What should my 28 weeker preemie, now 5 months, be doing now?

Stephanie - posted on 10/19/2011 ( 10 moms have responded )

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She doesn't do much but people keep saying its normal, she only smiles back. she doesn't hold her head up or try and sit up, she just learned how to pick her head up for a few seconds while on her belly but that's about it, she doesn't roll over or even attempt to roll over. i'm being patient but i just wanted to know if any of you are or have experienced this with your little preemies?

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Melissa - posted on 10/24/2011

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You need to remember that even healthy, full term babies have their milestones at different times. So don't worry about it. My son was born at 29 weeks and he was behind with everything until he was 2. And some of it seemed behind even for his adjusted age. But he eventually hit all of his milestones and really was caught up by 2. Now he's 3 and you'd never know he was behind. So hang in there. She'll get there.

Michelle - posted on 10/21/2011

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I have a 27wkr who is now 7 months (4months corrected) I also have 3 other preemies. You must always us their corrected age when looking at developmental milestones. However even that is nothing to go by as extreme preemies are very scattered in what they do. some things my son should be doing at a 4mo. level he's not and some things he does at a 6mo level such as rolling over in both directions. extreme preemies never get the chance to be in the fetal position while in the womb therefore their muscles tighten from being extended. this is called preemie posturing. the arch their backs, extend their arms and legs. flexsion(fetal) positions are best for them but trying to keep them curled is tough i know. we do occupational therapy at home daily and the therapist comes once a week. right now we are working on loosening his lower back and hip muscles to prepare him to learn to sit up. up until now however the majority of our excersises have focused not only on loosening those muscles but getting him to break the posture and bring his hands to his mouth. I have a lot of great tips from both the occupational and physical therapist I'd be more than happy to share :) Don't worry yourself. The best thing the therapist told me was to look at it this way, preemies learn backwards in a sense, where as full term babies have to learn to stretch out preemies have to learn to curl up. She will get there in her own time and in her own way, i always say that micro preemies are like their own species of baby. They are amazing!!

Amanda - posted on 10/21/2011

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I also have a 27 weeker. He is currently 15 months (12 corrected.) He didn't start rolling over until about 8 months corrected. Micro Preemies just tend to do things in their own time. Which is fine because they eventually get where they need to be. He does receive physical therapy once a week. Since your baby was born early as well, it might be a good idea to look into early intervention. The younger they start therapy the better chances they have:) My son just started trying to crawl but still won't sit up on his own. But he has come so far from when he started physical therapy! It's hard not to worry about your kid though so I understand. You just want them to be where they are supposed to be:)

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Pam - posted on 10/25/2011

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My granddaughter is a 27-weeker. She's now 9yrs old and I still look at her corrected age because she's ever so slightly delayed in some areas still. It took her a year before she would smile at anyone, including Mom.. My daughter was sooooo happy when Gabby smiled at her. it was a huge milestone. She was in speech therapy since before a year old-so she could learn to eat, talk, etc. She repeated 2nd grade because she just wasn't fast enough to pick up lessons.. she's smart as a whip, but some things take her longer to complete than others.. last year she was supposed to take tests separately from her classmates.
When she was 6-8 months old she still wasn't rolling over or trying to crawl by herself, but she did get there and once she starting standing and running (seems like she's never really walked) LOL.. We haven't been able to keep her down. Gabby's biggest problem is growth and weight. She's still small for her age and last week the dr weighed her at about 45lbs.. All preemies do things in their own time.. not ours, certainly not the 'experts'; just like 'normal' kids.. everyone learns differently.. it's hard for us not to worry and hard for us not to compare to other kids the same chronological age but we have to try and remember their corrected ages and not to compare too much..

Omauri's - posted on 10/25/2011

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i have a 28weeker that is now 6 months and i felt the same way hestill dont do much now my ped said that it depends on when he was suppose to be born so his corrected age is months he is acting like a four month old so just go by the day you was to have her

Becky - posted on 10/24/2011

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I have a 28 weeker little guy (now 2.5) and he was always 4 months behind up until the last 2 months where he seems to have caught up in everything. Don't worry they do what they want on their own time (why else did they come early)

Kariin - posted on 10/24/2011

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Hello - I am the mom to two preemies (25 wks and 32 wks) and I think your little girl is doing fine. Remember that she was 3 months early. So for specifically the first year, those three months are huge! If she were born on time, she would only be 2 months old. That's what you have to keep in mind. Is she on track for a 2 month old? If so.... you can relax. :) My daughter ( 25 weeks) was basically 4 months early and it frustrated me so much that the Drs. would try to compare her to other kids that were born near her birthdate. For her, four months is a significant time to be expecting her to 'catch up' to others with her birthdate. My daughter is now 4, and I still remind myself constantly that if she had been born 'on time', she would still be 3.....

Good luck!

Stephanie - posted on 10/23/2011

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Yea, and i think that's also why because i can't see the changes because i am with her everyday all day. But i will learn to be more patient and enjoy what she is doing, which is smiling at me non stop!!

Amanda - posted on 10/23/2011

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I really know how you feel Stephanie! My husband sometimes gets mad at me because I also compare my son with other babies. You really can't do that though because preemie babies are so different from full term babies. Also with the physical therapy I was getting frustrated because I couldn't see any difference after like 2 months or so. But if you are with your kid everyday you aren't going to see the subtle differences:)

Stephanie - posted on 10/23/2011

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Thank you both she is is therapy as well, it just seems like its taking forever is all!! My nephew is 2 months old, they had the same due date, but hes doing way more then she is at the same corrected age its a little frustrating because i see literally newborn babies only 2 or 3 weeks old that can lift and hold their heads up while on their tummy's and she can't really do it and shes 5 months but technically 2, i feel she should be doing that even at 2 months you know? And of course nobody understands because they don't have a preemie and if they do have preemie's they aren't micro they are only 36 weekers or born a month early so its frustrating when people ask me why doesn't she do anything, or why doesn't she do this or that? because they don't understand which frustrates me because then i start asking , well why this and why that? But reading your responses have eased my mind, and even as frustrating as it is she will do things on her own time.

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