Bi-racial hair

Adrian - posted on 04/24/2010 ( 48 moms have responded )

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My two year old daughter is black and white, and her hair is a mess. It's soft, but her curls are so small and tight that I can't get a pick through it without her crying. It dries out so quickly and I need a good product that will help with the naps and keep her hair smooth. I've relaxed it with a just for me kids kit, and I've had it braided. I've tried pink lotion, olive oil cream, leave-in conditioner, mousse and ringlet. Please help!!!

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Lori - posted on 05/06/2010

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my daughter has the same issues with the dryness, I use Carole's daughters, Tui line. it is fabulous her hair is soft and bouncy. I was also just introduced to Mixed Chicks. stay away form anything with alcohol in it or petroleium. My daughter is 7 and I dont use shampoo in her hair at all unless there is build up. I rinse her hair weekly and wash it with the conditioner. there is enough surfectants in it to clean the hair without stripping the natural oils. I learned this from a black hairdresser. good luck and hugs to you

Manige - posted on 04/28/2010

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Do not relax her hair. Let me repeat. DO NOT RELAX HER HAIR! You will do damage to her tender and fragile scalp, pores and follicles.
It would be beneficial to watch the doc. "Good Hair" by Chris Rock
If you need a starting place, start with wither CurlyQ's or Mixed Chicks. Buy all of the steps that they offer. Don't pick and choose. Follow the directions. Don't wash her hair more than once a week. Only comb it when its wet and has a moisutizer in it. Don't use normal baby products on it.
I don't know if you have any contact with her black family, but get some tips from the women. If you're not in contact with them ask a black woman. It may be awekward but if you're asking from a place of concern for your daughter anyone will help.

Sarah - posted on 04/26/2010

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Use Mixed Chicks! www.mixedchicks.net....It smells good and it is not too heavy. It will leave her curls soft. I wash my little girl's hair 1-2 per week. I wash and condition it. After you put conditioner in it comb it out in the tub with a wide toothed comb. After she's out of the tub I use a fine toothed comb to get any fuzzies. I then part it and put the mixed chicks leave in conditioner, She bends over and I shake her hair out and crunch it up. Everyday I wet it with a spray bottle, put some mixed chicks in it, comb it with a wide toothed comb, then the fine toothed comb, shake & crunch!

TINA - posted on 08/11/2012

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I wash my daughters hair every single day and have no problems with dryness. I use organic virgin coconut oil for my daughters hair and its great. It smells good you can find it a any grocery store with the oils (it comes in a solid form that melts when yourub it together) and just finger come it through her hair and massage it into her scalp. I do it right before bed and it helps her relax to go to sleep. Then use a satin pillow for her to sleep on. Her hair is great and doesnt break off and grows well. I also trim it every other month to keep it healthy. Another thing i do is part it in fours and braid it. Since I started doing that it has grown quite a bit. Her hair is to her shoulders now when I stretch it out not that you can tell since its so curly.(to collar when curly)

Ashley - posted on 07/20/2012

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I HAVE TWO BIRACIAL CHILDREN ANDF I USE THIS PRODUCT THAT U CAN GET FROM FAMILY DOLLAR IT COMES IN A TWO PACK WITH SHAMPOO AND DE- TANGLER.... ITS CALLED JUST FOR KIDS...........THE SHAMPOO IS PURPLE AND THE DE-TANGLER IS LIGHT YELLOW THEY ARE THE BEST PRODUCTS IVE EVER USED

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Shirley Kay - posted on 03/01/2014

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Shirley Kay - posted on 03/01/2014

