Speech therapy - yay or nay?

Peta-Marie - posted on 10/29/2008 ( 64 moms have responded )

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My 3 1/2 year old boy doesn't talk much unless he is copying little sayings from his favourite movies. You can't have a conversation with him, but he can count to 15 clearly and say most of his ABC's. Does anybody have an opinion on whether I should get him speech therapy or let him go at his own pace?

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I have had speech therapy for 2 of my kids and I feel like it was a waste of time. All they did was sit and play and talk with the kids, nothing more than what I am already doing. I have not been at all impressed with the services. Just practice playing with him and talking to him, and having him talk back.

Melissa - posted on 10/22/2009

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I would say speech therapy is a good thing. my kids are in speech and has helped. my 5 year old has is getting help throgh school, he was in preschool speech and language program that only goes up to the age of 5, i only found out about that when he was almost 4yrs. they really do a good job on helping them i found. when you child goes to school he will be better off. good luck

Teresa - posted on 10/31/2008

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my son is almost 3 n ive tried speach therapy for almost a yr n nothin it may help ur son try sign lanuage thats how i can communicate with my son

Jackie - posted on 07/09/2009

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Here is my issues with not going to speech therapy and thinking you can do it yourself.



1) You/your family may be causing the poor speech habits without realizing it. For example my husband, daughter and mother inlaw all make a sound for "I don't know" like they are cave men instead of pronouncing it out. I was so embarassed when my son who has been in speech therapy for 2.5 years repeated it to his therapist. Another one that I have noticed is common is saying "Axe" instead of "Ask".



2) Speech therapy is a course offered in post secondary school; thus implying that not everyone can actually do it. STs have studied long and hard and continue to study to learn how to teach people how to speak and teach parents how to continue the work at home.



3) You speak your childs lanuage. No matter who you are or what issues your child has you understand them. A good example of this is "Twin Talk". If you haven't heard of this before its when twins make up their own lanuage. They aren't being cute and pretending to understand each other. They really do understand each other and are communitcating. Mothers of twins who "Twin Talk" also twin talk. I am one of those twins and my mother had to put us into daycare to force us to learn english and speak it properly so the rest of the world could understand us. In my house we actually named my sons lanuage after himself... *Gryphon*ese. Its taken me over 2 years to learn not to understand *Gryphon*ese; so I can help him better by not understanding.



4) Speech therapy is *NOT* a quick fix. You go to your sessions so your child can physically learn how to say the sound and make sure there isn't something preventing them from saying it. Then you go HOME and apply all the tools and skills the therapist taught you so you can continue the work at home. Speech therapy isn't once a week for an hour. Its every mintue of every day while your child is awake. A good example of this is my son had an issue with the C and G sounds. I didn't realize when you make those sounds your tongue drops to the back of your mouth. And us who say it properly our tongue drops back the second we open our mouths. We don't even notice it much less pay attention to how we are doing it. I could never have taught him that his tonuge was in the wrong position since I never knew where mine was.



5. Our therapist has used hand gestures to remind my son to use the sound. Now that he is 5 years old and becoming more social he doesn't like anyone out right correcting him. Its embarassing, but the hand gestures no one else understands and he just quickly corrects what he said without feeling badly about it.

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Sarah - posted on 03/18/2017

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At 32 months your child should be speaking more. Since every child is different and many factors figure in to speech development, see his pediatrician and request a speech evaluation.

Sidneykedybendetta - posted on 03/18/2017

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Hello, kindly help,my 32months old son doesn't say no word. He only holds your hand and takes you to whatever he wants. When he was around 2 yrs he cud say words like bye and Teacher and he stopped all over sudden . He has never said Mama or dad ever. He has been in school ie daycare ever since jan 2016. I am very worried n desperate to have him talk....pls help

Paula - posted on 02/01/2013

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I always err on side of caution. I'll tell you why. At least around here the services are excellent until kids hit school age. After five speech path at school is pitiful. So I was once advised plug in any services early if you suspect you may need them. That's what I did and true enough at school my daughter gets like one OT visit each six month period if I ask for it. Before school started she had OT monthly at least. for speech she had help until she got to school. She didn't need much and at school nothing. I think if you feel it might be necessary then start early.

