/2 mexican from her mother who was full mexican, her father was Irish and more.... so that pretty much makes me heinz 57 as my father used to put it. I am pretty sure if we were to really dig into it you would probably find some african american in there also. My older sister and one of my older brothers have beautiful aa features.



My husband is also biracial... we both look white but are not totally.

Jamilia - posted on 01/14/2010

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i am..andim very happy to be..my mother is potuguese and itlian and my father is black..then my daughter is mixed with what i have and her daddy is white..so yes we are out here! lol..and to you..my mother taught me all my heritages matter nomatter what color..and i am far from missed up...if you understand and know how to balance this it should not be a problem..and i chose to date who ever i wanted to because of what my mother taught me..

Hillary - posted on 01/14/2010

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My mother is polish and cherokee, and my "sperm donor" was black (my mother was raped at the begining of my parents marriage and out popped me!). My daughter's father is black. My husband is white.

Jessica - posted on 01/14/2010

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I am mixed, black and white. My husband is black. The first time I was asked the race of my baby, I had to pause because I guess she is still considered two races, LOL! Growing up and being mixed I honestly didn't know I was any different until about 5th grade when one of my classmates asked me if I was white or black? After that I do believe I had a bit of a complex and it wasn't until college that I became confident with who I was. To this day the majority of the people who see me think that I am either white or they speak spanish to me, LOL! People are completly taken aback when I tell them I am mixed with black and white. People that know my husband assume he is married to a "white girl" and I think he had problems with that for a couple of years but I told him that is his personal problem, you shouldn't care what people think and perhapes he has a little race issue himself, if it is such a big deal to you that people "know" you are not married to white person. My daughter has a tanned complexion, how I would look in the summer. Being that he is very dark skinned and so is my daddy I just knew my black side would finally come out, LOL...but nope as in other posts on here, you never know what color your child will be when they come out. I had a friend growing up who had white mother and black father and they had four children, the oldest one looked the most ethnic and the youngest looked white. As of right now my daughter has soft curly hair but I expect this to change as mine did throughout my life. I just want to raise my daughter knowing and respecting both sides and all races. I want her to know that everyone is different/same regardless of her skin tone. I want her to have black, white, mexican, asian, ect. friends and feel free to date whoever she wants to. Perhapes this ideallyic but I believe that if you teach your child about who they are and realistically about other people and to not always sugarcoat things they have the ability to grow up just fine as birracial children. The important thing is to let them know about who they are and who there family is, and to build pride for their ethnicity. Secretly growing up I thought I was really cool when we celebrated Martin Luther King day because I was a product of the dream :)

Vangie - posted on 01/12/2010

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I am bi racial. I am spaniard/black. In reply to Dajavan Meekins. I am not messed up! I am doing quite well and am very intelligent. I have seen so many messed up one race ppl too but I don't go throwing my uneducated opinion around. My parents taught me both sides of my heritage. It is the world around us that couldn't accept who we were and tried to figure us out..So please stop offending Biracial ppl!

Caroline - posted on 01/12/2010

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i am half mexican half white. my son is half black quarter mexican and white

Interracial Family Organization - posted on 01/09/2010

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I do not mean to be defnsive. I jumped into the conversation beacause it is personal to me. I am in an IR relationship. I have biracial children. I am part of a very supportive IR community where I live and on line. I have started an on line organization that brings multicultural/interracial individuals and families together.

www.interracialfamily.org
MISSION STATEMENT- To facilitate the cultural recognition of interracial/multicultural families and disassociate this culture from longstanding stigma by exposing and discrediting stereotypes.

Generalizations drag everyone into it and feed the negative steotypes.
The perspective given was not the truth, it was opinion. So, I have my opinion, that I would like to express to balance out the conversation.

When the loudest and most frequently heard voices are telling the stories about the tragidy, struggling, indentity crisis, kids not being accepted, then people like the Justice of the Peace in Louisiana believe their reasoning behind not marrying IR couples is sound and justified. He believed the children would be 'messed up' and that IR marriages don't last. He has a very tiny world view from his front porch.

Some biracial children have issues because of the race issue. So, how come some do not? I agree the issues are more likely to be a reflection of the family (and community). Poor parenting and dysfunctional families produce a lot of 'messed up' kids. Biracial children didn't get immunity. Being born biracial wasn't the problem or the reason for them being 'messed up'.

So, it is time to take this in a different direction. America created this through our ugly racial history. We obviously have started down a more positve path by the majority of our citizens electing an American President of color. My goal is to replace the negative with the positive. My goal is to help people learn how to effectively and positivly handle racism/prejudice. Screaming and self rightous anger does not get anyone to listen to you or win them over to your side. I want to empower families/individuals to stop allowing other people to dictate what race you are or how you are suppose to act because of what color you are.

