How can I help my 19 year old daughter get the help she needs?

Lisa - posted on 09/25/2017 ( no moms have responded yet )

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I've been a step mom for almost 13 years. My step daughter just turned 7 when I came into the picture. Her mom checked out of their day to day lives when she was 11. So many behavior issues seemed to slide under the radar, as a product of divorced parents...unstable mom. Low self esteem, inability to make decisions, difficult making friends.....By the second year of highschool she seemed to isolate herself, dropping out of softball. A game she'd spent almost 8 years loving. Sneaking around, lying, trying to reconnect with her estranged mother. By the time she was a senior, she'd completely checked out. We'd exhausted our discipline options. Cell phone, removing the door off her bedroom, finally we took her to a teen home. She refused to stay and instead started seeing a counselor again, this one introduced emotional abuse. Our daughter seemed to come around and see that she was in fact in a manipulative relationship. This positive behavior lasted until after graduation. She got a job and then everything started reverting back. She moved out abruptly with her boyfriend by November. It was hell. Knowing she was struggling. Knowing she wasn't happy. Knowing she may not be safe, but we continued to love her where she was. Fast forward 5 months she finally broke down and asked to come home. She literally brought cockroaches with her, in her stuff. That's just one area to show how awful of a place she was enduring for the 'love' of this boy. She'd lost her car. She'd quit her job. It was rock bottom starting over. I think she has pretty severe asperger tendencies. But how can I get her to want help or seek out getting the support she needs?

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