my daughter is starting to ask questions!!!

Jamie - posted on 09/19/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )




My daughter is beginning to ask why her brother has a "bird" and she doesnt. also she wants to know what hers is called. I want something classy instead of " twat, coochie, etc." please give me some suggestions.


Joy - posted on 12/16/2009




Please, please, please teach them the right words! In addition to being a mom of a 5 year old little girl and the aunt of 4 under the age of 6, I am a high school biology and anatomy teacher. If you can't say the proper terms and treat that "area" with maturity and respect, you are setting your children up to think its something to be embarrassedof and / or think its something funny. Its perfectly fine to have them refer to them as "girl parts" and "boy parts" but they do need to know that the real name is penis and vagina. (One of my nieces misunderstood my sister and thought she said china, my sister thought about it and just went with it - you know, fragile and no one should touch it!)

Jodi - posted on 09/24/2009




My daughter calls her brother's a 'choo-choo train!' I tell her that it's the way you can tell a boy from a girl! She's accepting it, for now! As far as she goes, I call the whole thing her 'bottom,' the front and the back. It is recommended that you go ahead and teach the proper terms for male/female body parts, but I can't do it! She's too young to say 'vagina!' Plus, she'll just go and tell all of her friends!


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Carlie - posted on 04/20/2012




Well first of all, she needs to be informed that brother doesn't have a bird either. The "classy" way DOES NOT EXIST. What does HONESTY.

Tell her the truth. Always always always tell your children the truth. Check it out: when you tell your child the truth for every question they ask, silly or serious, then you reduce their chances of asking it again the SECOND time. They might ask for MORE information on the same subject, but if you answer all questions HONESTLY the first time, then it's in THEIR best interests. That should be any parent's goal.

Penis and Vagina. Scrotum. You know the rest. It behooves them to know the truth-and you as a parent as well-it's for their own safety too.

God bless ya. :)

Lynn - posted on 04/12/2011




I told my daughter that it's called a vagina and she's called it her pagima ever since. It's kind of catchy so we all call it that now. Eh, (throwing up my hands) close enough :)

Maria - posted on 02/25/2011




I have always just answered any questions that my children have asked then it doesn't become a big issue for me or them

Lacey - posted on 11/13/2009




tell them the truth! you dont have to say VAGINA or PENIS!! my kids know thats what they are but they call them their potties or wieners. I have 2 daughters and 3 nephews. its better they learn from you than someone else.... then they will question you on why they cant get the real answeres from you. they need to know they can trust you. and by the way.... they dont go around yelling VAGINA or PENIS.... they know those are private words that dont get discussed!!! talk to them, they understand more than you would think!

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