New to this....Hair pulling.....

Jessica - posted on 11/13/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My daughter Jocelyn suffered an injury t birth causing brain damage that is now healed. At about 2/3 she was diagnosed with SPD. As well as developmental delays& hypotonia (since birth). At 5 1/2 she is mostly happy, but everyday is different. She goes to sp.ed. preschool for 3 hours 4 days a week, so I get a little alone time, but it is usually filled with homework, I am going to school for ECE. and working at a portrait studio. Daddy also works construction. We are a busy family and I was just curious about this group. Wondered if it could help. We have a huge battle with hair pulling, and I am lost for answers, she doesn't care that it hurts, she doesn't care that it makes mommy sad.....she does it as an automatic respond to frustration and anger. Anyone had experience with something that works?

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Carla - posted on 01/21/2010

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I'm glad to hear she's doing better! I like that idea... I think that we're going to need the 3rd party start it though! When my son gets mad you had better watch out! :)

Jessica - posted on 01/21/2010

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We have started noticing a decrease in the hair pulling because of her new teacher at school. She does see an OT as well as a PT and ST as well as her teacher and 2 para's in her class. I do work a lot with her at home as well. She has taught Jocelyn other ways to make herself calm down. Like I said she usually does it when she is super mad. So, now we have started to have her and we'll say "put your hands on your tummy and breath..." At first we had to catch her hands as they went up to pull but now she pauses before pulling and we can tell her hands on tummy.....and now she automatically breaths slowly. and now after a few months of catching hands and reminding her. Now when she gets mad usually I can just ask her "What do you need to do to calm down?" and she will most of the time place her hands on her belly and breath. So the heavy slow breathing when she is angry and really working with her to learn her emotions are feeling. She tells me "Angry" when she is mad. And for the first time the other day she told me she was sad. So slowly but surely she is getting better. But of course she has her days where she goes straight for the hair but definitely getting better.

Carla - posted on 01/21/2010

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Ahhhh... I'm so glad to hear that I'm not the only one going through this! I can't wait to get back home and started with OT! I can't win no matter what I do with my son.. he has SOOOO many issues! It's a struggle from the time we wake up to the time we go to bed! I like the idea of pulling the hair of the doll, but I guess you're right.. might create a different set of issues... Let me know if you find something that works please!!!

Robbie - posted on 01/01/2010

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I would suggest talking to a therapist, occupational therapist. They can usually give you suggestions on how to handle this so as not to create any other issues. I was going to suggest giving her a doll to let her pull it's hair. Then, I thought, that might create other problems if she were to start hurting other people or damaging others dolls. Ours would scratch herself so when she would start we would get the gloves. She hated the gloves, but it stopped her from scratching herself. I would recommend OT to work with her if you can get the help.

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