Hi, im new here. Anyone has a child that is sensitive to wearing underwear, tights, lotion etc?

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Cathy - posted on 10/28/2012

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My son wears boxers, basket ball shorts or sweat pants or pants with elastic waste. He does not like his clothes tight and this works. Don't make wearing clothes a big deal there are other things to worry about and this isn't one of them

Stephanie - posted on 10/24/2012

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Angela, to get a diagnosis we had to go to a pediatric neurologists. They then referred to an OT which was helpful for me too because I learned ways to help my son too. Thru all of this I realized that this has to be genetic, as my family all has similar issues... and my mom told me I was a handful and she thought I was just irritatingly picky.some things still totally freak me out! But now she gets it and sees it in herself and the rest of the family too. ;)

Stephanie - posted on 10/24/2012

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I think you should consider a different ot... the limits are one thing, but it can actually be painful to these kids. Try different materials and styles. Maybe she would prefer boxer breifs or bike shorts?

Stephanie - posted on 10/24/2012

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I wouldn't worry about lotions, just dont use them... if he seems to like scratchy things (like brushing) and you are moisturizing concerned, try a good quality sugar scrub gently after showering and then pat him dry. As far as underwear, try different styles and materials. Good luck!

Shahnaz - posted on 10/01/2012

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Hi Miriam _ i know exactly how u feel. it definately is diffcult on us moms. i think go ahead and have her tested. It cant do any harm but can certainly clear up things for u. If it is SPD the dr may wanna medicate her to calm her. this will be a decision you as parents have to make.

To be honest my child has been on meds for theses sensory probs and yes it has helped. And i find as she is growing and becoming aware of her body she knows there is a need to wear underwear etc. it does bother her alot still, but im flexible and allow her to take them off when she is at home etc.

User - posted on 09/25/2012

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HI - well the cool weather is starting again, and for me, it's a nightmare as my 6-year old daughter refuses to wear pants, sweaters or anything that is restrictive. All summer she wore sleeveless, loose dresses. We tried to get pants on her this morning as it's cold out and she had a meltdown. then she stretched her underwear and pants so much they fell off her. What do I do? She has exczema and I thought the clothes issue was related to that, but now I'm not so sure. She says the clothes hurt her all over and she wants to wear the same things over and over again. In fact, sometimes she gets mad if she has to put clothes on that have been washed. I don't understand. Should I have her tested for SPD - she doesn't seem to display all the symptoms but I can't go another year fighting with her about clothes and I don't want her to go through another year feeling bad about her clothes.

Stephanie - posted on 09/18/2012

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My SPD son does not like sun screen lotion on him. Does not like to be covered by blankets, socks on his feet, can't stand tags in clothing. For some reason this summer he would wear long pants and long sleeve shirts and last year he always wore t-shirts and shorts. He cannot stand the rain hitting him.



My daughter, too young to tell if she has SPD but I have noticed that she screams if I put lotion or sun screen on her. She cannot stand getting dressed. Now that its cooler outside, she refuses to wear long pants or socks. Collars around her neck bother her. She cannot stand blankets either or to be held tight.

Patricia - posted on 09/16/2012

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Angela,



I too suffer from chronic pain and osteoporosis which causes my hips and back to ache something fierce. My daughter was diagnosed with SPD after she started rocking back and forth and would zone out whenever she would hear the air conditioner come on in the house. It was bizarre. They thought she might be autistic or have epilepsy, but turns out she is just extra sensative- hearing, smelling, sights, etc. She still suffers from anxiety and was born a preemie with tons of issues and allergies- etc. The list goes on.



Anyways we found undies from Hanna Andersson that are an organic cotton and have no tags or elastic in them. They wear like iron- hold no stains- awesome panties. She says she can't feel them on. She is now 10 1/2 and still wears them. We also never do the tights, but she loves the Hanna Andersson socks.

Julie - posted on 07/07/2012

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I am all for setting boundaries but I know for my daughter the anxiety and internal stress created by wearing underwear create an overwhelming amount of angst that she can't just "ignore" in order to get through her day. I would rather she put her mental energy into succeeding in school, or just having a calm day. As my OT said to me years ago, lots of adults choose to go without underwear, so there is no reason right now to pick that battle. Mine, too prefers dresses to anything else, so we made an agreement that in dresses she MUST wear "her" unders, which happen to be soffee shorts. There are a number of other dance shorts or such that work depending on the type of sensitivities. Otherwise she wears bermuda length shorts in the summertime and stretch pants in the winter. But don't forget to check, we have had more than one episode of exposure on the playground when she hung upside down with her dress on and had forgotten her shorts. I try to put myself in my daughters skin and imagine how she feels, and if I can see away around forcing her to do something that is nit physically harming her or causing her danger, we don't do it

Susie - posted on 07/05/2012

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My daughter doesn't let me put lotion on, she will try tights on sometimes but takes them off immediately. The worst right now is that she has decided in the last couple of weeks that she doesn't like underwear. If she would wear shorts or pants this wouldn't be a problem, but she only wants to wear loose dresses. When we are going out (errands, to eat, to the parade yesterday, etc) it is a huge battle to get her into underwear and usually involves me dragging her out the door screaming. When we get home the underwear come off. Her dad is very uncomfortable with this, as am I. Her OT suggested setting boundaries and rules. She has to wear underwear when she comes downstairs. I thought this would work, but it did not. After the parade yesterday she came home, took off the underwear, and didn't put them on the rest of the day. Therefore she didn't eat any dinner. She didn't get to go to the fireworks. She was a complete bawling mess when she went to bed and I told her she could get up and go eat and go to the fireworks with dad and sister if she would put on underwear. She refused. :-( I am completely at a loss and thinking about moving our next OT appointment up. I am very worried for next week when we are taking a few days vacation. I can only imagine every day is going to be hell and am thinking about canceling the trip, which would not be fair to her sister. I am open to any advice and trying anything. I'm desperate.

