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Is is possible for a premie to not be behind?

Amanda - posted on 11/10/2009 ( 53 moms have responded )

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My daughter was born at 29 weeks and 3 days. Form the time she was born she has acted like a full term baby... she has been holding her own head since she was one month old. The doctors and nurse in the NICU were amazed by her and her progess. I feel that she is right on with her developments. I was wondering if it is possible for my daughter to be right on schedule with a full term or am I just wishful thinking?

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Sarah - posted on 01/16/2010

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My DD Ellen was born at 24 weeks and though she had some delay to walking and to speech the docs think that may be more to do with genetics than prematurity, (her dad was slow in both) She was 4 last month and is at nursery for her actual age and her teachers cant believe she is prem, her development is age appropriate or higher, so no, not wishful thinking at all x x x

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Caroline - posted on 07/04/2012

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Rita - posted on 06/27/2011

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My daughter was born at 31 weeks and came home in 6 weeks. She did amazing and they are very strong even though they are so tiny. She is now 18 and has not missed a beat.

Debbie - posted on 06/26/2011

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My daughter was born at just over 25 weeks weighing 1lb 15 (865gms) she was a bit behind for the first year, she didn't start crawling till she was 13 months but was walking at 17 months. She has just turned 4 and has caught up if not passed alot of kids her age.

Heather - posted on 06/22/2011

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My daughter was born at 34 weeks and except for being a bit small for her age now she is right on track or ahead with everything.

Amber - posted on 06/04/2011

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my son was born at 32 weeks. and he is not behind a bit. He hit every milestone on time, some of them early! Sat, crawled, walked, talked, ate solid food, held a bottle, switched to a cup. everything on time! He is even taller than most fullterm babies. He is now 2 and a half, and acts like any other child his age. he always has. So it is possible.

Angie - posted on 04/11/2011

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My 3yrold Girl was born at 34 wks, 4lbs 10oz , 2 wks in NICU and has been on target from her 6 m exam. Earlier they were just affraid to say anything or lable her . Now she is above in some things and on target for others, Same as any other child born full term. They are all different and learn at different paces. Be aware but don't lose sleep.

Zoey - posted on 03/12/2011

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my son was born at 31 weeks 2lb 12oz and right from the start he was fab and home in 3 1/2 weeks!!hardly needed anything he is now 18 months and is nearly the same size as my friends 2 weeks overdue 2 year old!! he walked just before 12 months has been quite forward since he was born!!and his speech is coming on fab!!premies are little fighters i know plenty that have beaten the odds its defo not wishful thinking its fact!x

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I had twins at 32 weeks. I was told when a child can reach milestones at the correct age, not the gestational age, they are no longer classified as premies

Aimee - posted on 03/02/2011

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yes your daughter could be on the right development level as i have a 2half year old and she was born 6 weeks prem and she is very clever u can hold a conversation with her and all health people are amazed with her hope this helps

Tanya - posted on 06/25/2010

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Did you guys get celestone- the steroid to mature babies lungs? They have actually done studies and have found that babies who got celestone in utero are smarter than ones who didnt. My oldest got 2 doses and she has always been advanced- I managed to hang on to her until 38 weeks though.
Gabriel (34n weeks) got 4 doses and he has been pretty advanced as well. The only thing he didnt do on par was eat in the beginning- we had to spend 2 weeks in the NICU until he could tolerate feeds.

Jennifer - posted on 06/23/2010

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i have had 2 preterm babies my first one will be 4 in november. he was 5 weeks early, he is doing everything he is suppose to be doing. he looks like a 5 yr old. my 3 month old was born 4 wks early he can try to keep a conversation, already trying to crawl.

Michelle - posted on 06/18/2010

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my daughter has acted like a full term baby right from the beginning other than failing to thrive she has met all her developmental milestones she was sitting at 5 months, crawling at 7months and walking at 11 months she speaks very well for her age my sister has a son only 2 weeks younger but he was full term and alot further behind with his development

Kathryn - posted on 06/07/2010

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My son was born at 28 weeks (well, technically 27w6d). He does have some issues with gross motor skills, necessitating physical therapy twice a week. However, that is it. I think what most of the folks on here need to know and understand ar these things:
1) the more time spent in the womb, the less likelihood of developmental delays and disabilities, as a general rule; and
2) Early Intervention is designed to get kids services fast, so they can catch up with their peers regarding age appropriate milestones. For instance, my little guy is ALMOST at his age appropriate milestones and is expected to exit EI before he ages out of it at age 3.

