Having difficulty finding a way to have a home birth

Heather - posted on 01/28/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I am a first time mom and currently 23 weeks along. After doing much research my husband and I desperately want to give birth at home, preferably in the water. I have hit many road blocks though. I live in North Carolina and while it is not illegal to have a home birth, you must have a CNMW preform it and a Dr. to back her up and NO ONE will do it. I have literally had to go "underground" to find people who even do it at all. In South Carolina (30 mins from our home) there are midwives that will do it, but b/c they are doing it "underground" we have to pay out of pocket, which might not be possible. There is a birthing center and hour and a half away, but as a new mom, I dunno if that is realistic or too far away. Besides the fact the insurance may not pay for that either. Anyway, I am looking for any suggestions, advice, encouragement anyone has in this situation. Those of you who do not have this problem are truely blessed!

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Anastasia - posted on 01/29/2013

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Hi ladies! I know this thread is ancient, but maybe someone can help me.. I'm looking for information about the legal status of home birth and more importantly unassisted home birth in the Dominican republic. We're considering to move there and settle down, and have more kids... And no way I'm going to the hospital for birthing.
I'd appreciate infornation on HB or UB in the Dominican Republic! Thanks!!!

User - posted on 11/13/2009

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Quoting Lindsay:



Have you considered having an unassisted birth?  I birthed my second baby unassisted, and it was the most incredible thing.  Check out http://www.unassistedchildbirth.com.&nbs... There are many more great resources I'd be willing to point you to if you are interested, just send me a private message :)






Oh, and congrats on your baby!





to add to that is a site I think is freebirthaustralia?

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My Midwife had me call my insurance before the birth to ask if they covered midwives (because insurance does not categorize a Midwife...and they did not ask nor did I tell them it would be a Homebirth). They of course were very kind and helpful and they reimbursed my Midwife who in turn reimbursed us.

Miranda - posted on 03/30/2009

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All I can say is that even if you have to pay out of pocket for it, it is sooo worth it. WQe jsut had our first homebirth in Feb. We had to pay out of pocket because in Ky it's not legal. So we had to go 'round about to do it. We had a MW though & she was/is wonderful!! We were lucky that we were getting a big tax return back & she was willing to wait until we got htat back to get paid. Otherwise we couldn't have done it, we'll we would've figured out a way but it wouldn't have been easy. Good luck & I hope you get the birth you are looking for.

Jodi - posted on 02/22/2009

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Hi Heather, tell you what man, I'm in Australia, and this is simply the most difficult country in the world to have a homebirth. I had to push my guts out, and even had a nursemidwife with her first baby bump under her belt (this was my second), telling me I had no idea what I was getting myself into! But I stuck to my guns, got my homebirth and it was the most wonderful experience of my life. Most women hear don't even know it's an option, and looked at me like I was absolutely insane, and even said so. Keep pushing girl, this is your baby, your body, your experience, and no doctor or obstetrician can take that away from you, no matter how many letters they have after their name. One book that kept me strong in what I wanted was by Ina May Gaskin,co-founder of the Farm, and I always thought that if I lived in the States that's where I'd go. Why not contact the Farm Midwifery Centre in Tenessee (probably spelt that dead wrong)? I reckon they'd have a good idea of your options where you are. Good luck babe! You'll get it! Remember: YOUR body, YOUR baby, YOUR labour, YOUR way, no matter what. Don't let anyone intimidate you, they don't have the right!

Agapecarrie - posted on 02/16/2009

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hi heather!  my name is carrie and i have had 2 home births.  wow, i dont know if this will help, but my midwife with my first baby actually lives in NC and was a GREAT midwife!! She is also a friend of the family and is the sweetest person I have ever met! She was SUCH a blessing and a god-send!! I actually flew her to the Dominican Republic, where I was living at the time, to deliver my baby girl. I also wanted her to deliver my second and was going to fly her out, but she was pregnant with twins and was too far along to be able to come. But, let me give you her website and maybe you can contact her and she can help you with your problem.   ncblessedbeginnings.com



her name is sarah, feel free to contact her, she would love to talk to you and your husband and answer any questions you may have!

Guggie - posted on 02/11/2009

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I had a very similar problem. In my state, midwifery is illegal. Not even CNMW are allowed. (That has changed since my daughter's birth).



 



Anyways, the only hospital that would consider a waterbirth was an hour away, along a highway that has been shutdown for repairs. And only one doctor would do it, but her practice included 3 doctors. So how the heck was I guaranteed a waterbirth?



 



The only birthing center was 2.5hrs away and very expensive.



 



I think you need to sit down and go over exactly what you want and expect from your birth. I know a lot of people who have used a doctor to homebirth (we have one in our state who does this exclusively). And it is just that: a doctor who delivers in your home. Compared to unassisted childbirths and MW childbirths, it is radically different. You will simply be letting the medical community into your home, with all the interventions and authority attitude. Some people see that as a negative, some see it as a positive. That's for you to decide.



 



IMO, illegal midwives are the top players in the field. They are doing something for a very important reason, so important they are willing to risk a felony charge and up to 10 years in jail. They don't have malpractice insurance. They don't have to CYA (cover their arse). They are there to serve you with experience and tips passed down from other  midwives. It's an art form.



Birthing centers are great if you have a potential issue (aka gestational diabetes, PPH issues) because they are partnered with doctors at a hospital. But again, that can quickly lead to a different path. If something seems difficult or if a potential issue comes up, you will be transferred.



Check out www.mothering.com/discussions for more resources.

Caryn - posted on 02/04/2009

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When we were looking at birthing options, the closest birthing centers are an hour away. Our midwife said that if we chose to go that way, we would definitely be fine with the distance because the baby isn't going to fall out during the drive. It would be a very uncomfortable drive, but do-able nonetheless... I would definitely consider the birthing center option if you can't find a CNM and a dr backup. I ended up having to be transported to the hospital after our homebirth b/c my placenta wouldn't release and I had a cervical tear that the midwife was unable to fix... I would be a little nervous to do it unassisted in case there are any issues...

Lindsay - posted on 01/29/2009

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Have you considered having an unassisted birth?  I birthed my second baby unassisted, and it was the most incredible thing.  Check out http://www.unassistedchildbirth.com.&nbs... There are many more great resources I'd be willing to point you to if you are interested, just send me a private message :)



Oh, and congrats on your baby!

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