new member -- school issues

Erin - posted on 03/21/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My son is 4 and has been defined as borderline spd by an OT. We were just notified on Friday that he is being dismissed from his second daycare center after moving there 8 months ago. Does anyone have any words of advice dealing with searching for appropriate childcare/preschool for an spd child? Thankfully, my request for bumping down to part-time at work was granted, but I do still need to establish a new daycare situation for MWF and I'm terrified at the thought of tossing him into another new environment. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

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Christian - posted on 03/22/2009

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unfortunately we never know about people. If you can it might be better for him to have the nanny. you're right transition is hard for any kid, but for ours its next to tragic. Good Luck with whatever you decide. Hang in there.

Erin - posted on 03/22/2009

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Thanks. Unfortunately, we've been down that path with this daycare and they seemed sensitive to it at the beginning, but never did take the suggestions from our OT and never really made adjustments in the classroom. Also, thanks for mentioning The Out of Sync Child Has Fun...this center actually still has my copy so I will be requesting it back before we leave next week. This whole situation just shows me how uncommitted they were to helping him at this center. And it's really sad, because he has bonded so well with his friends and his one teacher. I will be interviewing the new places very carefully. Am even considering researching a nanny or in-home babysitter and forget about the curriculum and preschool environment until the fall. Then we could maybe get him into a preschool program that is just mornings so he isn't stuck in the same room all day long. It's so frustrating and sad at the same time. I'm so worried that he's going to have a hard time adjusting to a new place.

Michelle - posted on 03/22/2009

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I agree that you need to be up front about your child having SPD.  The Out of Sync Child, The Out of Sync Child Has Fun (great to give to his teacher once you explain what kind of kid you have),  or Sensation Kids are all great books to recommend and/or share!  Help his teachers as much as you can by showing them how to do joint compressions and/or anything that will help calm your child down.  If your child needs to have control, I suggest that they use a picture schedule with pics taken from around the day care setting.  We had started having problems with DS this past month, and a pic. schedule has helped greatly!  (My DS has one at OT.)  He can see what he is doing that day, and can visualize it.  Offer to help make it if you think it would help your son.

Christian - posted on 03/21/2009

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my son, now 9, was suspended from day care at age 4. I went and had a meeting with the director I told her about SPD and loned her my copy of the book The Out of Sync Child. She was much more understanding after that. Once she and the teacher veiwed his behavior as a symptom of his disability instead of just "being bad" things got much better. When you go to interveiw daycares explain to them what SPD is and do they feel they are properly equpped to work with a child with disabilities. (they are legally obligated to let you know up front and make accomidations for children with "mild" mental and behavioral disabilities. I will tell you one thing to help him at daycare and at school later. Establish with the teacher and discuss with your son that when he feels frustrated or overwhelmed that he can go to a quite spot in his classroom. (usually the reading corner in most classrooms seems to work) This gives him power over that out of control feeling that often causes them to lash out.

Good luck!

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