Help! Hair problems.

Kathleen - posted on 08/23/2009 ( 59 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 3yrs. old African/Caucasian. Her hair texture is curly, dry and thick. She has her dad's crazy hair on top and my soft hair underneath. We do put stuff in her hair, but it doesn't last long (all day). Her hair does stay curled when wet, but once it's dry look out its frizzy. Does anyone know of any products that can help with the frizzy and dryness and hopfully last all day??

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Landi - posted on 09/09/2009

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I used mixed chicks on my daughters hair and it has worked great for us! But nothing I've used has ever lasted all day on a 3 year old lol!

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Lynn - posted on 09/28/2012

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My daughter is bi-racial & I can say that I have tried everything under the moon on her hair. The products that I know for 100% will work are curly q/curls if you are keeping it natural & curly. If by any chance it has been relaxed or you just want to straighten it use Mizani ThermaSmooth line. It works great for the humidity and the frizz. Actually you can use the Mizani for the curly hair also, but the curls works the best. Www.curls.com. Really use it seriously I promise you will be satisfied.

Amanda - posted on 09/27/2012

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my daughter is 4 in a half.. the best thing i have found is from "dark and lovely" it is a oil lotion. its in a white bottle with a pink top!! smells amazing too!!

Lynn - posted on 10/24/2009

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not sure what all you have tried as of yet, but i have read most of the responses that others have left, and for some they will work and for some they won't. you will come to learn that with mixed kids hair it is trial and error and experimenting. i have used probably every single item that others have listed. they all work for a while then the hair goes right back to the way it was before. first and foremost do not wash her hair but once a week, during the week use a conditioner and rinse and that's it. if you use the pink oil or any other hair lotion is will make the hair look greasy. for your daughter i would highly recommend using the curly q products that can be bought at www.curls.biz they have some very good products and you can explain your childs hair to them so they can recommend the best hair care regime to use. my girl is 12 and for the last 2 years i have been using a just for me texturer softner. i would not put on your daughter until 6yrs. old,, apply to the worst area first & then the other part. it does not really get her hair straight, but makes it so much more managable. i also use creme of nature shampoo and conditioning products along with some just for me hair moisturizer. this has made mine and her life so much better. this way she can keep the curly look or if she wants to go to straight i take a kiosyeki flat iron ($100) very worth it and straighten it out. i wish you all the luck in the world.

Jalisa - posted on 10/20/2009

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well im mixed to and her hair sounds alot like mine the best thing to do would be to relax it but dont do that until shes about 14 at the youngest if you do it will only get worse. but for more try using the " just for me detang." let it dry just a little and i cant recall exactally what this stuff is called but its in a clear jar its curl activater which should keep it from goin crazy..... the only other thing that i know of would be to make sure your using the right grease in her hair because i can tell you even tho my hairs crazy my daughter who is also bi-racial has my hair put the things i can use make her hair worse . hope that helps

Kami - posted on 10/19/2009

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I have a 3 year old mixed daughter and I used Paul Mitchel Baby Don't Cry Shampoo and I do that once a week-- I used conditoner everynight and comb out her hair with the conditioner in it. I also put organic coconut oil (Hyvee sells it in the whole food section and I believe whole foods sells it) in her hair everyday we get it wet and it seems to work and help her hair!

Cheryl - posted on 10/19/2009

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I know how you feel my 4 yr old daughter is 1/2 native american and 1/2 black, people think that just becuz she's 1/2 native american she would have that "good hair" but no her hair is like your daughters, its hard looking for a good product to tame hair. I've tried lots of products like Liv, Fantasia Frizz-eez,and Just For Me, they are work but only for a little while. I wrote down all of the suggestions and will look into them and try them all. I hope you find something,and let us know what you found and are satisfied with.

Phyllis - posted on 10/16/2009

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Go to tightylycurly.com. Teri has some great tips and her hair is awesome. I have been using her techniques on my 8 yr old, who's hair is very curly and very frizzy. She actually wears it down to school now and it doesn't frizz up.

