Did you ever worry about racism/sexism in the nicu?

Jenny - posted on 11/12/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )




Well I am the mother of a baby boy who's made it so far almost 3 months now who was born on the end of my 24th week. I feared that the doctors and nurses would give up easier on him since he was a boy and appeared to be white even though it's already on my papers that he's not white. Anyway, is it just me or is that usual to cross one's mind?


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I am wondering why you think anyone would give up on your son? I remember being told that "white" boys are statistically the lowest of survivors in the NICU, and my son is white, but I never felt like anyone was giving up on him. In fact, I felt the opposite, like they tried very hard to ensure he would not become part of that sad statistic. I wish you and your son well!

Christina - posted on 11/15/2010




In the NICU that my daughter was born she appeared to be the "only" white baby in the room she shared with 8 other babies. Most of the babies were Mexican. I spent every minute I could in the room with my darling and I never noticed any difference in how the babies were being treated. The nurses (of all different races) coo'd and smiled and cared for all the babies the same : ) I'm sure with how long your baby has been in the NICU there will be tears from the nurses when he's finally sent home!

Candace - posted on 11/13/2010




I never worried about that. My baby boy is biracial as well. I'm black and his father is white. I was really sick when he was born and wasn't able to see him until he was about three days old and by that time my mom and hubby had been to the NICU several times so they knew from the beginning he was mixed. I think every nurse that took care of him fell in love with him and they were mostly white. I felt like they were like a second family to us. Is there any reason why you feel the way that you do? Have the doctors or nurses gave you any reason to feel that way?

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