User - posted on 01/26/2013

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When I saw everybody elses kids talking and my getting behind ,all I herad from peoe was ,let the child be ,that she was ok ,her time will come to speak. the two of us would be truly sorry if we didnt get matters in our own hands . my child wouldnt have the opportunity to speak and be who she is today. You will NOT hurt your child if you go imto speech. go with yur gut feeling. there is not a second chance to do early intervention when they re older. the brain is easier to train at this age. dont ddlay sister. let whoever say what they want to say. your child will forever get the benefits.
i was the only one who agreed my child had something wrong with ,even doctors telling me it was my immagination. my child is diagnosed with autism,adhd and others.
good luck!

Kristi - posted on 10/25/2012

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Speech therapy for sure. Although I've found - for my son with speech and language delays that ABA therapy helps more, even though he's not autistic.

Have you been to a developmental pediatrician? There are lots of free programs through the public school systems where they can get speech therapy and others if need be. I blog about this too, if you're interested, check out http://www.findingninee.com. Good luck.

Threenorns - posted on 10/23/2012

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you can never go wrong by getting him assessed.



when it comes to speech, there's no such thing as "too soon" to get things checked.

Lara - posted on 10/23/2012

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I would get an evaluation with a speech therapist. A good speech therapist really can make all the difference and the earlier he starts the more he can improve before school starts.

Fahmida - posted on 10/17/2012

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my son is 6 years old he can't speak correctly he says "sh" sound replace of "ss" and other as well ... give me opinion about him

Monica Medrano - posted on 10/16/2012

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put him in speech therapy and occupational therapy. My son was exactly like that and he is five and does say say alot more, but after two years of therapy.

SM - posted on 10/14/2012

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Hi,

I also have a 31/2 years old who doesn't say like 5-6 letter words. He speaks 3 letter words though. but won't repeat rhymes after me. should I be concerned? as well, would you please tell me what techniques you were told to use?

Thanks.

Michelle - posted on 07/23/2011

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when my son was 3 1/2 he could barely talk, he could count. i have had him in speech therapy for 1 year and he is now building sentences and his vocab has grown. my son is a very visual person and without pictures or drawings finds it hard to taken or soak in virbal input. our speechy has taken this into consideration and my son thinks he goes there and plays games and he has come such a long way.

Sherreka - posted on 03/28/2011

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My 2 1/2 year old only had about 5 or so words in his vocab around 18 months so we had him evaluated and he started receiving speech therapy and has done wonders. He's using words to communicate more. He's still behind compared to others his age but he's making great strides.

Sherreka - posted on 03/28/2011

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My 2 1/2 year old only had about 5 or so words in his vocab around 18 months so we had him evaluated and he started receiving speech therapy and has done wonders. He's using words to communicate more. He's still behind compared to others his age but he's making great strides.

Pamela - posted on 02/07/2011

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my son just turned 3 and has been doing speech for a year .. he has Mixed expressive and receptive language delay ( MERLD) at two he could go around the zoo and name every single animal with out shortening the name but could I get him to ask for a drink if he was thirsty ? no way .. I think you should look into this he is of pre kindy age and you don't want him starting out behind. speech therapy as well as speech play groups and interaction with peers his own age ( good talkers) has helped him alot ! dont wait

Emma - posted on 10/12/2010

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My 2 1/2 year old son has just started he's been about 4 times now.
And wow he said his first sentence after his second visit, it was not perfect but good enough to understand.
He loves going and is making improvements, im excited that he has started to express himself more vocally,
He is all so not banging his head on the floor as much as before ( i was told he did this out of frustration )
Definitely worth it .

