Potty Training

User - posted on 02/06/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I am new to this circle but I need help...I hope someone has some good advice. My son is 5 - almost 6 and NOT potty trained, UH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have tried everything. He will do everything but sit and go on the potty. I have started a new thing that on his birthday at the end of March - no more diapers. We talk about it everyday and he says it but I am not convinced it will happen. Anyone have something interesting to try??

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Sandy - posted on 02/08/2009

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This book was highly recommended to me by our local city librarian.  She has a child with asperger  and sensory issues.  I just got it, have had time to get through it yet.



 



Toilet Training for individuals with Autism or other developmental issues  -  Maria Wheeler

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Amie - posted on 02/17/2009

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Hi Marci,



It is me again.  I found this post on another groups site.  It is the Mom's of Special Needs Children group.  The following post is about potty training a child with downs syndrome and although your son does not have downs, I think that the suggested techniques sound really good and might just help you!  If you are not a member of this group youmay want to join.....you are not alone!!  Good luck to you and keep me posted!!!!!



Read the post below......



 



Not only am i a mum of a daughter with special needs i also until recently worked in special education with the little ones. I have trained dozens and dozens of kids but its a lot of work. I have to say the children with downs syndrome were the harder ones in the bunch but it is possible to do so.



To start you need to make yourself a weekly chart that last for 4 weeks. On the chart you will need the following colums. Date, time, tick if they are wet or dry and if they showed any interest in asking for the toilet or letting you know if they are wet. You will need to make sure that your child is taking 1000mls per day of water and you will need to check them every hour.Once you have done this for the 4 weeks see if you can see any consistencies, like they are dry for certain times of the day, they usually wet or dirty at certain times of the day etc. If you cant see any consitencies keep charting for another2 weeks. If there are no consistencies and no extended periods of being dry its probably best to wait a bit longer and try again later. If you can see that they have set patterns then you work around what you have worked out eg say each day at 11 am they show they have been wet then 15mins before that time you would sit them on the toilet for 5-10mins. If you can take photos and make a book on them sitting on the toilet/potty and the steps like getting nappy taken off or undies getting pulled down then the sitting etc with all the stages and then finish with a photo of the family praising him. Whenever he sits on the toilet get him to read the book with you and ask him what is next. I dont know what his communication is like but do what you can that he will understand. It can be a long process and you will get set backs but that is ok. I have worked with some downs syndrome kids that were teenagers before they finally got it. Dont get discouraged and dont let others who dont deal with what you do keep telling you he should be trained by now and how to do it. Take your time and your sons time, it will happen when its meant to. Find a reward system that you know he will respond to for when he has done something on the toilet. I have been battling the toilet training with my daughter for 12 years now ( she is 15) and we have been so close so many times but have set backs by things like sickness or hospital visits, surgeries etc. I am still trying and dont entend to give in yet.  Try and get involved wih a continence nurse or clinic as they are a great source of extra help. There are devices that you stick in their nappies that alarm and can stop them mid stream and hopefully get them to finish the rest in the toilet. Research the web as well as their are websites with info on them. Good luck and i hope that was some help. Feel free to keep in contact if you have any questions that i migt be able to help you with.

Amie - posted on 02/17/2009

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Hey Marci,



I am so glad that you joined this group!!  I hope that you have found it helpful.  Keep the faith and know that nothing lasts forever!!!  You are a wonderful mother!  I know this is hard!  Stay strong!! 

Jennifer - posted on 02/06/2009

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I am having the same problem with my 3 1/2 y/o daughter.  She was just diagnosed w/ SPD but she doesn't seem to mind being wet or dirty.  I think that she would sit in her wet and dirty panties all day if I let her.  We have started using M&M's as a reward system and that seems to be working better than anything else we have tried.  I am going to try real panties this week instead of pull-ups and see what happens.  Good luck to you!

Jennifer Miller - posted on 02/06/2009

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Welcome! We are so glad you found the group! Boy, I feel for you! My daughter was almost 4 and she was signed up for preschool, but had to be potty trained, I told her if she wanted to go to school, she had to go potty or they wouldn't let her in (which was true). She wanted to go to school so bad she started that day.. only three accidents. My son is going on 4 now and I am more worried about him. He has SPD bad and would stay in his poop all day if I let him. He has severe speech delay so talking is a BIG challenge. I tried the potty party, the candy charts, the stickers, the dolls, the videos, everything. I think if they want to do something that requires them to potty train, they are more likely to do it. I tried to train Sydney at 18 months and she flipped out, so I think she was a bit scared of the potty. I don't know if I've been much help, but I think your idea of just ending the diapers is the best thing. If he has sensory issues, he will get bothered quickly and get trained, my guess. Hope that helps! Be encouraged! ;)

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