12 year old son worried about penis size

Jessica - posted on 11/09/2015 ( 102 moms have responded )

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Since my son was about 5 he has been doing this weird thing where he tugs on the skin of his flaccid penis, stretching it out a lot. He usually did this after showers and stuff but I got him to do it in privacy when he got older.

Well, he comes to me today telling me he's getting worried about the size of his penis. I tell him it's not a problem but he insists that I look at it. So I do and I'm shocked at what I see... His flaccid penis is over 6 inches long. When it's erect it reaches over 9 inches. He thinks this is way too big. He also thinks it's this size because of all the stretching he'd done over the years. Is this true? And will it continue to grow?

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Karen - posted on 10/01/2017

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I would also like to share pictures to know that my son is not alone

Nicole - posted on 02/14/2017

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Thank you so much for posting this.

My son has a very similar problem. We go skinny dipping from time to time, and he's always been a bit bigger than his peers. But last time it was really shocking. It was so big my friend even commented on it. I decided to talk to him about it and see if he had a problem and he said erect it can reach up to 25 cm. Thats almost 10 inches! I told him not to worry about it but secretly I did research and I was very concerned. Average is about 15 cm, he is much bigger and is still only 13. Its comforting to know my son at least isnt alone with this problem.

Jessica - posted on 12/19/2017

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Hey guys
I just became a mother of a boy and i also noticed that his penis was bigger then others.
My son, jake, is 31 months old a his penis is 4 inches flaccid...
I saw a doctor which did not help much.
Would be nice if you could message me so we can exchange.
Good to know that im not the only one
Any body can message me dont hesitate.

-jessica

Lucas - posted on 11/03/2016

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I'm a dad rather than a mom, but I might have some insights...

A few points:
(1) Over 9 inches is very big for an adult, and about 2-3x average for a 12 year old. However, measurement can be a problem. If that was just an estimate, then it's probably on the high side. A penis starts to look very big around the point where it is 1/10 of the person's height. So, on an average 12 year old, a 6 inch erect penis (which is just on the high side of average for an adult) will look very big. To be measured properly, the erect penis should be measured along the top, held parallel to the ground - not the side or bottom, which are unreliable - and typically overstate size. A 9 inch penis is likely in the top 1% of the adult population. Flaccid size is typically basically meaningless, as it varies considerably depending on simple things like temperature.
(2) Too big for what? 9 inches long is still in a functional range for sexual purposes for most women - though your son will have to learn to be gentle and use lots of lube.
(3) Evidence seems to indicate a mix of genetics and environmental conditions play roles. Genetics alone can introduce considerable variation even within a family. While the father's Y chromosome determines the presence of a penis, the mother's X chromosome has an impact on size - and there are 2 X chromosomes that the mother might contribute, so it might be that your son shares his large penis size with your great-great grandfather. Plus, add in random individual variation that occurs between generations. There is also now clinical evidence that stretching the penis CAN increase length over time. Studies on adult males using traction devices to stretch their penis showed gains of 1/2 - 1 inch over a 6 month period. Now, this was using the devices for extended periods each day. But, if you son was "stretch-and-hold"ing with sufficient force for extended periods over the course of 7 years, his stretching might have contributed to his size. (I suspect if he just stretched and immediately released it would have almost no impact. At least there is no evidence it would have an impact.) I've read of anecdotes where people claimed that 15-30 minutes of stretching by hand per day added about an inch over the course of 2-6 months. In one case, someone claimed that stretching using a device for about 8 hours a day increased his length by about 4.5 inches over the course of about 2 years. (Though these last ones are impossible to verify. He claims that he might have been able to add more, but his wife asked him to stop.)
(4) That said, it may be your son just entered puberty early, and got his adult penis fast, and happens to have a big one. Some people do. I reached my adult height around 13 years old (though my penis kept growing until I was about 19, I think). So, will it continue to grow? Maybe, maybe not. It's impossible to say.
(5) If your son is really worried about it, then there are two steps you should take: (1) take the boy to the doctor to have hormone levels checked. It may be something there is out of whack that medication could help. (2) Tell your son to stop the stretching. It's not hurting him, but if he's worried his penis is too big, then he shouldn't do something that might possibly make it bigger.
(6) It's possible your son isn't being 100% honest. Maybe he's just trying to get you to find out if his stretching is worth it - and he likes the size and might want more, rather than being genuinely worried about it. After all, from a fairly young age, boys care about their penis size, and believe bigger is better. In that case, let him know that 7" or so is what most women consider ideal (I've seen some polls say 6-7 is best, others 7-8). 9" is already well past that, so intentionally going for bigger is probably a bad idea, unless he just wants to make sure that no one is ever bigger than him in a locker room.