Amanda - posted on 10/15/2009

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Your daughter's hair sounds just like my daughter's! It's a little pricey but well worth it and a little bit goes a long way. Paul Mitchell's leave in conditioner. It is GREAT! You can get it at any salon. I tried everything as well, and a friend of mine told me what she used on her daughter. After her bath while her hair is wet put it in and her hair will be beautiful all day!!!!

Tracy - posted on 10/13/2009

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Curl life by Matrix, Fresh curls by Redken, and or Mizani....all salon products, I am a cosmetologist and deal with this daily.

Deanna - posted on 10/12/2009

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i am mixed myself and i have the same problem wen i was young i used to use this stuff call pink lotion it works wonders......but now that i am older i use thid greese called b and b....

Tamara - posted on 10/11/2009

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Any type of leave in conditioning with be great. Carrot oil from Hollywood beauty and if you like shea butter.

LORETTA - posted on 10/10/2009

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Mayonnaise. My aunt swears by it. Both her daughters had frizzy dry hair, but she used mayonnaise every once in a while and they had soft straighter hair. It's like getting a cholesterol treatment.

Haugh - posted on 10/10/2009

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I saw that your little girls hair is like my childrens who are also white/black. I learned that if you put heavy creams and oils in there hair it makes it harder to comb and you will have to wash it more often leaving it more dry. I use this hair product called Hawaiin Silky and it doesnt feel oily! I had the same problom that you are having with my son and the frizzy with my daughter if you see there pic you will see that it defines my daughters curls and waves my sons and it is silky soft afterward. And she is so beautiful!

Christine - posted on 10/09/2009

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we use lets jam gel, i love it cause its not crunchy and stays soft but holds available at walmart, i like the green and black one

Karrie - posted on 10/09/2009

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So far I have been using just for me products on my daughter's hair and they have worked great-makes the curls really nice but it doesn't always last all day. I regenerate it with some water and scrunch her curls a little. I may have to upgrade soon to the mixed chicks tho, there is a spot on the back of her head that is getting hard to deal with. Please let me know how what you find out and how it works for you!

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I went through all kinds of products on my sons hair and then I found one that I use all the time! I love it it is Carol's daughter healthy hair butter. You can find it at carolsdaughter.com. It is well worth it. It is the only product that worked on his hair!

Brooke - posted on 10/09/2009

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i was reading all the answers on mixedchicks.com so i went to it and that is not the correct website... that is a porn website.. the correct website is mixedchicks.net

Samantha - posted on 10/07/2009

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My lil on is the same age and her hair is like mine on top and rough like wow in the back. well anyways if i am leaving her hair down i put gel/babyoil its in the same bottle it wrks good or i think its called optimal or something u can buy it at walmart and it comes in a yellow container. Of course there is the all mighty hair gres but who uses that these days!

LaLasha - posted on 10/06/2009

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I use redkin heat slick it is has silicon in it and that help protect the hair keep it moisturezed and castor oil

Sarah - posted on 09/28/2009

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Johnson and Johnson makes a leave in detangling conditioner, i use it on my son and everyone that i've recommended it to absolutly loves it because it works all day and it doesn't weigh the hair down or leave it looking greasy

Gennifer - posted on 09/28/2009

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What I use it grease on my hand and some pink lotion mixed in with it that last all day

If you dont want to do this try something called carrot oil it will help it grow but will also help with the texture hope this helps! Good luck my childs hair is soft on top and corse in the very baack on top

Amy - posted on 09/16/2009

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Look up Terri Laflesh on facebook, she just came out with a book ,and has a wonderful sight for doing bi-racial hair, that is where I got all my tips for my kids!

Heather - posted on 09/16/2009

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i got the same problem except her hair is thin.Which makes brushing hard and painful

Sarah - posted on 09/15/2009

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Blendedbeauty.com has some great products that work well and last throughout the day.

Alex - posted on 09/14/2009

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Before I cut my son's hair short I used braid spray and blue magic on his scalp after shampooing. I tried a lot of different things, but this was the only thing that worked!! Good luck.

