My child can't handle being sick

Sarah - posted on 07/27/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )




My 5 almost 6 year old has swimmer's ear (a very mild case), and his behavior has been awful! He has spd, and pdd-nos. He gets frustrated by everything and screams. He also has started saying "I want to die", which of course is heartbreaking, and we have always been very careful about what he is exposed to on TV, etc. How do you handle it when your child with sensor issues doesn't feel good? I'm sure my son is not the only one to have such a hard time with being sick!


Fern - posted on 08/10/2009




I have a chronic pain condition that causes any pain in my body to be amplified and I am sure I had Sensory Processiong Disorder as a child. I couldn't stand tags, elastic, and my shoes could never be tight enough, because I couldn't stand them slipping up and down on my heels. So I can totally relate to your son's frustration. Kids with this problem feel everything so much more amplified than most adults do. And since the ears are so related to this disorder, when they are sick, it must feel awful. I think there are things you can do to help him. First, help him to verbalize what he is feeling. Boys don't always put things into words well and are not always in touch with their feelings, so sit him down and encourage him to talk to you. Say things like, "I imagine it feels ____ and fill in the blank and give him an opportunity to correct you if you didn't get it right. Just allowing him to express how it makes him feel may help him to cope with it. Keep lights low when he is feeling poorly and reduce excess noise in the house as these things can make you feel that every nerve in your body is standing on end. Try to find activities that keep him calm and prevent over stimulation. I am convinced that over stimulation really is the enemy with anyone who has sensory overload and it sounds like that's what's happening with your son. Try those things and see what happens. Let us know if it helps!


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Shelly - posted on 09/07/2009




I wish I could help more. I have a five year old son who was recenlty diagnosed with SPD. I'm still learning what works for him. I would just suggest doing your research, finding a good OT, and just try different stuff. Nothing works better for my son than a good, firm, bear hug.

My son recently had his tonsils and adenoids removed, and he was a real grouch when he woke up. He hid under the blanket, and refused to talk to anyone or drink his liquids so we could go home. This went on for about an hour. Finally, he threw the blankets off, threw his clothes off, and eventually calmed down. When he finally did come out of his "cocoon", I talked him into letting me give him a hug. One big bear hug, and he was good to go. He covered up with his blanket, sat up, and drank his juice. Then he was all smiles. :)

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