Andrea - posted on 12/30/2017

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HI, My husband is Italian and has a very thick penis with a large glans. I noticed my 12 year old son coming out of the shower one day, and he looked almost as large. I think its normal, but my son asked me one day if he needed to go to a doctor. I brought him to my female GP just on case, and she was shocked by the thickness at such a young age but said not to worry. He was obviously embarrassed with two ladies in the room and him naked, and he even got a huge erection with some pre-cum, but young boys have raging hormones and its a normal reaction.

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Gary - posted on 11/01/2019

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Samantha - posted on 10/26/2019

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I've had the luck of having talked to a couple of other moms on here privately and I'm confident enough to post about this, but my son, Carter, is 14 and is 12" flaccid... if there were other parents who don't want to talk about it publicly, I'm more than happy to talk privately lol :)

Jessica - posted on 09/21/2019

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Hi Lucy - I also have a son with CAH. There isn't much online that I could find either in the way of support, but I have been dealing with it for several years now. I also have another teenage son and daughter who are perfectly "normal".

Lucy - posted on 09/17/2019

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my seven year old son also has CAH, i'm glad i'm not alone. it's starting to get in the way of him living a normal life. i'd be glad to talk to other moms of boys with the condition. is there a discussion group anywhere online? this was the only resource i've found so far.

Pamela - posted on 08/15/2019

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@James Larmann Yes, it hangs down to his knees. There are definite real challenges for sure- like simply wearing pants is one. He is aware he is far bigger than his friends.

James - posted on 08/12/2019

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@Pamela Wow that's pretty huge for a young boy. And is it weird and hard for him with a penis that big at such a young age and does he know he's penis is much more bigger than his guy friends.

Laura - posted on 03/12/2019

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You're not alone, Lola. I'm happy to discuss with similar moms.

Lola - posted on 03/12/2019

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I'm in this situation with my son too. I just found out that my son has a missile in his pants. I would also appreciate any help or advice to deal with this.

Rachel - posted on 03/01/2019

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I've recently found my son has a similar situation. I've gotten some help from his doctor but I would really appreciate any help or advice from others.

Pamela - posted on 05/13/2018

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@Eric Yeah, it really does.He is still growing, but it does seem to have slowed. Time will tell though.

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@pamela
Wow, that must seem very out of place on him at that size.
I hope it's not growing too much at this point.

Jacob - posted on 05/08/2018

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@ Pamela I've been listening to a subliminal for penis growth and I've gotten results.

Larryparker318 - posted on 03/18/2018

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When your son ask you to look at his penis do you say I would lke to see it or ou say why now. Im not trying to be mean and I wish yo were my mom but it sounds like you enjoy his 6 in penis and do you jerk him to make it 9 in.I can tell you enjoy his penis andare feeling it because he is playing his hot mommiTo me it is fine to jerk im off to satify both of you . He knows that you will play with his big penid --cock any time he needs you too. are you naked when you make it over 9iinches honey you don't see the picture here. he gets horhy thinking of you naked and he knows mom will lookat it andwhen you wrap your mommi hand around it it get hugeim not trying to hut you but if he said it hurt wwould you kiss it I say the next time he wants you to lookat his cock if you want go ahead and jack him off till he cums then say honey I think yo should go see the dr cause your cock has something wrong with it unless you enjoy it then fulfil yor fantacy and start suking it and give himyhe thrill hes after.here isn't a thing wrog wih a 9 [10 oor14 in cock. he just lust for mom to jack it off do you let him cum onyou tooor do you getit inover your tittiesor your mouth ? he is playing you for sex.

Laura - posted on 02/11/2018

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moms..be happy and proud always let him know that ALL his body is beautiful and totally acceptable and never to be ashamed never have to hide from the natural,,,to allow your kids to be nude in the home if they wish ,give the a distinct sense of liberty and acceptance...... feel very happy !!!

Jacob - posted on 02/09/2018

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Thanks I'm going to update on the situation for sure before too long , I've felt like it's gotten bigger recently.

Lucas - posted on 02/09/2018

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Jacob - it's certainly possible. In my case, I definitely grew an inch after I was 18, with no real effort. Reading what others say, my experience is not that out of the ordinary. But puberty is unpredictable.