Jessica - posted on 09/21/2010

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I have a 7 1/2 yr old who had speech problems from a young age and no one listened to me they kpt saying she'll grow out of it let it go, once she was in kindy the DECS Lady (department of education) said only one or two sounds are missing so let it go. Got to school and no change so i hunted down a private speech therapist who said it was more than 1 or 2 sounds. We found out my daughter an entirly different issue to deal with as well, she was diagnosed with Auditory Processing Disorder- nothing to do with hearing it's how the brain processes information. My daughter still see's her once a fortnight and that is all we need to help her communicate and grow.
My Son is 20 months and says maybe 6 words only 2 clearly and even though he points at things he wans he won't say the words so he's being assesed later this week to see if he needs speech therapy too. My opinion is it's good if u find someone you can get along with and your child loves and as the saying goes it won't happen over night but it will happen

Lisa - posted on 08/26/2010

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Hi I agree. It can't hurt to take him. Either they will say he is fine and just needs practice and patience or they will sign you up to work with him.

Either way it will help because they give you exercises that will help you work with him.

Good luck

Susan - posted on 01/21/2010

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I know it is hard to believe or understand, however the "so called playing during speech" is really not just that. They have steps and motive to all they do during speech. There maybe other issues with a child and that might be way speech does not do much or anything for a child. Doing sign lanuage with a child is only a crutch, if they are truly meant/able to learn to talk. I have seen children that could have benefited greatly from speech, if only their parents had the opportunity or made that decision.

Susan - posted on 01/21/2010

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hello, my son is now 15. He was very much like your son when he was that age. My son pretty much had single words to talk to me and or point and gesture what he wanted. I started him in speech twice a week (private speech) and it was only 3 weeks and he was saying sentences. My take on this is, speech is not a drug it can not hurt and my son had so much fun during his speech sessions. Do not listen to his ped doc, they do not have the training for speech development that they should have to decide weather or not a child should have speech. Remember any kind of therapy can not hurt anyone. Go with your gut feelings. Remember duing the time he is not able to carry on a conversation he is lacking in social skills with kids his own age. That can be a problem down the road. So my take get speech! I hope I helped you with this :-)

Liz - posted on 01/21/2010

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I am a true believer in speech therapy, The average amount of words that a 2 year old should say is 50 words. My daughter at age 2 could only say 5, early intervention is the best way to get the ball rolling. My daughter has verbal apraxia and is now 12 years old and still has speech. My sister's child was not talking much at age 3, and took her in and found out she actually had a hearing loss and was able to read lips and managed to slip by unnoticed, she is now 11 and no longer needs speech, and you would never know she is hearing impaired. Do not wait, get your child evaluated, you have nothing to lose by starting speech early!

Kristine - posted on 01/18/2010

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Our son was not saying anything by 15 months and thats when our pediatrician recommended an early intervention screening for him to see if he qualified for speech therapy. He started in August, the therapist comes to our house for an hour and works with him. She comes as frequent as she feels that he needs. Now our son goes up to twice a week shortly, so it depends on what she feels he needs. Our son is improving..and we learned things we should be doing at home too. It is a slow process for him though..he just started saying some vowels..but doesnt finish words. If you get nothing else out of it you will learn some tips and tricks you should be doing..thats how I initially looked at it. Hope this helps you :)

Felicia - posted on 12/08/2009

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My cousin's son was a late talker as well and they put him in speech therapy at 2 1/2 only to find out he was almost deaf! They put tubes in his ears and now you can never get him to stop talking!

Michelle - posted on 11/28/2009

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My son start speech therapy when he was 18 months old . He had tubes put in at 11 months due to several infections. He had a 75% hearing loss before tubes and after a 25% loss. The therpyist helped him learn non verbal communtication while working on the talking aspect.At age 3 he was put into the PPCD program at the public school and had a special ed teacher who continue working with him along with the daily hour of one on one therapy. He continue with speech therapy until 2nd grade when he met all the schools set goals. He is ten now and still not a big talker and if there is a large group of people or a lot of noise he will cover his ears or sign to loud.

Melissa - posted on 11/11/2009

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I went through this with one of my twins, with speech and daycare combined, you will see a massive improvment, it may take time, but it works wonders, I can't even explain the transformation that has happened over the last year! Speech certaintly can't hurt, it may look like their not doing anything, but it's the technique, also if you have an infant development worker in your area, they help as well!



Best of luck!