Domonique - posted on 09/13/2009

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This is going to sound really weird but I use Suave Professionals-Sleek shampoo, conditioner, and their anti-frizz cream. I use the stuff in the orange bottle (comes in diffrent color bottles) I have 5 mixed kids, I use it in all of there hair. I just use the shampoo/rinse, leave the conditioner on for 3 minutes, comb with a rat tail comb, rinse, squeeze out water, then add the frizz cream and style. And , it doesn't cost an arm and leg to get.

Monika - posted on 09/13/2009

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Shakeshia, you forgot to name the line.
Kathleen, my son is 1/2 caucasian (polish & irish) & half african american (my side is mixed up too with some Native American & Irish in the mix). He has perfect little ringlets with texture, his dad's hair. I use California Baby Shampoo & Conditioner, but also use a leave-in from Circle of Friends daily & the Leave-In conditioner from Mixed Chicks.net for more intensive conditioning. My son's stylist always comments on how his hair is always in good condition & easy to work with.

Shakeshia - posted on 09/12/2009

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Quoting Kathleen:

Help! Hair problems.

My daughter is 3yrs. old African/Caucasian. Her hair texture is curly, dry and thick. She has her dad's crazy hair on top and my soft hair underneath. We do put stuff in her hair, but it doesn't last long (all day). Her hair does stay curled when wet, but once it's dry look out its frizzy. Does anyone know of any products that can help with the frizzy and dryness and hopfully last all day??



i am a hairstylist specializing in hairstyles and haircare for children and i also have two girls whos dad is half black and half caucasian so i know all about the different textures of hair that your daughter has! I am very familiar with the curly when wet and frizzy once it dries but i just tried a product line that is healthy and i found that my daughters curls last a little longer and that is organic root stimulator replenishing pack. It is a conditioner but it is safe to leave it in and it makes the hair so soft and you can get it at any sallys bueaty supply. It is so much you have to do to get this type of hair to do just right you will wreck your brain trying so i would also recomend taking her to the salon for more styling tips. I do recomend that whole line of products you will love it!

Denise - posted on 09/10/2009

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You could try "Just for me" hair lotion or Luster pink lotion. My Daughters both have combination hair and those are about the easiest to get. Walmart carries both.

Erica - posted on 09/09/2009

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I have just started using olive oil on my daughters hair, her hair is so thick and curly and dry as well...once a week i get a conditioner and comb into her hair then put a plastic shower cap over it for an hour to let it asborb, I get it right at walmart. I've been using it for about 3 weeks and her hair is so much softer and easier to manage. Also gonna check into some these websites to see what they have to offer. Like mentioned her hair looks so pretty when wet but when it dries it gets frizzy :(

Tara - posted on 09/09/2009

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I highly recommend going to www.curls.biz/ and reading about biracial hair! They sell amazing products & I use them on my daughter's hair & can leave it down! Please read the information at the very least because many of the products sold in stores for african american (pink oil) hair contain mineral oil which can clog pores & ruin the hair & scalp causing it to stop growing. Good luck, & check out Ava's(my daughter) pictures to see how amazing her hair looks!

Da'Vita - posted on 09/09/2009

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My daughter's hair is the same exact way, except the front is soft and the back is dry and frizzy. What I use to keep it moisturized and curly is just plain ole S-Curl for jheri curls in the blue and white bottle. Just spray it all over her hair and rub it in really good.

Tiffanie - posted on 09/07/2009

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Try some of the Just For Me Products and Pink Oil Moistorizer. My son has really curly hair and I used them. Now, when the hair dries it does get big and frizzy so there might not be anything you can do about that. Also, you might want to keep her hair in pony tails once you put the products on it.

Summa - posted on 09/06/2009

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im in australia, does anyone know of australia site where i can order products for african hair online, i live in country so isnt african shops that i can go to buy it

Renita - posted on 09/06/2009

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Don't try to put too much stuff in your childs hair while they are young. However, my son's hair never stayed the way it looked when i first did it. I used pink oil moisturizer and as your daughter gets older, you'll be able to use a scarf over her head at night to keep her hair in place.

Sandy - posted on 09/06/2009

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My daughter is 6 Caucasian,Chinese and Black. Her hair is super long and soft with tons of curls. I would love to leave her hair down more often but I haven't found anything that will keep her curls in tact while her hair is down. Her hair will be perfect in the morning and a fews hours later look out.....it's a big frizz ball!

