Micro Preemie and Potty training.....

Frances - posted on 06/23/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )




Have any of you preemie moms had trouble with potty training? My son is 3, he was a 26 weeker. He has caught up developmentally, but as far as potty training goes, not so much. I feel as if he still has no control. Any pointers or tips are highly appreciated. Thank you.


Chandra - posted on 02/18/2015




My daughter is 6 and was a 24 weeker. She is just now getting to the point where she will pee on the potty most times, and poop if she is extremely encouraged. She will not ask to go and has to be prompted. Amanda is in kindergarten, and at the beginning of the school year we had a meeting with Amanda's teachers and asked specifically if potty training was going to hold her back from attending school, we were told no. Now, they are telling us they no longer have time to change her and are doing us a favor by allowing her go to school the way she is. I never expected an easy ride with her as even her entrance into this world was dramatic, but, I never envisioned having this much trouble with something that most parents and kids whiz right by. I've suspected autism, especially in the past couple years, but never pursued it. She has quite a few sensory and social-emotional issues. Sorry, venturing off topic a little but needed to vent! In short answer, yes.

Tina - posted on 06/04/2014




I understand. My son was born @30 weeks and 2/5 lbs. He is now 3 1/2 and no interest in potty training. He is doing better at going to potty, ONLY when we tell him to go. If we ask he says no and if we ignore it, well so does he and he doesn't care. No poopy in potty but he potties no problem if he has to go at the time we take him. He doesn't mind diapers or pull ups. He doesn't mind underwear and them being wet either, he wouldn't tell us... It is very upsetting and we had hoped for him to start at my 10 year old daughters private school for preschool but he has to be potty trained. Not sure what to do, we both work so its difficult. I pray you get answers and our boys get to it. :)


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Alicia - posted on 06/11/2014




Hey Frances, I agree with you. My daughter wants to potty train, but I feel like her body is not cooperating. I read all the rewards, all the tricks, and from the comments below, I think we all may have a little bit of a bumpy road ahead. She was 30 weeks, 2.5 pounds, and smart as a whip. She's "caught up" but I am not sure she actually has bladder control. Going to keep trying, but I feel your pain.

Julie - posted on 06/24/2010




My guy was a 26 weeker and is over 2. We started potty training and he seems able to pee when I sit him down and ask him to (I set a timer and take him every 30-60 minutes) BUT he will not tell me if he has to go. He hasn't pooped in the potty yet. Right now, I ask him most morning if he wants a diaper on or "big boy underpants" b/c there were a few times when I tried to sit him on it and he flipped out. I don't push him b/c he's so young yet, but I feel your pain if you little guy is 3 ... it's tough.

Do you think he is aware when he goes? I think that would be the first step. Luckily, we have a large shower, and my guy spends time in it naked before I get it--I've been pointing out to him when he goes: "look, you peed in the shower" or whatever. I had been thinking of no pants boy in the backyard, but haven't tried it yet.

I think control can come after awareness, but other than asking him to go, I'm not sure what to do... I've always heard that boys take longer, but I think it may be a motivation thing.

I'm sure your little guy must have been to see a developmental clinic, can you call and ask them? I imagine the nurses or therapists may be able to help guide you even if a doctor can't talk.

Good luck!

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