So, yes, having a typically developing kid is wonderful and can occur. You have to keep in mind, though, that as the preemies spend fewer days in the womb, the potential problems grow exponentially. Just take a look at the expectations charts for each of the gestational ages .. there's a lot more that is expected to "go wrong" as you get earlier in the gestational age. (As someone pointed out by saying babies born 10 weeks early and later don't seem to have as many issues ... right!)

Tiffany - posted on 06/07/2010

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Hey, my daughter was born at 32 weeks, I do think that they can act like a full term baby because she is doing everything that a full term baby would do. I am a new mom so I may be wrong about this but she is 7months old now and she has been walking backwards in her walker for 3 months now. I don't know if that is late or what but we are just really luck to have our children we do have. I just want the best for her and I dont really care if she would be a little late in doing things just as long as she is healthy and doing good!

Charlene - posted on 06/07/2010

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yes your right all 4 of my kids were premies ranging from 10 to 7 wks and they all kept up with there full term cousins.

Amalie - posted on 06/06/2010

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from what ive been told an reading everyone on heres storys if you can get your pregnancy to at least 29wks your baby has alot less chance of having any developmental delays shaneekas over 10wks early but does everything an more than she should she like other babies here used to turn her head in the humdiy crid the nurse's were forever turning her head back or putting the feeding tube back in as she'd pull it out. she copy's what her brothers do if you hold her hands she can walk we are very proud of her... she still very small at almost 11mths she's only the size of a 6mth old..but good things come in small packages

Kimberly - posted on 06/06/2010

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My daughter was born at 35 weeks. She was very small for date. Although she stayed small for the first two and a half years of life she hit every milestone on time or early. She was walking at 9 months and running at 10. She started rolling over at 4 weeks. She spoke her first real word at 5 months, Dewy, our dogs name. None of those things were adjusted for either. Your daughter is probably doing things in her own time just like every other baby does. It is awesome and wonderful.

Karen - posted on 05/18/2010

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That is so true. I was told my son would be behind also. Now he is 17 and has a 4.2 gpa and has been accepted to some great schools for academics and to play soccer. He is planning to be a neonatologist as he has said to show the parents that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Don't believe everything the doctors say. They are only human and can be wrong too!

QUANI - posted on 05/18/2010

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my son was born @ 27 weeks and....
i can relate because everything the doctors said he couldnt or wouldnt do or how he was be delayed
he proved them to be wrong...

he was also holding his head up early..3weeks to be exact he walked early....
he has showed no signs of being delayed....
so i say screw what the doctors say
because obviously they arent always right

Karen - posted on 03/09/2010

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My son was born at 28 weeks. He caught up to full term babies at about 16 months. He was always small, but he is now a senior in high school and 6' 1". The hormones kicked in and he is still growing.

Laura - posted on 01/18/2010

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of course! my father in laws niece was telling me when she had her preemie twins the doctors and everyone told her they would be slow and behind but she said her 1 twin was the first to walk and was very smart so of course even though everyone says preemies will be behind on learning yes that is true but not always can be true.

Missi - posted on 01/17/2010

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I have 3 preemies.
Sabrina is now 5 and was born at 34.5wks she walked at 9m non corrected age, talked full sentences by 13-14m, etc.. She was way beyond her corrected and regular age ;)
Crystal is now almost 3 born 32wks and was right now with all development but talking. Come to find out because she has severe GERD she was deaf from the fluid in her ears, we got tubes oct 2008 and she was talking in full sentences by time we went for the post op appt. It was complete night and day.
Calleigh was born 29.5wks and is now 1. Up until 6months old she was severly delayed. They ordered therapy and everything. Something at 6.5m clicked and she went from doing nothing, not even holding her head up to crawling, sitting up, rolling, everything in 1/2m. She is 12m (or 9m corrected) is not walking but is right on with development and beyond in some aspects.

It is possible I believe it depends on the kids and parents. I know people that use "preemie" as a reason not to do floor time and tummy time and hold them all the time, well those kids are going to be behind because how are they going to explore and do things being held.
I know a woman that had a 1lb preemie at I believe 26-27wks and she was walking at 12m (non corrected) and talking full sentences by 13-14m. She was a sight this little one :)

Good luck and keep encouraging her to explore and giving her the time to, and they will surprise you!