Julie - posted on 07/05/2012

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My 12 year old "practices" wearing underwear and a bra for very short stretches of time, but most days they are unbearable for her. We had to go to the MD to suppress her period as it was a tactile nightmare, especially since she can't wear unders. She also has extremely dry flaky skin but ablsolutley panics no matter what lotion I try on her. I should note that she IS able to wear socks now, YEAH! It was something I just let go as much as I could until she was ready tohandle the sensory input. Now she wears her socks with Crocs, but at least she is dressed!

Fran - posted on 05/24/2012

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My daughter is almost six and drives me nut every morning. She hates shorts pants some underwear socks because of the lines. She throws s fit that her cloths hurt her.. the school wont evaluate her unless it effects her school work which it does not. Anyone know any good ot therapists on long island?

Erin - posted on 04/23/2012

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Melissa,
My son is 6 years old, and was diagnosed at 3 years. He is still in OT and started vision therapy this year. He goes to Kindergarten at our local Montessori school and is doing pretty well there. We still have rough days, and routine is extremely important, but it has gotten easier. He wore a weighted vest for 2 1/2 years, and was recently phased out of it and is doing well. On days that he has too much sugar or artificial dyes in his diet, it is harder to keep him regulated and he is quicker to fall into a tantrum, but he has learned many different ways of coping just like the rest of the family. As they get older it does get a bit easier, but it is still a long struggle for everyone. You will learn how everything works best in your family, and as your kiddo gets older they will be able to understand more of what is going on. Good luck.

Melisssa - posted on 04/23/2012

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wow, my 3yr old is high maintenance too. she also has spd. some days i just want to cry when she is having a bad day. we start with an ot soon. she has speech therapy once x per wk. i wonder how children who were diagnosed at 2yrs are when they get older. just wondering what could be in her future

Lonnie - posted on 04/23/2012

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My daughter is now 11 and for years we didn't have any information about SPD. It was a nighmare. As I stuggled to work with her needs, I found clothing from Hanna Anderson VERY helpful, it is super soft and tagless. After many years of not wearing socks, I finally found her seamless socks from FootSmart.com (Therasock Coolmax SmartKnit Seamless Over the Calf Socks). Now that she is older, she prefers seamless underware from Vistoria's Secret and seamless bras by Warner (I fond them at JCPennys). We went to OT for about 6 months and learned to use the terapy brush, exercize ball and other tools. That has helped some, but she still struggles with accepting foods. Getting her to eat a balanced diet is my new challege. Suggestions welcome!

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My son as well, from early on had sensory issues. Tastes, textures, clothing, smells, sounds. crowds. He started at about 2 months old with reflux testing, switched to the most mild of formulas for infants, some relief but not a cure. He would sleep for about 20 minutes and be up for hours. He is now 15, still has all the issues I have listed, I have just learned to accomodate due to his aspergers syndrome. He was diagnosed with it when he was 7. He will only eat certain foods, prefers very loose clothing and no underwear whatsoever, have not had any luck finding any kind he can tolerate. Has to be removed from crowded loud gatherings or doesnt attend them at all.

Sandra - posted on 03/19/2012

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Sounds just like my son. He is 3 and had the worst time sleeping as an infant, high maintenance, thought to be OCD, doesn't like pants, shoes, under ware, loud noises and on and on. everyone always said he is just a sissy, or I baby him too much. Now I can make them all feel like jerks for teasing me about him. There is really something there.

Angela D - posted on 03/19/2012

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Hi, I am also new and I am so relieved to have found a place where I can get some answers with my daughter and some support(which I need desperately!!) I have often thought that she could have SPD-but I don't know if they can have subtle symptoms or does it have to be 100% symptoms! She has always had issues with the way her socks fit along her toes, tags in shirts, the sheets/blankets on the bed, textures with food, and things that I often wondered if were more OCD behaviors. We have been to 3 psychiatrists over the past 3 years(which we BOTH didn't really like because they didn't really seem to know what it was!)HELP! I am praying that I can find someone that can offer me some answers. She is 10 now, but has always been challenging from birth. She had trouble sleeping, we thought it was b/c of reflux, maybe it was more. Then as a toddler,it was if she was just a little "high maintenance", thus I used to think that was why God only gave me one! I also suffer from chronic pain, so it makes life more challenging all around!

Erin - posted on 03/05/2012

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I have noticed with my son that different fabrics can make all the difference. We used to struggle with underwear but found that fabric covered waistbands work better than the elastic against the skin. My son loves to wear "soft" clothes. As far as lotion, have you tried different types or strengths? Some lotions seem to hold in heat and can be very uncomfortable. I try to avoid things that are overly uncomfortable for my son, but if it is necessary we try out different brands to find what works best.

Ashley - posted on 02/27/2012

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My son likes boxers. We don't do tights. He doesn't mind lotion because he has eczema and we've had to do it SOOO much for him, but my OT said sometimes the things they don't like are the things they really need. Maybe try leggings instead of tights? Or underwear that are looser - (if it's a girl, maybe boy short types?)

Sandra - posted on 02/24/2012

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my son will not wear pants or shorts with adjustable waist. He will only where basketball shorts and things like that. He does not wear underwear more then he does.

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