Difference in skin tone?

Kristal - posted on 06/04/2010 ( 10 moms have responded )




My children are both mixed with white/black, my daughter was born first and had dark skin and tons of hair, my son was born bald and light as ever....why would their be such a difference in skin tone. I definitley want another child within the next 10 years and was just curious if I conceive again what the next child would look like! My husband thinks I'm crazy when I start talking about skin tones and features of our children.


Carol - posted on 06/13/2010




My son is way darker then my daughter and he looks more like me. On the other hand my daughter is pale and has blue eyes. They both have a red brown hair only hers has blonde highlights and roots from birth. My sons hair is starting to show the same pattern but his is more of a strawberry then blonde blonde. My husband can't wait for our daughter to get darker. I just hope she keeps her blue eyes.

Erika - posted on 07/29/2010




I have to agree it's just DNA. My two boys are biracial. I am Black my husband is white. My first child is much lighter than myself but looks tan year around. He has brown eyes and brown hair. My second has blue eyes and reddish/blondish hair. I love that my kids look different. A third child would be an anomaly. I could not even call how my child would look. But that's what makes having mixed children so wonderful. The differences.


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Morinade - posted on 07/20/2010




My two girls are the same way. My 2 year old has very light skin and her sister has a darker skin tone. It just has to do with genetics I think. I have a friend who is bi racial and she is lighter than her sister too

Heather - posted on 06/14/2010




There is no telling with genetics hunny! Both of my children are bi-racial ( black n white) and they look like white kids or possibly mixed with hispanic. am also curious to see what our 3rd child will look like . Sometimes with different fathers you can get different looks too. my genes were obviously more dominant in both of my children regardless.

Melissa - posted on 06/13/2010




It is funny how genetics work. I am mixed (black, white, asian) and my husband is white. My daughter came out very (vampire) pale with lighter blue eyes then her dad. Her hair was bone straight also and so people would look twice when I was lugging her around and his side of the family said she looked exactly like him. But, gradually toward the first year mark, her hair got curly and increasingly soft and frizzy in texture like my hair. I ended up having a son the second time around. And, people told me right away he looked more like me because of his skin complexion being more tan/yellow. But, his hair did the exact same thing as his sisters, only it took longer to get curly. And, his eyes are more my eye color, a green/grey. Who knows what will happen the next time!

Brittany - posted on 06/12/2010




your daughter got most of her genes from your hubbie, and your son from you. Mu daughter is pale with RED hair, My son is much darker.
God did it. He does what he wants, when he wants.
There really is nothing you can do to predict it. Who would have thought I would have a red head. People don't even think she's mine!

Bridgette - posted on 06/11/2010




I am black and my husband is white. My daughter was born first and has white skin, extremely thick, nappy hair and Asian-looking eyes. My sons skin is a touch darker has round eyes and has loosely curled hair. I was shocked when my girl was born. I even joked that I needed a maternity test. LOL. I just love them and am thankful that they are so beautiful:)

Heather - posted on 06/06/2010




Genetics mix up different each time. Even though both my parents are white, me and my 5 other siblings aren't all exactly the same shade. Both of my sister's tend to be very pale and are both blue-eyed blondes (one has freckles though and the other doesn't, the one with freckles also has curly hair and the other straight). And I'm a brown-eyed natural blonde whose hair gradually turned a fair brown over the years.

Skin variation is the same as any other feature.

My son was born white as all hell with a full head of straight brown hair (like me) and big dark gray eyes. He's darkened up more since then to where you can tell more that he's mixed and has a few really dark birth marks that are the same shade of brown as his daddy.

They say they have pretty much up to the 1st year to make all of their bodily changes. My son still has big gray eyes (but everyone tends to mistake them for a blue - sometimes it depends on what colors he's wearing), and his skin's still fairly light, but his hair recently has started to curl more.

Every child is different. It is fun though to think about what they'll look like after birth. I thought my son was gonna look so much different than he came out! I was a little disappointed about him coming out so white at first, but I got over it really quick and he's so gorgeous!

Although him being so light-skinned made for difficulties with the father who started questioning whether it was really his son or not since he didn't come out with dark skin like his or tight curls like his. He came out basically looking like me. It was frustrating, but over time, he got over it all and knows it's his son. He did sign the paternity papers at the hospital and I know he knew from the start that it was his. He look on his face, the tears that rolled down, and the way he touched and held him showed that in his heart, he knew it's his son.

Brittany - posted on 06/05/2010




well the first baby took after the daddy and the second baby took after you my baby came out so white i had to ask them if she was shure that was my kid and she was white and i mean white till she was a year old and she is still very light and she took after me in the color but her dad if he dont go in the sun is just about the same color as her and he is all black so it just has to do with the dna and which one is stronger yours or the fathers in witch kid that is all and if you have another it could come out in the middle of the two others

Kristyn - posted on 06/04/2010




oh honey, it's just how the DNA lines up at conception. differences in skin tone, hair, etc are exactly the same, on a molecular level, as height, athletic skill, eye color, ear shape, whatever. don't worry about it. if you treat it like it's nothing, your kids will also thinkit's nothing and won't make a big thing of it. there's a darling book called "shades of blackness" that shows lovely black kids of all shades. i bought it for my kids when my son, now 7, started asking questions about why my sister is so much darker than i am, and why my dad was darker than my mom. funny, my son & my daughter are exactly the same color but my son has pale hazel eyes like my husband. my daughter's are a dark dark brown, almost black. espresso color. her hair is long & silky, my son's is thick & curly and a little coarse. genes are a funny thing, huh?

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