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Hello my name is Kay. I'm a licensed cosmetologist. I've been doing hair for over 25 years. I love yo to do biracial hair it's very beautiful when you can manage it. Visit my instagram shirleykay40 or Web kaystouchofclass. Com I would recommend shampoo once every 2 weeks depending on what style. With motions conditioning shampoo and then follow up with the moisturizing conditioner, come hair while condition is in then rinse, comb hair starting at the ends working up toward the scalp.after comb out apply a nice foam wrapping lotion get from beauty Supply, motions is good, comb through hair about 3 or 4 pumps. Now if iron out you will blow dry using a paddle brush not allowing the hair to become tangled again starting at the end working towards the scalp if need section hair in 4 parts and do 1 section at a time from ear to ear and then part from front of head in the middle to back making a cross. After dry spray oil sheen and iron out. If you want to keep hair curly apply wave nuevo moisturizing finishing lotion. Get from beauty Supply apply according to how much hair. Put on every other day. Only palm size amount s hope this helps if not contact me.

Krissy - posted on 08/12/2012

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pink moisterizer!!!!!!!!!!!!! n keep it washed(1-2x a month) combed n braided or done in parts

Tifany - posted on 08/11/2012

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You should never relax a child's hair that early even my friends children who are full lack didn't start until 8 years old mostly 10 that could def be a reason the hair is so difficult I have 2 bi racial children and just for me products as well as mixed chic ( which is expensive) products worked well you also have to remember their hair will never look no matter what the way my hair (a white women) or your hair (a Hispanic women) will look they just don't have hat texture .... Leave in conditioners and not washing the hair every day will help with dryness

Nicole - posted on 08/04/2012

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I've tried everything mentioned in the replies and Blended Beauty products worked best on my daughter's hair. They have a good information page on what types of curls there are and which products work best on each curl type. I've always had to comb her hair while it's wet with LOTS of conditioner or leave in conditioner in. I have been able to find over the counter products that are cheaper and work almost as well over the years but it's a lot of trial and error. Good luck!

Katrina - posted on 07/28/2012

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I'm flatiron and a relaxer for a baby's is OMG Ridiculous , I so want to cry ... Please by all means don't do that, I know we come here to get extend info on stuff but geese come on , I'm sorry to say but common sense , or go to someone that has been doing it for years, I have interracial ( im hispanic and my husband is black) kids, I dont want to hurt their hair especially my daughter it beautiful and curly, I ask my sister in law on what to, as well as friends that would know..I want to be certain that each product I use is a natural component and will moisterize her head than lead to dry and damage hair. Just tears my heart to hear that people use relaxers on a baby head let alone a young child .

Barbara - posted on 07/16/2012

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Conditioner is the key. Wash her hair no more than once a week, use a good conditioner and blow dry her hair. You can use a flat iron, if her hair is that nappy, but never, ever use a relaxer. My hair looks like a gericurl when wet so if I am not planning on wearing it out, I use a leave-in conditioner, pull it into a pony tail and let it air dry. I can always flatiron it later if I want to wear it down. Hope this helps.

User - posted on 03/14/2012

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I would suggest NOT putting a relaxer in these children's hair. Please learn how to do it, a relaxer is not Good.

Autumn - posted on 03/01/2012

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i wouldn't recommend relaxing a two year old's hair with just for me that's the same as an adult relaxer, that could damage her hair.

Dym0ndangel - posted on 02/23/2012

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u should really stay away from relaxers those chemicals aren't good for anyones hair. If you have seen Chris Rocks documentary "good hair" it shows what those chemicals can do.



always de-tangle curly hair with a wide tooth comb when it's wet or with a conditioner in it.

should only wash the hair once a week unless it gets very dirty because it can cause the hair to dry out more.



It all depends on what hair type your child has as for what products work best.

Coconut oil is a very good moisturizer.

There is an organic hair care line called "Shea Moisture" they have it at walgreens i think some other places carry it as well. I really like the conditioner for my kids hair.

I also started making my own whipped shea butter to help with dry scalp and to lock in moisture for my kids curls, using unrefined shea butter and whipping it with oils such as castor oil, coconut oil, almond oil and some essential oils. they have lots of recipes online for that if interested.

