14 year old suicidal

Christy - posted on 10/22/2013 ( 14 moms have responded )

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My 14 year old daughter is being bullied to the point she talks about dieing it is killing me and all these girls just continue to bully her on Facebook Instagram and keep seeding her request on snapchat

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Amy Nicole - posted on 10/22/2013

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Hi, On facebook there's a way too block people she's not friends with.
There's also a way to report the chat if there saying anything bad about her or anything.
Tell her to delete the snapchat requests and do not even look at the messeges unless they are her friends.
Save the chat's on facebook and take it to her school and show them.
Also, Talk too your daughter about it and who's bullying her and what there saying and when and where at in the school and how she's feeling also talk too her and let her know she is beautiful and she dosen't need too kill herself because it's a A Permanent Solution to a Temporary Problem.
Assure her that it will get better.

Sidra - posted on 10/26/2013

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Also, i'd like to add.....if you contact the school in writing, they HAVE TO respond or take action. this advice was giving to me by a lawyer.

Emily - posted on 10/24/2013

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I am 14 years old also, I am not a mother, haha just saying. I just really wanted to give you a teens point of view on this. I have also been bullied to tears, purging, binging, and let alone just a complete drain of hope and confidence. I did something about it. These things don't "toughen us up" or "give us a taste of life". They tear us apart. I am still bullied today. But my confidence is rising. Make it known to the principle, no other, about what's going on. But don't stop there, keep going. Dont let the bullies be slid into a slot in ISS for 2 days. Throw an absolute FIT. Press charges. Get on the news! Mmkay maybe not the news, but keep pushing. When my own mother wanted to go to school and have a talk with the principle, I didn't want her to. But know that she did, Im so thankful I didn't stop her. Try this: Dont talk to your daughter. LISTEN to her. That's what she needs now more than anything. Is just someone to cry to, someone there that she knows will never pretend with her. Take her out of school for a few days. Glue her to your hip, have some time to heal. Go to the store, mall, even a craft show or something. Go to a festival, walk around and talk. But don't pry her open into what you want her to talk about. Just let her open up. She will. I did.

Megan - posted on 10/22/2013

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Oh wow, what help the local police are. Depending on your state it may be under cyber stalking, not cyber bullying. I'm so sorry you and your daughter are having to deal with this. Young girls can be so mean and hurtful not understanding the consequences. I would return to the school first thing with everything you have, cite all the recent suicides from children being bullied and demand they do something or be held responsible. Good luck!

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Dodi - posted on 02/08/2014

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I have learned in rising three amazing young lady's over 26 year span there is strength in numbers allow your daughter to have slumber party's or take a bunch of girlfriend to the movies or shopping whatever you do teach her to love and respect herself.. I still tell my girls you're life is a bestselling book and you are the author of every page!!! I sure hope this helps

Christy - posted on 11/05/2013

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Hi heather ,

I checked into the program , but the enrollment for Tennesseeis already closed so I cant do that . She went back to school for the first time yesterday and they were all like in a pak after school standing in the front of school and she is terrifeied that they are all gonna jump on her .. I cant imagine that she is sitting up there scared someone is gonna beat her up and she isnt a confrontational person at all

Heather - posted on 10/28/2013

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Hi Chrisry,
My name is Heather and we had to pull my daughter out of school due to bullying and depression. She is now doing online school and doing better. I wanted to tell you to look into k12 online. It is free and they will help you depending on your income level. If you qualify they will give you a computer to use and all supplies. They are great. I also homeschooled my daughter until we were able to enroll her, best decision ever! Let me know if you have any questions.

Christy - posted on 10/28/2013

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we blocked all the girls that were causing her the problems and posting the ugly messages on facebook.but she doesnt want to go back to school because 2 of the girls stay in trouble and she afraid that they may jump on her and she is embarrassed at all the things they posted about her . today is the last day of their fall break and tomorrow she is suppose to go back to school . I dont know what to do ... I looked into homeschooling her , but the material alone is around 500.00 and to be honest i just cant afford it . I wish so desperately that i could . I ;ooked into the online public school , but enrollment is already closed for this year .