Race gives a description of what you look like. Your family, your community, your heritage, your spirituality, your persoanlity is your identity. By no means are we in a post racial society. I don't even have hope my children would see something like that in their lifetime. But, we need to move forward and join the bigger divervse world family.

Mullticultural/interracial people have an advantage. Even if the grew up in a crappy family/community.

Brenda - posted on 01/08/2010

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I am biracial. My mother is white and my father is spanish. Growing up, I did not even know my dad's name til I was twelve. My family always made it sound as if he were a big Mexican hat, wrapped himself in a wool blanket, had a big mustache, and spoke really bad English. Growing up I always felt less than everyone else, not because of my race but because I did not "have a dad". I met my dad at 25, he was just like anyone else, even had green eyes, my family's prejudice just made him something he was not. My children are white and spanish from me and their father is Japanese from Okinawa. What my childhood taught me is that no child should ever feel less than or bad about either their birth circumstances or their race. I love my children, accept them, taught them to be proud of everything they are, and kept them away from any judgemental, bigoted family members. This gave them the confidence to accept their mixed heritage, embrace each part for it's uniqueness, and be proud of themselves. They don't have the problem being biracial, and they don't let others prejudice change their feelings. Give your kids love, acceptance, and appreciation for difference and they will have the confidence to face anything the world shows them with grace.

Kasha - posted on 01/08/2010

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Rebecca, I appreciate your comments. However I wanted to share this with you. As a person who comes from a multi-ethnic background, I believe in this bill of rights. Only I can determine my identity and what I choose to call myself. Your childrens experience may not reflect what you think or believe. You will be shocked as to what they may share with you as years to come. Be cautious of euphoric place you are presenting. On another note share this bill of rights by Maria P Root.



Bill of Rights for People of Mixed Heritage



I HAVE THE RIGHT...

Not to justify my existence in this world.

Not to keep the races separate within me.

Not to justify my ethnic legitimacy.

Not to be responsible for people’s discomfort with

my physical or ethnic ambiguity.

I HAVE THE RIGHT...

To identify myself differently than strangers

expect me to identify.

To identify myself differently than how my parents

identify me.

To identify myself differently than my brothers and

sisters.

To identify myself differently in different

situations.

I HAVE THE RIGHT...

To create a vocabulary to communicate about

being multiracial or multiethnic.

To change my identity over my lifetime--and more

than once.

To have loyalties and identification with more

than one group of people.

To freely choose whom I befriend and love.

© Maria P. P. Root, PhD, 1993, 1994

Rebecca - posted on 01/07/2010

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This is to deana...i cried when i read what you wrote! how terrible for you, growing up my parents and I would argue over the worth of a black person & I was always told I could have them as friends but nothing more & stupid crap like their blood is differnt than ours ect. When I left home I met the most beautiful black man & fell in love. My father immediately disowned me for being a nigger lover & tainting the family blood line. i have two amazing & beautiful children with that man. we are no longer together and i can tell you my dad has come to love his grandchildren despite what he was taught as a child. i hope in time your family will get wise also 7 stop hurting you, until then you have us! Please heal your heart.

Rebecca - posted on 01/07/2010

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Quoting Dajovan:

No I am a Black women and thus this is why I have joined this support group because no offense to you I have seen to many messed up mixed kids. I worry about my daughter having a complex or some kind of identity issues because of racism and or wanting to fit in and thus I am using this site for support. I believe a big reason why a lot of biracial kids are so messed up is because a lot of their parents don't understand that racism exist and then the other side won't teach them their heritage and thus the child is torn between who they should choose or if they can just be themselves. That is all I have to say.



That is so sad! I have taught my kids their black heritage because I knew they wouldnt learn it in school. They have never experienced racism or wondering where to fit in, they are just themselves. They have grown into wonderful people with no color, as it should be.

Rebecca - posted on 01/07/2010

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I think I dislike the word biracial almost as much as the N word. We are all one race. I call my children bicultural. I check the other box for them & write in bicultural even. I am bicultural but on the lighter side of things, meaning I am Scottish, Irish, Dutch, French, German & Cherokee, lol.

Shawnna - posted on 01/07/2010

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I am a mixed raced individual and I grew up with many of those qualities that you mentioned about mixed kids . I think that if the parent that is raising the child exposes them to all sides of their mixed culture , then that child will have no need to feel confused. I know growing up I had no connection with my German side of the spectrum but on my own I started to do research and find about the culture.

Valeen - posted on 01/07/2010

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Yep Im Biracial... Black and White... My Biological father had passed away when I was 3 months and my mother had remarrid my stepfather when i was 3... So I grew up with a white family... I never really noticed I was diffrent till I started elementary school... Luckily the city we live in was very diverse so it wasn't a huge issue for my family and I... My Son is Black White and Dominican... Daughter is also black and white... Love my beautiful babies!!!

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