Unplanned pregnancy - How do I tell my husband?

Louise - posted on 11/04/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )




We had twins and we had planned to adopt our 3rd child, but now I'm pregnant and worried my husband will think I got pregnant on purpose. I really wanted to have a third child, but my husband was against it. I asked him if he would consider adoption and he agreed. His main reason for not wanting to get pregnant again was that there are already too many people in the world. So I began research on adoption and we planned to adopt in another year. I had been keeping track of when I was ovulating, but we were traveling and went to a party and drank and one thing led to another. I should have told him no and said that it was too close to when I was supposed to ovulate. I am worried that he is going to think I got pregnant on purpose and that he will hold it against me the rest of our lives. How should I tell him?


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Jeannette - posted on 11/05/2011




I have to agree with Katherine on this issue, you did not get pregnant by yourself, he is also responsible for birth control. You may be overreacting too. Since you have not told him yet, his initial reaction may be bad, but surely he will warm up to the idea. It is very telling that you believe your husband would blame YOU, accuse YOU, be suspicious of YOU, he must have trust issues or something. I'm guessing, nothing concrete here! I sincerely hope it works out for you! ♥

Katherine - posted on 11/05/2011




First of all how do you get pregnant on purpose? You didn't do it by yourself. It's NOT your fault. If he thinks it is he's a jerk. Sorry but he played a part in it too.

Tell him you are pregnant, he knows and you know you were keeping track of everything. You were going to adopt anyways. Maybe you still can? I don't know how you feel about that though.

Whatever the decision is, it's NOT, NOT your fault.

Edit to add: Just simply sit him down and tell him. What kind of husband holds a grudge like that?

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