Can anyone give me advise on to help my 6 year at school and home

Brandy - posted on 02/25/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I have a 6 year old son who is in OT... HE does very well at ot butt doesn't do well at school and home... He is always running off when he is in trouble or when he is unfortable what do you guys do for the kids that you have that have issuse like this.... ITS getting wrost and I need to get it under control

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Tami - posted on 02/27/2010

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You are definately not alone as we also have a 7 year old Aspie with that behavior. If she even gets the slightest feeling that we are upset with her, or mad at her, off and running she goes (it's called fight or flight response). She can also act like that when she is sick, or hurt.



In the house always make sure your front and back doors are locked well enough that he can't get out of the house, for example a deadbolt lock, or a locked gate at the top of the stairs if his bedroom is on a second floor. Keep a good eye on him when he is in this mode, as they aren't thinking too clearly, like about consequences of their actions.



For my Granddaughter we have sensory comfort items in her bedroom like a bean bag chair, and we tell her when she is upset to "take a break" (a sensory break) and we encourage her to do that in her room and we tell her to come back out when she is ready (they have to regulate themselves again). It is very hard to discipline these kids.

No spanking, and time out does not work for her.



As for her public school we didn't have to worry until 1st grade as Kindergarten had no playground time/lunch, it was half day. We had a meeting with the teacher during the Summer before 1st grade, and that was also with the principal, guidance counselor, and school psychologist. They decided to do a "wait and see" with her, and not give her an aide at lunchtime/playground time. They had somone from the school shadow her and watch her for the first 2 weeks of school and she did fine.



She does try very hard to keep it together during school. She has a space in her class with items that can help regulate her, for example her noise canceling headphones (can also use earplugs), and sensory prouducts that she can squeeze with her hands, lollipops help too, but could make the other kids jealous as they would want one too.



My daughter and I did warn the school and we presented them with a "worst case" scenario. There is a book on SPD written by an OT who's child is affected. Her child did run away from the school and they didn't notice at first that he was missing. They found him walking down the street trying to get home. We hope that never happens to our 7 year old. We have tried to tell her what she can do if she is upset, hurt, sick, etc.



Good luck to you and your little guy:O)

Tami - posted on 02/27/2010

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You are definately not alone as we also have a 7 year old Aspie with that behavior. If she even gets the slightest feeling that we are upset with her, or mad at her, off and running she goes (it's called fight or flight response). She can also act like that when she is sick, or hurt.



In the house always make sure your front and back doors are locked well enough that he can't get out of the house, for example a deadbolt lock, or a locked gate at the top of the stairs if his bedroom is on a second floor. Keep a good eye on him when he is in this mode, as they aren't thinking too clearly, like about consequences of their actions.



For my Granddaughter we have sensory comfort items in her bedroom like a bean bag chair, and we tell her when she is upset to "take a break" (a sensory break) and we encourage her to do that in her room and we tell her to come back out when she is ready (they have to regulate themselves again). It is very hard to discipline these kids.

No spanking, and time out does not work for her.



As for her public school we didn't have to worry until 1st grade as Kindergarten had no playground time/lunch, it was half day. We had a meeting with the teacher during the Summer before 1st grade, and that was also with the principal, guidance counselor, and school psychologist. They decided to do a "wait and see" with her, and not give her an aide at lunchtime/playground time. They had somone from the school shadow her and watch her for the first 2 weeks of school and she did fine.



She does try very hard to keep it together during school. She has a space in her class with items that can help regulate her, for example her noise canceling headphones (can also use earplugs), and sensory prouducts that she can squeeze with her hands, lollipops help too, but could make the other kids jealous as they would want one too.



My daughter and I did warn the school and we presented them with a "worst case" scenario. There is a book on SPD written by an OT who's child is affected. Her child did run away from the school and they didn't notice at first that he was missing. They found him walking down the street trying to get home. We hope that never happens to our 7 year old. We have tried to tell her what she can do if she is upset, hurt, sick, etc.



Good luck to you and your little guy:O)

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