13!year old daughter

Marrah_stephens - posted on 05/18/2017 ( 4 moms have responded )




My 13 year old daughters behavior is becoming intolerable. We have taken away everything there is to take and nothing seems to work. I realize she is having hormonal changes but I will not deal with disrespect. I am worried about so much negativity, but how do you give positive feedback toward negative behavior?


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JoAnne - posted on 05/25/2017




As the mother of a 17 year old I can tell you it will get better, it is hard work and sometimes its slow going. Don't be discouraged though, you'll get through this. I have two books to recommend for you. They both helped me.

The first one is "Have a New Kid by Friday" by Kevin Leman. Another mother recommended that book to me about 4 years ago and it was so helpful in a situation that sounds similar to yours.

The second one is "Your Teenager is not Crazy" by Jeramy and Jerusha Clark. I recently found out about this book and it combines neurological science with psychology to decode teen behavior. I found it really impressive. Also, there is a podcast about the book here: http://bit.ly/2rUg9Kq if you are desperate to have some help today. You can also buy the book from that page if you want.

Hope - posted on 05/19/2017




Hello LeAnne. I'm sure a lot of us have been in your shoes at least once. All you can do is continue to love your child. Punish them for bad behavior and hug them for good behavior. You're right about the hormones probably playing a role in this, so keep in mind that eventually, those should settle down a little. A lot of teens just don't get along with their parents but that's to be expected. Doesn't mean they don't love them. Try to talk to her and see where this disrespect is coming from.

Good luck!

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