Hair under the arms

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At what age should a girl shave under her arms. my child is 11 years old and she has hair under her arms.. she come home from school saying that the kids in her class pick on her about it. i was 15 years old when my mom let me. i do not want my child to be picked on, but i do not know if she is at the right age for that. WHAT DO YOU THINK?


Minaxi - posted on 03/13/2013



1 daughter has small black hair lik her under arms not hair...wen i press it coms out lik blackead....i m worried lik should i consult a skin specialist?

Cindy - posted on 01/09/2010




As soon as it is noticable then she is old enough to shave. It is hard enough growing up without having other kids pick on you for having hairy arm pits. We are not hippies people.

Deborah - posted on 10/01/2009




You must realize that our girls are growing up must faster than we did. I think if the hair under her arms is noticeable you should let her shave her arms. I would get her something that is not too harsh for her underarms. She and you will be okay!


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Dorese T - posted on 05/26/2013




my name is dorese t wood. my daughter and I have a high body order all over our body. we have tried all lotions, sprays and deodarants. we are black. our hair smells. we love dove soaps.

Elisha - posted on 01/07/2010




I have a 14 1/2 year old and an nearly 9 year old girl. I remember my 14 year old saying she wanted to shave at 7 because she had a friend that had a lot of hair (arms, legs etc she matured early though) and was already shaving. I kept telling her the sooner she starts the MORE she will have to do it and that it would come in darker everytime. That put her off till about 11. I think its hard enough to be a girl and if she wants to do it and you feel like she is mature enough you should ler her. On the other hand my 9 yearold has very hairy legs and just started to notice especially last summer. She will be in 4th grade next year. But she is just Not mature enough to handle shaving and I am very nervous about her even starting her period, they are just very different girls. I think I would put a no sooner than middle school/juniorhigh school rule on it because it does cost money too....

Kimberly - posted on 01/02/2010




My mom let me start using "Nair" as soon as I needed it (except above the knee but I don't know the reasoning about the knee thing). And even at 28 I can remember other girls getting teased when they weren't shaving. I say maybe start with the hair removing lotions and later on razors can be introduced.

Rose - posted on 01/02/2010




wow 11 mine didn't start showing till i was 16 wow i guess i was one of the lucky one! I think you should let her.

Gayle - posted on 10/14/2009




I was 12 when I started shaving my legs......with my dad's razor......I was not popular for that one. I'd agree with the girls suggesting lotions, as long as you do a patch test first. It's less uncomfortable growing back in than the prickly feeling of shaved hair. Make it a girly fun evening, with face packs and nail painting and that way you get to show her exactly how it's done! They grow up so fast! lol Gx

Jackie - posted on 10/03/2009




I say let her shave it. That is a terrible thing to have to go through at that age. Just be sure to use a moisturizing cream or a razor with a moisture strip. I wouldn't use the lotions because that could burn the skin...

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I was thinking about that. then I think back when my mom let me do the same thing, and me being hard headed I used a razor to shave it off. lets just say i could not put my arms down for a month. lol i might try that with her. we talked about it today. she was like mom what if someone see that the hair is gone. will they pick on my more about it. lol she will be ok..

Amy - posted on 10/01/2009




My mom wouldn't let me shave until I was 13 but when I was 11 she started bying me the hair remover lotions for sensitive skin and let me use that until she trusted me with a razor. Maybe that would work for you its a lot easier and would give her peace of mind. Its just a suggestion :) good luck.

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I wish i could stop her from growing up. i was told by her doctor that once she get hair under hre arms i need to keep an eye out for other things. I AM NOT READY.

Iysha - posted on 09/30/2009




I think if she wants to start then let her start. i started shaving as soon as mine became noticeable. I think I was like 12. IDK... I know I was in middle school.

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