Rita - posted on 01/17/2010

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No your not wishful thinking. My daughter was born at 30 weeks and she was doing the same thing. She will catch up. I have no health issues with either of my children and they were both born early one weighed 2' 15 ounces and the other 5' 4 oz. Both are health and live normal lives.

Darlene - posted on 01/16/2010

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My son was born at 32 weeks. He was also like a full term baby. Its not wishful thinking at all. My son is now 8 years old and is one of the top in his class. He is very smart. It is possible for preemies to be right on scheldule.

Jade - posted on 01/16/2010

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my son was born at 29wks +6 and my friend also has a son that was born at the same time mine should of been and they do the exact same things and are learning at the same rate from what i ahve noticed and with other people i know that have one older child and one younger the younger one picked up on things alot faster as he wanted to get up and play around with his sister so i personally believe that just because they were premmie that they are behing in development if anything they get a headstart to learn things quicker

Janell - posted on 01/15/2010

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my daughter and son were both born at 33 weeks and always other then their size which they caught up quickly on the were always on track .. my kiddos had to take shots 4 their immune system called synagize and they helped alot with cold and sickness...

Maggie - posted on 01/15/2010

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oh i think its every possible... my first son was 7 weeks early. and he was in the nicu for 2 months and very very sick.. he has been walking since 9 months and is doing all the same things as a full term baby if not more... i just had another preemie... and he is still in the nicu.

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My son was born at 24 weeks and weight just over 1lb. He has had a lot of problems and was in and out of hospital so we were told to expect he would be behind by somewhere between 6 and 10 months. He is 17 months old and is still small for his age but he is crawling now and trying to walk but he is still behind. All babies are different and Eddie has suffered because he had stomach problems and was in hospital for so long but if you have the time, patients and be there for your baby I believe that they will be the best they can be.
There is a lot of evidence that shows that when a premie hits their teens they shoot up in hight and weight because 99% of preemies are given steroids as babies, so these mixed with their teenage hormones really help their growth!

Basia - posted on 01/13/2010

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My last daughter was born 3 months early, that was eight years ago, and you would never guess that she was so premature.

Claire - posted on 01/13/2010

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my ds was 6 weeks early he is now 5 months and he stil has no head control only just began smiling cooing and taking notice of things in the last 2 weeks im really worried why he is so behind i already know he has serve hearing loss in his left ear :(

Kassie - posted on 01/13/2010

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its not wishful thinking. there may be somethings she is a little slower with and somethings she ma be right up there with. my daughter was 35 weeks and 5 days born and she was tiny (4 pound) now she is 2 1/2 and has just had a check of where she is at and she is doing things that 3 - 4 year olds should be doing so its very possible. she also was holding her head up at 2 days old. and then my son was born at 39 weeks and he couldnt hold his head up at 6 months properly still.

Tanya - posted on 01/11/2010

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you just never know....my son was 5 weeks early and though he is still small for his age, he has not had any problems with his milestones and is even advanced in his thinking and speech. Now, my daughter was full term (well 38 weeks) and took alot longer to do just about everything....didnt roll over until 10 months, did not crawl until 11 months and walked about 14 1/2 months.

Crystal - posted on 01/11/2010

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My daughter was born at 30 wks at 2 lbs 3oz and other than her weight there was nothing wrong with her until she got the c-dif (hospital superbug) and after that she was very sick for quite a while... she is 9 months old and in some ways she is doing things babies her age do but she still isn't sitting up on her own all the time... i have worked with her alot followed everything the physio therypist said and still can't do it all the time... she is slowly starting to crawl.... but she still loves to just roll...lol... all babies are different, same as full term babies they do everything at different ages as well... Good luck with ur baby!!

Stephanie - posted on 01/10/2010

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My son hasn't been held back by his premeturity at all either aside from his size he is even an early crawler! got his first two teeth right on schedual it's like he was born on his due date I am so proud of him and consider him to be such a blessing we are so lucky

Heather - posted on 01/09/2010

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My last child was born at 31 weeks. She was 2 lbs 9 ozs at birth. She was all catch up at 5 months. She is ahead in all ways now. She talked in complete sentences by 2 years old. You can hold a conversation with her like you can with an adult.

Lynda - posted on 01/08/2010

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I have spoken to many mums of premmie babies regarding size, most of their kids are all grown up and really grew in their teen years. So some maybe short and small but once they hit the hormones in the teens they can shoot up with huge growth spurts and end up being quite tall. So for the small kids, one day they could actually be tall.