Sharon - posted on 02/14/2012

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Relaxing babies hair is a BIG mistake, eventually the hair starts to break as the chemicals are not good for children...I would suggest you braid it weekly or fortnightly and grow the perm out. Then, i would wash it and blow dry it with a babyliss heated hair brush and just keep it braided, eventually the hair will become more manageable...Try babylove hair oil or indian hemp hair oil...Also try a leave in conditioner spray not mousse when you are drying it as it will stay soft and you can always add more until you have fully dried it... I have 6 children 5 have mixed hair, trial and error got me through...I wish you luck.x.

Pilly - posted on 01/31/2011

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I ordered mixed kids products for my one and half year old daughter who is biracial and got alot of curly hair but on second thought, can i use this products on her hair? are they baby friendly? Pleaseeeeeeeeeeeee help me.

Robin - posted on 05/16/2010

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My daughters hair is like that too Margaret. Whats on top is from birth, but the back is regrowth from losing her baby hair in the back.. VERY curly in back, soft and well, rather poofy on top. Two very different textures. I sure hope the mixed chicks works. My 2 yr old is now running through the house yelling "I a mixed chick" LOL

Margaret - posted on 05/16/2010

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This has been helpful for me to read. The hair on the back of my daughters head gets really nappy but the top is beautiful soft curls. So i have to condition and comb out the back but dont have to do much to the top. My husband knows how to take care of his hair but not for kids because he's an only child and all his fam is in NY so thank you! I'm going to try that mixed chicks stuff.

Robin - posted on 05/16/2010

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I have also used a texturizer on my toddlers hair. It was a last resort as I could not handle thetrauma even careful combin of her tight curls caused for her. I have only done it once as I just decided to find alternative products to help get through the curls. I am very much considering texturizing again as the longer it gets the more challenging it is. Mine was like that as a child, but now that I am older and it is long I absolutely love my hair where at younger ages I loathed it. So I am hoping for the same turnaround with hers as she ages. I think I too will try mixed chicks and see how that works. And don't let anyone offend you for relaxing her hair. As long as we are careful, our children will be fine!

Adrian - posted on 05/14/2010

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I ordered some mixed chicks and it just came in today. I'll let you guys know how it works! Feel free to continue to offer advice for my daughter's hair. I can use all the help I can get! Thanks girls!

Amy - posted on 05/13/2010

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I have 3 beautiful bi-racial daughters and 1 son, my 14 year old was my trial gurl!lol I have tryd just about everything from "ethnic" speciality products to VERY EXPENSIVE SALON PRODUCTS..all there hair is different so some products work better than others and as the get older it will change...its about trial and error. I now go to a Domincan hair salon and they seem to have the best handle on the variations in my girls hair.Wouldn't you know my son has the best bannana curls a girl could ask for! It will get better ohhh I wash there hair (yes for white people this is ODD=I would be a greaseball!) about once every two weeks with a conditioning shampoo and condition it every day with a spray on and every two to three days just use a regular conditioner.Hope this helps!

Aurley - posted on 05/11/2010

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Wow, I agree....... what is the point in becoming part of a discussion group when you have some knowledge of the possible pitfalls if you are then going to be so aggressive towards other Mums? Who someone chooses to have a child with is not your concern, be supportive, be a role model for your own kids and not someone known for catty remarks and using foul language where it is totally unneccesary!!
Adrian, I understand your issue as my daughter (2) also has a head of beautiful curls which although soft are becoming difficult to manage........ all (or I should say, most) of the other posters have given great advice, good luck. I may try some myself lol. Ignore the petulant and narrow-minded!

Christina - posted on 05/10/2010

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Janessa, I know this is not any of my business, but I think that you are a very rude person, Adrian was simply asking for advise, she has not been rude to you and yet you feel the need to treat her as if she is a horrible mom. Every mixed child's hair is not the same, and even my daughters pediatrician said it was safe to perm my little ones head. Maybe you should just not post in threads that you feel are troublesome. Every mommy needs help at some point, and that mommy needs help with her child's hair. She has no body that she can ask, so she turned to us. I feel like she should be respected for having the nerve to ask in stead of damaging her child hair farther. I am sorry if this comment upsets you, but I truly felt I needed to say something about your last post in this thread.

