I need advice!!!!

Adriel - posted on 10/05/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My daughter, Rylie, who is 4 is a terrible eater. She complains constantly that she is hungry, but when it comes time for her meals (especially dinner) she takes one bite and refuses to eat the rest. She only gets 3 meals and one light snack between lunch and dinner. I know she isn't full because she'll refuse to eat her dinner but still ask for food. Dinner time has become a battlefield, and I am wearing so thin. Please give me some advice, I'll try anything!

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Amanda - posted on 09/16/2010

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I have the same problem with my 4yr old son. He'll only eat certain foods and wont try anything! even most candy and cake he wont try(which is no biggie to me) the hard part of trying to just put food in front of him and either he eats it or starves is that he goes between my house and his dads and his grandmothers for one day every week! His dad tries to get him to try new food but his grandmother feeds him junk or McD's. I'm stuck and usually end up caving in(I know its not helping) I'm still looking for advice on my situation

Sophie - posted on 08/13/2010

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My son is 2 and I feel you!! I just posted a blog on www.choicelunch.com/buzz stick to your guns and keep that schedule/routine of 3 plus snack
Stay strong!!!:)

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My son, Ty is 4 and survives on air. My daughter who is also 4 eats anything that doesn't move too quickly. It's really frustrating trying to eat as a family - hubby isn't home until 7 and the kids are in bed by 8:30 so we usually eat without him or I feed the kids and eat with him later.

I once read (the best advice I've read anywhere) that "a child who is emotionally and physically healthy will not starve." I try to remember this when food hits the table and Ty starts another crying fit, telling me he's not hungry as he climbs into the cookie jar, or runs from the table screaming, terrified of the broccoli on his plate. I am getting better at laying the law down - "This is [lunch], the next meal will be [dinner]. You can choose to eat or not eat, but your options for food are on the table."

The process is slow, but it works. I am pleased to see Ty is starting to willingly try new foods (he ate a whole bag of grapes last week - I cried for joy and called his grandmother. "Ty ate a fruit!").

As parents, we will not win a battle over food. We decide what, where and when about food. Our kids decide if they want to eat or not. Imagine how you as an adult would react if you had no appetite and you were expected to eat a big meal. Don't force - the harder you try to get a child to eat, the less likely it is you'll succeed.

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I've got a 4 year old daughter that is a terrible eater as well. I noticed you posted this in Oct - has anything changed? gotten better/worse? My kid will only eat 'breakfast' foods and foods that are sweet. Most of the time, yogurt, fruit, cereal....so I know it isn't the worst thing, but she also complains of stomach aches, etc..... and that makes me assume that what she's eating consistantly is causing tummy trouble. I can't seem to get her to eat anything 'savory' like a sandwich, soup, french fries, etc...... Desperately need help!!!

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Hi Adriel

I have a picky eater at home, and I know how hard and frustrating it could get.

You're lucky that your daughter at least tries something at dinner time. :) My is the hardest thing... try something new. She's been like this since she was a babt... she didn't even like cheerios, lol. All I can say is... don't force it.. try to keep her as helthy as possible. We try to increase the portions that she eats every night, week... yesterday you ate 5.. let's eat 7 tonight... and show her how happy you are. :)

My daughter just turned 6.. so, i guess we'll be learning this at the same time :)

Good luck!

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