Sharessa - posted on 11/06/2009

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I think speech therepist was the best thing that ever happend to my 4year old yes i must be honest was our fault why he ended up like this in the first place but hey we all make mistakes i had no idea how much it has helped me out so much but guess it be a decision you think is wright for him

Heather - posted on 11/01/2009

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You should definately try to see a speech therapist right away. The earlier you get help the better!

Cindy - posted on 08/28/2009

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My son is in speech now he is 3 (4 in nov) and he has been in speech since he was 2 1/2. My son was born tongue tied and maybe spoke about 5 words. He pointed to everything he wanted and if he could not get to it that made him mad. Since being in speech he has came a long way and I'm so thankful for the things they have/and or doing for him. It's up to you what to do in the end, but if you wait to late he might fall behind in school some to if he still has a speech delay when its time to start.

Danielle - posted on 08/16/2009

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Both of my kids are getting speech therapy it helps but i also had to take them to an ENT to see if they could help and my oldest has some signs but he is still trying to talk

Maria - posted on 07/28/2009

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I see you wrote this in Oct. and I don't know if you got him in yet but my son which is now 4yrs old was in speech and still is threw the school and it has been really good for him my 2 yr old daughter is in speech right now and she is doing a lot better then before yeah most of the things that they do in therapy we can probably do if we had all the time we wish we had but the thing is that kids will listen more to another person then they would to us as their parents I personally like therapy for kids and I suggested for everyone who has kids that need it.

Laura - posted on 07/20/2009

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It can't hurt has been my thought! I have a 4 year old and a 2 year old that both have speech problems. It has helped my old son A LOT! My little one only gets one day a month but what he does get has improved his vocabulary. It can't hurt to have him evaluated and see what the experts say.

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Your son may very well be just on his own time table and will talk when he is ready. Even if that's the the case, speech therapy will not hurt him. What do you have to lose? My son is 20 months and only says 3 words. I'm having him evaluated next week. He has no delays in any other area....I just feel like I wouldn't be doing my due diligence if I didn't try to help him. He (and we) will be happier once he can communicate better.

Amanda - posted on 07/10/2009

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I understand exactly what you are saying. With my son, I make him work for the words. If he wants something, I dont give it to him until he at least attempts to say the words. I know a few parents who will know what their children are saying and just give into what they want. For me, I think my son and I both could use some good exercises to help him out, and maybe, if it is more than that, we will deal with it. Anytime anything happens to him, or anyone in my family for that matter, I think, "wow it could be SO much worse." There is always going to be someone who has a harder time than me.

Amanda - posted on 07/09/2009

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Im a stay at home mom, and my son stays with me all day. I babysit a few children during the day (up until recently due to best rest for pregnancy) Yesterday my son has his 3 year check up. The doctor told me my son needs speech therapy. I def plan on taking him, and I think it will do wonders, especially before preschool. It sounds like our sons have about the same level of speech. Did you see your ped yet? I think, hey, it cant hurt? And anything to better our children is worth it. Im sorry to hear that it didnt help some people, but I really hope it helps my son!

Nicole - posted on 01/26/2009

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We have speech therapy thru a state program, it is a parent referal program, they come and evaluate for about an hour, then they fill out tons of stuff and let you know if there is a delay and how much and they qualify with a delay that can receive the program, it is run through our county schools. My 21 mth old is in it, we love it. It has helped a great deal and we are learing sign language which is helping too! see if your state or county has a program that is free and call about an eval. what did your ped say>

Rebecca - posted on 01/23/2009

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Hi.  My son's 5 and a half now but has been seeing a Speech Therapist for over 3 years.  She does not put any pressure on him but slowly assesses him through play and encouraging speech.  I definitely would recommend you go especially as once he's "on their books" you may also get extra help/support at school/nursery when the time caomes.  I also found it useful in meeting other Mums in the same boat which also enabled our children to mix with others with speech difficulties.  There definitely isn't a magic answer - but it's worth a try!  Good luck and let us know how you get on! x

Allison - posted on 01/21/2009

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something else that helped us was the fact that my husband wanted to teach him sign language. i started signing with him when he was around 5mo & with his sister even sooner. that was a lifesaver! i can not even imagine us getting this far with nothing! he started signing long before he spoke a word & has progressed to doing the sign & saying the word at the same time. very helpful!