Chicory - posted on 05/10/2010

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Hi my baby doesn't have the nappy problem really but she dose have the driest hair of any human i have ever encounterd and for some reason its also really tangly which i found odd but what works best with her is the Profectiv Long n Healthy Anti-Breakage Mega Moisturizer its really really good i love everything profectiv makes but if that dosent work you can also try some main n tail conditioner or some African Pride Herbal Healing Leave In Conditioner i use that with the profectiv root health( i alternate days) for my hair and it works really well and my hair is a giant nappy mess when its not braided lol
if you cant find these products in the store you can go to texasbeautysupplies.com they should have it

Hope i was helpful ^_^

Christina - posted on 05/09/2010

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Hi, I have an 8 month old daughter, black/white mixed. She also has very soft hair. It is longer than most kids her age, but very curly. I use avocado oil mixed with water in the spray bottle that I use on her hair everyday. I have to say it is most definitely easier to comb her hair when it is wet, and the avocado oil acts as a natural conditioner and moisturizer. I am married to her daddy, so I have full access to the black side of her family, so if you ever have any questions, feel free to message me and I will ask them for you. Don't worry about people bad mouthing you, we all make mistakes as mothers, and my daughter's doctor said that the just for me kids kit was perfectly safe. We just have not had the need for it.

Aicha - posted on 05/08/2010

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I use olive oil and also henna in my daughters hair it makes her curls soft and fluffy and manageable

Joanne - posted on 05/08/2010

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I use detangler on my sons hair & i onli comb it when its wet as his hair is very tight, i also use a conditioner, for best results leave it in overnight. Goodluck

Adrian - posted on 05/07/2010

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First off, I'm a single white mother, and her black side of the family is not involved, so no one has ever told me any of these things, and the hairdresser said it was fine to relax it with a kids kit and just leave it in for 7 minutes. So, with that being said, anyone who is treating me like I'm horrible for relaxing her hair need not reply to this post to begin with. I asked for advice on hair products, not criticism on what I've already tried, because no, not everyone knows this stuff. So please DO NOT post anything degrading on this thread.

Elizabeth - posted on 05/07/2010

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I have a daughter just the same.I use head and shoulder tangled free conditioner and it did work.To she got older her hair change.And get more long and more tangled

Janessa - posted on 05/06/2010

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Why would you relax your two year old daughters hair? Please never relax a childs hair until pre-teen at least. Please use a leave in conditioner that is what this hair dresser that did my hair told me. My adopted mom who is white ruined my hair for so long because she did not know how to take care of it. I know the feeling just do not use relaxer on kids everyone knows it is wrong.

Rachel - posted on 05/06/2010

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My son is also two and bi-racial. He has a thick curly afro, with soft curls, but are also very tight. It sounds like he has the same hair type as your little girl because his hair dries out easily as well. We have had our troubles when it is time to comb his hair, but I've figured out a few tips and tricks you may find handy. During bath time is the best time to comb through his hair, I use a wide-tooth brush with rounded edges to comb through his hair AFTER I have washed and conditioned it. The conditioner helps to detangle his hair and when he's in the tub he's usually so distracted by playing in the water for me to notice that I'm brushing through his hair. I pat dry his hair and immediately put in two products: one, a product called Nu-Gro (for babies 6 months+) It is a combination of oils, many which are listed here-including coconut oil, jojoba oil, and olive oil. I put a tiny finger full in the palm of my hand, rub my hands together apply it to his hair. Then I use a simply curling mousse, by Smooth'n Shine polishing products, it also has jojoba oil, and use a generous amount to apply to his hair. I start with the ends of his hair and make sure I work the product down into the roots. Because it's a mousse for curls, it tames frizz, holds all day, and defines his curls beautifully while still keeping it soft. These products have worked wonders! You can find the mousse at Wal-mart, and the Nu-Gro probablly at a beauty supply store like Sally's. Good luck! :)

Jennifer - posted on 05/03/2010

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I use cocnut oil in my hair. You only need a small amount and put it in when her hair is damp. You may already know this, but I know alot of people who don't. When combing her hair start at the tips and work your way up to the scalp. If her hair gets tangled at night pull it back in loose pony tail(s) and loose braids- do not use rubber bands! there are plastic bands out that should work just as well.