Honestly, in my mind you have nothing to worry about whether you grow more or not.

Jacob - posted on 02/09/2018

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Lucas - thanks for the advice I was always worried being too small but i my girlfriend said I'm the biggest she's ever seen . Is that true I'm probably going grow more ?

Lucas - posted on 02/08/2018

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Jacob -

Yes. It might be because of the stretching and jelqing. My advice: stop. Here's why:

(1) 8" is quite big. It's well above average - probably 99%ile or more. Seriously, if you walk into a room of 50 random men, odds are that NONE of them are bigger than you. The most reliable surveys suggest that women's most preferred size is about 6.5". So, going bigger isn't needed for that reason either.
(2) You're 18 - you may still have some natural growth left in you that would require zero effort. Why waste your time?

You say you've been worried that you're too small. Too small for what?

You say you're worried you're too small. Too small for what?

Jacob - posted on 01/31/2018

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Yes I measured it just couple days ago and it 8 inches erected I'm thinking it's cause of the stretching I've been doing everyday

Jacob - posted on 01/30/2018

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Hey @Jessica , I'm Jacob I'm 18 years old and I found this thread and just want tell my story of the past month or so . I've stretching and doing the same thing your son has been doing I just measured my flaccid penis and its over 6 inches in length and just at 8 inches erected I've been noticing some growth in the past before but every day since I started stretching its been getting longer and thicker. I've always been worried I'm too small so I've been jelqing after every shower. And now I've been noticing that it shows through my pants a lot more. Do you you think the stretching is what causing this growth?

George.cottom - posted on 01/28/2018

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My 12 year old has same PROBLEM. Is very hard to explain to him....every one is different..boys at gym class won't leave me alone there for you love sports but won't play always wants to wear it very loose clothing

Tracy - posted on 01/04/2018

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Hi ok my mum is here with me an i got the same thing mine is also 6inch soft almost9 hard am 12 my doctor told my mom that it ok an i have a girl doctor

John - posted on 12/31/2017

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Hi Jessica,

Have you heard of congenital adrenal hyperplasia? I recently learned of this disease that causes the penis to grow very large and also causes early puberty in little boys. I have a friend with a son who is 9 and has a 9 inch flaccid penis and 13 inch erect penis. Does he have erections alot?

Pamela - posted on 12/09/2017

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If anyone wanted to speak privately, feel free to message me. My son is only 9yo so I am still learning and coping with his growing, but it is always helpful to speak with others about it and I figure some may prefer to do so privately.

Lizy - posted on 12/08/2017

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Laura: i know the feeling,i tought i was all alone in the world with that problem,thank god i have found that site!!!

Lizy - posted on 12/08/2017

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Pepper Jones : how old is he? did you asked to see a doctor? you can message me in private if you have questions...

Laura - posted on 11/11/2017

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Also, I think this is a much more common problem than folks realize. There really should be support for moms in this situation, so they can share advice on how to support their boys.

Laura - posted on 11/09/2017

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I have the same thing with my boy. It's been stressful, and encouraging to finally find parents sharing about this.

ZachKing - posted on 10/26/2017

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Title should be "mom's talk about their sons huge dicks and wish it wasn't illegality bang them"

Karen - posted on 10/18/2017

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Any parents who would like to talk about this and get some advice don't hesitate to ask, send a private message my way and I'll see if I can help. My son, as I said earlier in this thread, is very large himself, and I have done a lot of research on the topic. I am more happy to help others, and get a better understanding of other people's situations.

Michelle - posted on 10/13/2017

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Jasmine: taking photo's of a childs' genitals is illegal. It's called child pornography. It doesn't matter if it's your child or not.
No one needs to see "proof".

Jessica - posted on 10/10/2017

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@Jasmine you might want to delete those photos. It is illegal like Michelle said.

Lucas - posted on 10/04/2017

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Ah. I wouldn't worry about the autofellatio. I think it's mostly uncommon because few guys have the necessary combination of flexibility and size to make it possible. I've seen surveys suggesting that most guys would if they could, at least once. Your son just happens to fall into the small group for whom it is possible. So, I wouldn't worry about it.

Becky - posted on 10/03/2017

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Hi Lucas,

1 I think the original diagnosis was wrong, since he was large, but he's growing as well.

2. He is not currently being treated

3. It's nothing illegal or life threatening... I just think he might be using his mouth on his penis....

4. As far as reduction goes, that will be up to my child ultimately (and when he's old enough). For now I'm just trying to help him however I can.

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