Allison - posted on 01/21/2009

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my son is 32mos & has been in st since he was about 27mos. he had possibly 5 words when we started & has progressed significantly. he did a lot of babbling & was way ahead of his age in everything except speech when they tested him. he has even started calling me "mama", very exciting for a stay-at-home mom whose child had been saying "da" to his working dad for mos!



i am using early intervention who i contacted through my local health department. they come to my house until he turns 3. he will be retested at that time & if they deem he still needs it we will start going to the school his speech therapist is at. this is a state- & federal-funded program & is free.



she does a lot of playing with him & talking about what they are doing. she brings a lot of bubbles to get him to form & shape his lips. he is a very social child & looks forward to her coming every week! she doesn't get to see some of the progress while she is here but i can see the difference in our day-to-day lives. watching her with him helped me to get ideas & see what was & was not working too. good luck!

Andrea - posted on 01/15/2009

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my kids are almost 5 and almost 6 now, and both are speaking very well, I think speech is the best thing...did you have his hearing tested...part of my son's problem as he kept getting a fluid build up behind the eardrum and when they gave him ear tubes, he made a big improvement in his speech

Andrea - posted on 01/15/2009

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yes! both of my kids benifited greatly from speech therapy. I think it would be the best thing for him

Kelly - posted on 01/14/2009

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My DD will be two this week and she babbles a lot, but doesn't say many words, I do have early intervention coming out on Friday to sit with her and see what they think. It can't hurt.

Francine - posted on 01/11/2009

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My son is in speech therapy and it has helped him.  He didn't start talking until he 2 1/2 yrs old.  It can only help.  I know we have free speech therapy through the school system here in Florida.

Allison - posted on 01/10/2009

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My son has been in speech therapy for two months. He is 16 months old now. Speech therapy is a process and I feel that one of the largest benefits is that I learn techniques to use while I play with my son. So I recommend s.t. but I suggest that you watch closely and ask questions. Ask why they do each thing and how you should do the same thing at home. 

Krista - posted on 01/09/2009

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My two year old has been in speech therapy for a little over two months, and he is making progress. It might look like the speech therapist is just playing with him, but she's using strategic methods to encourage him to communicate with her AS she plays with him. He enjoys her weekly visits and he is making more sounds/noises than ever, and he's come a long way with signs too. I would recommend speech therapy to anyone whose child has a speech delay.

Linda - posted on 01/08/2009

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Well that is a great question as my son is 2yr and 3 mnth old and I just started taking him to therapy for his speech a month ago and it seems like he says more at home than he does there. I don't feel like he needs to go but his Dr has pushed it since he was about 18 months I think. You need to do what you feel is best for your little one. Good luck

Heather - posted on 01/05/2009

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Absolutely you should pursue speech therapy (spoken like the speech therapist that I am!). It is never too early to do this, a speech therapist can give you many great ideas to help you interact with your son in the best ways to promote language and also help you to find other ways to communicate (such as gestures and pictures).

Amy - posted on 01/05/2009

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I have to also say I can see how there are mixed feelings about speech therapy my oldest daughter has been getting speech now for 1.5 years and we are making great progress now i highly recommend it with all my heart but if you dont see change or progress you might have to change therapists not every child clicks and will work with every adult that was the problem with our first therapist my daughter would not work with her at all would not do anything brought in another therapist and huge changes were seen so i would recommend it 100% and dont hesitate to ask for a different therapist if progress is not being made and that is for anyone good luck

Sladana - posted on 12/19/2008

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i see there are mixed ideas on speech therapy. i have a mixed response for my experience with them for my son, also 31/2. he was involved in a group speech therapy session that was 12 weeks long. and nothing, they told me he cant sit still and wait for his turn patiently. seriously ; ). i have placed him in an individual therapy session with a pathologist and its working wonders. she is able to target his issues and sends me home with great HOMEWORK that my son loves and ofcourse suggestions. and through games she can get him to pronounce words with ease. i wish you all the best.

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