Hayley - posted on 01/08/2010

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my daughter was born at 36 week and she weighed 4lb 2oz, she had trouble feeding cos she didnt have the strength to take a full feed, shes now 3 and shes like a 4 year old, shes very independant, shes still a little bit small for her age but shes infront with everything else

Lynda - posted on 01/04/2010

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My first born was at 32 weeks and she was large for her age, which helped with growth. She hit all her milestones at the normal age. Her development was that of a term baby. The only problem she developed from being a premie is her eyesight, she needs very thick glasses, her eye development was behind and wasn't picked up until she was 5. The optometrist said if it was picked up at 3 they could have done something to help her eye development. Her eyesight has improved with glasses and she has regular check ups. It hasn't had a negative impact on her ability to learn and read or do any of the many activities that she is involved in such a archery

Breanne - posted on 01/02/2010

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My son was a 33 weeker and ahead of most babies his age. Nope not wishful thinking, it happens.

Lisa - posted on 01/02/2010

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no one after about 2 mths could tell my son was 4wks premie. everybaby does things in there own time. he broke my water, he knew it was time to come out. mother nature is pretty smart. oh and he started teething before 5 mths. his cousin full term and a month ahead of him has only 2 now at 11mths.

Kristina - posted on 12/16/2009

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my son was 6 weeks early and he never acted like he was behind....he does everything a full term baby does...hes ahead of some full term babies i know....

Alicia - posted on 12/12/2009

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my lil girl rolled over on the date she should of been born .... i think premmi babys are tougher than most :)

Danielle - posted on 12/08/2009

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yes it is possible .. because all babies are different ... my son was born at 34 weeks and the only thing that he didnt do at the normal time was smile .. he only started doing that in the middle of October and he was born in July

Megan - posted on 12/08/2009

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my preemie hit all her milestones right on schedule - crawling at 8 months and walking at 13 months - she was smaller and shorter than kids her age but when she hit 4 years old she had finally caught up with kids her age in size - she is now in kindergarten, is average size compared with others in her class, and when the kids took a test at the beginning of the year she scored the highest in the class (most kids score an 8 on this test and she got a 59). So she is now the same size as others and ahead of others in in intelligence.

Danika - posted on 12/08/2009

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i kinda feel the same way...my son was born in the 35th week and they said he was gonna be 5 weeks behind...my son was able to support his own head at 3 weeks...rolled over at 3 months....started babbling, laughing and smiling at 4 weeks...and is not behind in weight at all...his 3 month checkup he was 13lbs and 24in long...the only thing i notice is he still has issues with his hands..there not clenched all the time anymore he just has a hard time with grabbing things still!!

Sarah - posted on 12/04/2009

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My baby boy was born 5 weeks early but since the hospital I was giving birth at didnt have a NICU they helicoptered us to the nearest hospital with a NICU. Anyway, when he was born he was perfectly healthy and had a pretty good weight too, 6lbs 15.8ozs. The only problem he has was jaundice, but otherwise he is a perfectly healthy and happy normal 7 month old baby. He is right on target and even ahead in some areas of development. Be greatful your baby is doing good! I know I am!!

Eileen - posted on 11/21/2009

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No its not wishful thinking its reality. My son came almost 10 weeks early. He is now almost 6 months. They follow up with them for 2 yrs. At his 1st checkup they couldnt believe all the things he was doing to be a premmie. He was right on target with pretty much everything. Wonderful things can happen even to the ones that may come a little earlier than expected.

Aracely - posted on 11/20/2009

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My daughter was born at 31 weeks old. 2lbs 11oz. I was told she wouldn't start walking till about 15 months old. She started taking steps before her 1st bday and began walking a week after she hit 13 months. She has developed very well and always managed to catch up to every other child. I think preemie's are strong babies.

Sheila - posted on 11/15/2009

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My son was born at 31 weeks. He never needed any of the help that a normal preemie would need. He was always right on the mark for his age and not his corrected age. (He was doing what full term 9 month old babies were doing at 9 months.)
He's now 2 and is still just like a full term 2 year old. The doctors said that it does happen.

Vanessa - posted on 11/15/2009

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all prem baby are not the same so do better than others i have had 2 prem babys one at 29 weeks and the other at 33 weeks. my 29 weeker will be 3 soon and is very small and only now cort up to where she should be but in saying that she had alot of set backs she was for eva sick and still is now in and out of hosp but my 33 weeker is soooo big and so far has not been behind in anyway i think thay may you mit be lucky and have no prombles it is hard but worth it :]

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