How to deal with potty training with a toddler with SPD

Michelle - posted on 07/20/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )

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So my son hasn't been officially diagnosed yet, but is being evaluated by several people and they are thinking my 3 year old son has SPD. We've been working with a speech therapist and trying to get him an OT also. One thing that we've had a horrible time with is potty training. We got him peeing in the potty just fine eventually but he won't poop in the potty even though he knows when he needs to do it and what he needs to do. From the information I have gotten so far, an SPD kid can become a pooper just because it's immediate sensory feedback for them. I was wondering if anyone else has had to deal with this and anything that helped your child get past this besides time.

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Michelle - posted on 08/06/2011

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Thank you for your ideas. I'll have to try some of them. He does have a potty of his own that he stopped using when he learned to pee standing up. After that he would only pee in the big potty, but stopped pooping in the potty. Which makes me think that you're right and there is something with the big potty that he's uncomfortable with. He does have loose stools too so that's something else to figure out. Right now his currency is chuck e cheese tokens so we'll probably keep going with that. Thank you so much. I have some ideas of where we can go from here now.

Kris - posted on 08/05/2011

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We've had ongoing toileting issues with our 4.5 year old. He actually poop trained first, which I understand is unusual. He hasn't been diagnosed yet either, but we are in the process. He had an OT eval last week & will be starting therapy soon (wait list). We've tried every trick, tip & bribe that we've been told or read about. I don't know what you've tried, but I do know how extremely frustrating & draining it can be! Here are some of the things we heard:

1. Make sure he's comfortable - does he have a separate potty? Does he like it? Is there something with it that bothers him? Think of texture, contour to rear-end, depth of bowl, etc... If using the big potty - does he feel like he's going to fall in? Can he reach the toilet paper? Do the backs of his legs hurt from feet dangling? This was a big one for us. He puts his step/stool under his feet to take the pressure off his legs.
2. Does he have a sensitivity to the toilet paper texture?
3. Any aversion to the water & sitting over it?
4. Does the sound of the toilet flushing irritate him?
5. Does he need company or privacy?
6. Does he tend to be constipated or loose? This can cause an aversion to going if it's painful or too quick to make it to the potty.
7. Role modeling what he needs to do can also help. Our son likes to do things just like the grown-ups & modeling helped the most so far with the peeing end of things. He prefers to stand up just like his dad. And when pooping he likes to flip through a magazine like dad.

The trickiest part & most rewarding is figuring out your son's currency... what will motivate him to go. Be patient & good luck!

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