Andrea - posted on 05/02/2010

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Try the other just for me hair products they have shampoo & cond., and a great oil moisturizing lotion. Only wash her hair once a week my dughter washes hers every sunday, that is all they need. Also maybe try some cholesterol all u have to do is wash her hair but the cholesterol on her hair and a shower cap leave it on for a couple of hours then rinse it out.

Chantelle - posted on 04/28/2010

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I use olive oil spray too, but from Palmers. I spray my sons hair right after baths, and in the morning. I also use Blended beauty products (www.blendedbeauty.com) for finger combing. If I have to use a comb, I do it after I put the oil in it, otherwise its a matted mess. I find it keeps his curls soft and manageable.

Crystal - posted on 04/28/2010

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I use Olive Oil Organic Root Stimulator. You can find it at near by Walmart or Sally's Beauty Supplies.

Erica - posted on 04/27/2010

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Hi!!! Try Infusium mixed with water in a spray bottle. Use it after you wash and condition it. Also there is a product by Paul Mitchell called "Super Skinny Serum"..It works wonders!!! Good luck!

Kellie - posted on 04/27/2010

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i habe just found the best product. i wash my daughters hair, condition it with plenty of conditioner, comb out the knots, towel dry it and then use AMLA OIL.. it is excellent, im in australia and i purchased it from an indian supermarket. its light, smells good and full of nutrients. it makes her curls just hang and look gorgeous.... def recommend it, hope you can find it!!!!!

Kelly - posted on 04/26/2010

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Have you tried Mixed Chicks? No need to comb it, just leave it as wet as possible and put the leave in conditioner in by combing it through with your fingers. It smells great and does wonders with the curl!

Alexis - posted on 04/25/2010

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CONDITIOIN CONDITION CONDITION. I am biracial (black and white) myself and the best thing that you can do with hair like ours is condition it! Try leave in conditioners when you try style it. Honestly, I am 23 yrs old and i dont brush my hair. It destroys my curls. Maybe if you finger comb her hair with leave in conditioner and maybe some pink lotion it would help. I personally dont recommend relaxing hair because i think it ruins the natural beauty of mixed curls, but again that is my personal opionion. Good luck!

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try vaseline. it might work. or else just regular olive oil, the stuff you cook with. put a bit in with her shampoo and with the water you use to rinse out her hair

Tina - posted on 04/24/2010

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i usually only combed my daughters hair when it was wet i would comb the conditioner throu it then when she got out of the shower i would just put it up in a pony tail so that it would not get so tangled through the night.. i use all of just from me product an finally relaxed it this years she is 3 it looks so much better also when u have it trimmed make sure the stylist knows to trim it at a angle almost like layering it it'll be so much easier to comb through if its trimmed that way.. get the spray detangler just for me that is all i use now.. dont use grease or braid it to tight it ruins their hair an that pink lotion hahah its for the birds cause it only makes it look greasy an doesnt help so just use the detangler an the shampoo an conditioner comb the cond.. thru her hair an patt dry with towel an sray the detangler on an always put it loosely in a pony tail for bed less snarls in the morning an always wet it down before u comb it cause she will cry if not the water will work up the detangler an cond from the night before an its going to be so much easier to comb through it also dont comb my bad i use a brush made especialy for there hair type got it at walmart i thing for like 10 or 15 dollars.. dont remember the name of it.. sorry hope this will help an remember after u relax her hair u have to keep doing it every 3 months or the new growth will be horrible to comb throu as well

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