Denise - posted on 09/06/2009

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I use a product called " Blended Beauty" and it worked wonders on my kids hair. You can buy it online. We now live in a very humid place, Puerto Rico and had to buy this stuff made by Revlon that is specifically for tropical, humid places and for hair that is curly and dry I love that stuff. Bought that at Walmart for about 4 or 5 dollars a bottle. You could try using Pink lotion also. Good Luck.

Gerrie - posted on 09/05/2009

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Oh my gosh I have the same problem with my 4 yr old daughter who has the same kind of hair and I am not real good at braiding & such so when I do it I pretty much do different patterns of single braids with beads but to do the whole head can easily take 2 hours. Her hair is so pretty when it is wet and in ringlettes but I too have yet to find a product to keep that look going after it dries and I really don't want to start doing perms on it either so if youget any good answers that work will you PLEASE share them with me.

Nicole - posted on 09/04/2009

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Quoting Kathleen:

Help! Hair problems.

My daughter is 3yrs. old African/Caucasian. Her hair texture is curly, dry and thick. She has her dad's crazy hair on top and my soft hair underneath. We do put stuff in her hair, but it doesn't last long (all day). Her hair does stay curled when wet, but once it's dry look out its frizzy. Does anyone know of any products that can help with the frizzy and dryness and hopfully last all day??


My kids are all mixed as well & I have 3 girls, 14yrs, 7yrs and 4 1/2yrs old. The older 2 girls hair is wavey on top and real curly around the face and ears but when I use grease or whatever and I put their hair up its fine all day but when my 14yr old strightens her hair we have a hard time finding anything that will help keep her hair from looking dry and frizzy. But w my 4 1/2yr olds hair it's really curly & thick all over, I've tried alot of things in her hair and to tell you the truth I haven't found 1 thing that keeps her hair looking nice all day. Everything that I've tried by the afternoon her hair starts to look dry and will start to get frizzy. So I know what your going through and it's even harder when you have other girls and their hair is so different. It's CRAZY how different their hair is.... So if you find anything please pass it on..........

I have tried Carols Daughter a few times and it works to a point, and it does get pricey.... But i think I'll look into the mixedchicks......

Jennifer - posted on 09/04/2009

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Don't know the name of a specific product. Mostly can tell you that with my daughter who is mixted African/Caucasian, I have to keep her scalp greased or moisturised and her hair moisturised as well. There are anti-frizz lines at Wal-Mart and such and they worked in the past for me as well. Hope this helps.

Keisha - posted on 09/04/2009

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Do not use shampoo. I know that sounds crazy but it's not. Curly hair - whatever the ethnicity of the owner is often very dry. Try Devachan (expensive but so worth it). They have a low poo which you can use every day. I use no poo on my daughter, but in a leave-in conditioner and then a spray. You have to keep her hair moist all day otherwise it will shrink up and get unmanageable. Most products created for natural black hair work well too, because they take into consideration the dry factor.
Carol's Daughter suggestion: Hair Milk (after conditioning)
I would not use oil if your daughter's hair is not relaxed because it will just sit on the surface.
www.carolsdaughter.com
http://www.devachansalon.com

Kandy - posted on 09/02/2009

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My best friend is "brown gel" because it's alcohol free and it's holds all day long! My son and I have the same type of hair your talking about and he's now 11 months. I'm not cutting his hair until he makes 1years old and it's getting long. I put the gel in his hair and it gets curly like I want it. Trust me, this will work!

Margaret - posted on 09/02/2009

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My Granddaughter is the same way....I use infusium 23 leave in conditioner....helps some....but I had someone tell me about a thing called Maxi Glide steamer flat iron.....Google it and look at it I ordered one....Good luck

Shenine - posted on 09/02/2009

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Hi Kathleen

Sounds like my crazy hair. Its lovely but hared work and all I use is normal hair conditioner and a little bit of baby oil is cheap and leaves hair looking good. I have two boys they hair is less but this mixture keeps they hair looking wet for longer.

LaTrice - posted on 08/31/2009

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You can also checkout carolsdaughter.com. or kinkycurly.com. both have good products.

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