Help!!!

Donna - posted on 02/16/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I am the mother of an 18 year old daughter who is bipolar. She is on medication and goes to counseling, but sometimes nothing seems to help. Right now she is manic. I know the signs, I just don't know what to do about it. I love her so much but at times like this it's so hard just to be around her. I just want to scream and pull my hair out!!! Are there any other Mom's out there that feel the same way?

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Lucy - posted on 03/15/2010

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I agree with what everyone has to say from curling up in a bathtub in a fetal postion after drinking copius amounts of Alchol to wanting to pull her hair out. Meds and Counselling and ultimetly your child's willingness to co-operate is key.
I finally Got help when I reported my own daughter to Social services for bieng abusive to her own siblings she was 13 at the time and did not remeber attepmting to punch her 7 year old sister's lights out and compltly destroying the main floor of our home Our neighbors had also made numerous complaints Specifically about my daughter knowing there was something wrong...It was very tramautic times. Then we got things going in the right way...It is not easy...
I always follow my grandmother's advice though when I am having the most horrible day i go and watch them sleepf or a coupe of minutes and maybe even tuck them in again...It sounds weird but seeing them sleeping and peacefull really helps me to get my mind strait and remember why I became a parent and knowing that we are given these challenges so that we may find out our own limits...even though somedays I wish someone would shoot me and put me out of my misery.

Sonia - posted on 09/03/2009

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about to be dealing with her school and having an IEP to help her deal better in school and them to deal better with her too. Ppl are so ignorant to the mental health disorder realm it really blows my mind

Sonia - posted on 09/03/2009

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yes yes yes I do Donna going thru it with my recent 15 yr old dgtr, just got her out of resid trtmnt for a month. We're doing counseling now but not sure how far that will go. i am also dx w Bi-polar so I know the signs too. I just do a lot of praying and hoping w faith that she will come out on the other side. now she does take her meds and has always been good with that, she know she needs them. Sometimes we have to detach from each other and go to separate rooms or take a walk. day to day I sympathize

Sonia

Laurie - posted on 08/31/2009

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I have a daughter that was diagnosed 6 years ago she is now 21 she sometimes I feel that she is so needy and yet there is so much that she has done on her own and I am so proud. On the days when she is maniac I feel like I am going to go crazy and than she is extra clinging I work out of my home and she is constantly yelling for me and wants be by her side. Which is impossible and than I feel guilty because I can't run to her side. She is going away to college out of state and I am worried she has her meds taken care of but that I know is only temporary and will need to be changed and I have no idea how she real react to the new meds. The other thing I find hard about this disorder and so does she is that people have a hard time understanding and excepting it because it is not phyiscal so they are not compasionaite or understanding and don't feel that they do not need to be on meds. Maybe just excerise and a change of diet will help. Has anyone else been getting this kindof feedback from family, teachers or peoole? Hang in there everyone as hard as it is for us it is harder to be them. Patience and lots of love.....

Courtney - posted on 08/22/2009

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Yes!! I have been there very much so, My son was diagnosed w/ the disorder about 2 yrs ago and is now 15, he is more of a rapid cycler when he is manic...Advice I can give is when they are manic like that it is a really good time to re evaluate meds...I sat through alot of medication classes and the one thing they are very certain is if they are having manic episodes usually meds is the first thing...Austin has not had a manic episode since January his last hopitalization...I will be praying for you and your daughter..Continue to be strong!

Julie - posted on 08/19/2009

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Yes. I told my husband that I love my daughter, but hate her disorder. There are times when it's like living with a terrorist. It's a wonder I haven't put a nipple on a bottle of gin and crawled into the tub in a fetal position.

Btw, she's 16, refuses to go to counseling and refuses meds too. She won't even take a stinking vitamin!

Connie - posted on 08/03/2009

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My 17 year old daughter is bipolar. We are struggling to get her to take her meds. It makes me want to scream and pull HER hair out.

Angela - posted on 07/14/2009

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I do. I have a 17 year old daughter and a 16 year old son with BP and I am so frustrated I just don't know what to do. I love my kids very much but with daily erruptions sometimes I think I am going to break. The chaos in our home is unbearable and I feel like it will never end. So, know that you are not alone.

Christine - posted on 02/17/2009

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My daughter is only 13 -- she is also on medication. We finished up with family based therapy and are on the waiting list for Mobile therapy.  As  of late things haven't been too bad. Like you, we can usually tell when her moods are changing and try to take the appropiate measures to head things off -- or prepare ourselves.  There are days where I want to pull my hair out also .... just remember you need to take care of yourself as well -- give the both of you breathing room (if possible).   It helps to have others with the same issues to vent to -- they know what you are going through!!

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