Does anyone have a mother who is dealing with breast cancer?

Michelle - posted on 03/21/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )




My mom had a double mastectomy 8 yrs ago and after beign 4 1/2 yrs in remission it came back in both of her lungs and has been fighting it since. She has gone through so many different chemo drugs and all the side affects that I can't even list them all.

This yr she has taken on my son's girlfriend who's mother let her boyfriend kick her out of the house (again to much to explain) and my parents like her alot.

However idk if it's the chemo or what but omg can I tell you her attitiude has really changed since this last chemo drug even my dad has made the comment that her attitude has been pretty bad this time around. I guess I'm just wondering if anyone else has had this issue. She is just so hateful anymore about everything and I know given the circumstances anyone would be tired and a little angry but this is so different than her normal attitude even with the other chemo.


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Christine - posted on 08/11/2010




Hi Michelle,
Went through similar circumstances with my mom very recently. Your hospital and local chapter of the American Cancer Society should have local family education and support groups so that you can better understand and accept what your mom is going through. As frustrating as it gets, remember that the treatment affects her mind and body, so if she snaps at you or says rude things, it is not truly her. I prayed a lot to get focused and it helped, so spend time in prayer or quiet reflection and encourage family members to do the same. Remember, too, to give your mom time with everyone that is "cancer free." No talk of cancer, no special precautions if possible, etc. Do something fun and normal. Good luck - you are in my prayers.

Anne - posted on 07/12/2010




Hi Michelle, I too as sorry your family is going through this.

Well over 20 years ago my oldest sister was going through chemo for Hodgkin's. I can not remember which one . I know it was the one that was the easiest one to cure. They were giving her a anti anxiety drug to help with the emotional trauma of cancer. To make a VERY LONG STORY short I kept telling them that something was wrong and could they check to see what kind of drug thy had her on. THis went on for 3 weeks and got to the point that I would go to the hospital and spend the night so she did not need to be restrained. Finally the right nurse was on and I made it a point to talk to her. The drug was the in the same family as the one she could not tolerate. They took her off the drug and with in 72 hours she was back to not needing the restraints at night.

I would ask the Dr.. if you know of any medication she can not tolerate that they may be giving her.

I will keep your family in my Prayers.

Dianne - posted on 03/25/2010




Hi Michelle, my condolences for the hard times you and your mother are experiencing. My sister had breast cancer, so I understand what you are talking about.

Having a behavior change like this can be 2 things, emotionally she is seeing her vulnerability and possibly the end of her life. She should be blogging, and attending counseling sessions. The other thing is that she may have suffered a small stroke. Either way you need to notify her health care provider. They are not allowed to talk to you about your Mom without her permission, but you are welcome to talk to them about your concerns. Hope this helps, and keep on loving on her, because she needs that most of all.

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