Sidra - posted on 10/26/2013

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a child should feel safe at school, and cyber bullying is a crime. I would copy the messages and show them to the police. A 14 year old girl shouldn't have to feel that way. I'm so sorry they are doing this to your daughter. I had a few girls bully my daughter & I went right to the board, and told them that zero tolerance should mean zero tolerance! would your daughter be willing to delete her account on facebook? mine did, because she didn't want to see all their ridiculous posts.

Christy - posted on 10/25/2013

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Sorry for all the caps the program I use at work requires us to use caps lock.. Although i am seriously very frustrated with the entire situation . I appreciate everything thing you have said . I know the principal very well at her school , but getting him to do something is like a damn act of congress. Last year one of these same girls started some crap and her mom threatened to burn down my house , but nothing was done . I have went to the police about this situation , but they told me all they can do is file a harrassment charge on them for the text messages , but nothing can be done about all the crap they have posted on facebook. they told me that there is no law againist cyber bulling . I can give you the schools information . its Salecreek middle /high in salecreek TN . it goes from 6-12 . My daughter says she doesnt want to go back to school at all so Im gonna sign her out and homeschool her as of next week . The only problem I have is I have 2 other children that also go to this school and they dont want to be homeschooled . so im scared that once she is out they will start on the other two girls . I took my daughter to see a therapst and they have diagnosied her with deep depression . thanks so much for you opinion it means alot

Christy - posted on 10/25/2013

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EMILY THANKS FOR YOUR HELP. I AM GONNA PULL HER OUT OF SCHOOL AND HOMESCHOOL HER FOR THE REST OF THIS YEAR . I AM VERY GOOD FRIENDS WITH THE PRINCIBLE THERE SO I WILL ALSO BE GOING UP THERE ON TUESDAY , BECAUSE I HAVE 2 OTHER CHILDREN THAT ARE ALSO AT THAT SCHOOL . IM SO SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT YOU BEING BULLIED . SOMEONE NEEDS TO PUT THESE KIDS IN THERE PLACE AND MAKE AN EXAMPLE OF THEM . I HAVE PRESSED HARASSMENT CHARGES ON ALL 5 OF THE GIRLS .. I HOPE THAT YOUR CONFIDENCE WILL CONTINUE TO GROW . IF YOU HAVE A FACEBOOK YOU SHOULD ADD MY DAUGHTER HER NAME IS KAYLA BOWMAN AND WE ARE FROM TENNESSEE ITS ALWAYS GOOD TO HAVE FRIENDS THAT CAN RELATE ..

Christy - posted on 10/24/2013

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I HAVE ALREADY BLOCKED ALL THE GIRLS THAT WERE CAUSEING THE PROBLEMS AND I ALSO HAVE COLLECTED ALL THE INFORMATION TO TAKE TO THE PRINCIPAL ON TUESDAY WHEN THEY GO BACK TO SCHOOL. HER BIGGEST CONCERN IS ONE OF THE GIRLS JUMPING ON HER AT SCHOOL THIS SAME GIRL WAS IN TROUBLE LAST WEEK FOR THE SAME THING AND HER MOM WAS IN THE PARKING LOT ENCOURGEING THE BULLY TO HIT THE LITTLE GIRL .

Christy - posted on 10/22/2013

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i am collecting everything that i can and she already sees a Therapst and has an appointment at 2 tomorrow . I filed a report with the local police and they said theree is no laws against cyber bullying . My children are on fall break and will return back Tuesday of next week . THANKS SO MUCH!!!

Megan - posted on 10/22/2013

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Document everything. Collect all the evidence and go to the school and the authorities. Cyber bullying and cyber stalking are real crimes and these girls can be prosecuted. Then get her some counseling.

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