15 year old son addicted to heroin,.,,

Tammy - posted on 02/08/2012 ( 16 moms have responded )

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My 15 year old son is highly addicted to heroin I just found out a few days ago and I honestly don’t know what to do he has been spiraling out of control here lately! He was sexually abused and molested by a family friend when he was little and ever since he hit 13 he has been sleeping around a lot and now this I feel like I am losing my son. He never has any long term relationships he has been in therapy and sees a psychiatrist but it doesn’t help he says that sleeping around makes him feel loved and relive sometimes what he went through. Planning on doing a intervention on him but I honestly don’t know if it will do any good at this point! What should I do? Advice?

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Mechelle - posted on 02/26/2012

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I can understand how you feel. When my oldest son was about that age we did everything that up under the sun to help him . We went to rehabs and dr after dr but nothing was working. This is going to sounds very ugly what I am about to say but we had to let him hit rock bottom, and this includes doing nothing for him not helping at all. After he saw that we were not going to keep bailing him out and running after him it all changed. He did have a few set backs from time to time but in the end we let to and let GOD take over. With the sexually abused part only a really good DR. Can help many Dr. Say they can help but do not. There is a lot of support group that can help with that. Because it takes somebody that has been abused to help the abused.

User - posted on 02/12/2012

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Hi Tammy, your in for some huge intervention work, and the quicker the better. Heroin addiction is like a life sentence. If he's not long been using it's best to try and stop it really quickly, by sending him to rehab as far away from contacts that he has been getting heroin from as soon as possible. The main problem your going to face is that heroin does a marvelous job at making people feel at piece with themselves, meaning while under intoxication of heroin, everything feels like it's fine. Problem is after about 8 hours they need another hit or they go into withdrawal. Makes them very sick, no energy, hot and cold shivers, vomiting, cramps, anxiety feelings, and an urge so strong to make it all go away, the only way being another hit of heroin.

If you can get him away and into rehab, as quickly as possible really is your only option. I know there are schools for teens in the states that take addicts, and they live and do rehab there, with other kids that have gone through similar problems. If you don't do it this way, he will keep relapsing and could go on forever. I can't stress to you how crucial it is to get him proper help now. Addicts fall in love with heroin, because of how it makes them feel and once someone has experienced the high of the drug, they always believe that life is better with than without no matter how terrible life looks like for them, by the people that love them. For example, living on the streets wouldn't matter as long as they had their hit of heroin. Hope I have not alarmed you, but we have had a lot of experience unfortunately with this problem and early intervention is definitely the best way to go at this stage.

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Kathy - posted on 08/12/2014

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keep money away from him.YOU HAVE TO. Make sure he is not selling anything.Know all of his friends.Get him to sex counseling,he is hiding the abuse. Addiction is 99%mental is what I heard,my x always gave my sons money freely, aHUGE MISTAKE, AND bailed them out of everything. Get educated about heroin. Read Read Read. it is tricky manipulative. They will lie to get their drug ,this is what it does to your precious child .Pray and get support ..Do everyhingu can to love love love ..tough love also but love him Christian ,if you can find true Christian drug treatment these days go for it..

Catherine - posted on 11/19/2012

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I know how you feel, my son is 27 and smokes heroin. The spiral downhill started in his teens and to be honest there is lots of different advise out there. Some say let them reach their own rock bottom I personally don't agree with this and think early intervention is the key. I tried that but over here the mental health services for teenagers are very poor. I think what you need is continous emotional support for yourself and then keep trying to get treatment for him. You are not on your own and it is torture to watch your child suffer. The thing that helps me is to keep getting help for my own feelings. I will pray for you and your son. Keep the faith other posters have shown this can all be turned around.

Nancy - posted on 11/19/2012

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Hello Tammy i would just like to say my heart goes out to you, I can honestly say i have been where you are with my daughter. My daughter never really got into trouble as a child she was perfect but once she hit her teens like 17 she began to run with the wrong crowd it started with smoking week and the is just progressed to more things, At the age of 20 she began using herion she was went in full force with her addiction sad to say, When i tell you if you don't do something now before it gets worse believe what i am telling you. I so did nnot wabt te believe how extreme her addiction was. she stole everything underneith the sun from me and still i stood right behind her making excuses for her, I just did not want to face reality so to speak. I had her in 3 differebt rehabs abd they didn't seem to wrok the same day she got out the sane day she got high again, The breaking point was when my dog woke me up at 3 in the morning crying to go into my daughters room and he bever did that before there i found my child overdoesed on herioin i was sooo freaked out i did not know what to do i ran grabbed water and ice poured it over her and put ice in her pants don't ask me what made me do that but i did it brought her back thank the lord, Of course i was yelling at her and crying cause i could have lost ny only child at that point, The next morning i took her ad all of her cloths to a drug intake until abd told her and them i will not pick her back up until she was clean, they put her in a program 2 hours away she is in the same state but still in a recovery house clean a year now thank god, so take it fro experience please get your son the help he needs, Herion takes over thier bodies and sad to say they loose who they really are, I will say rock bottom is what he needs my daughter thanks ne for helping her now but at the tine she did'rt see it that way, Please get hin the help his life is too important to live the life of drug addiction,

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I was almost thre myself and I had the perfect upbringing no abuse no divorce, I just wanted to do what everyone else was doing yes I was a follower. My parents intervined they moved me away from the source, but I found new sources and then one day those friends were gone. I sepreated myself from them I found exercise I found my own inner strength I found my own peace. I don't have any answers I am sorry, each situation is very different I hope that you can help your son, but try everything if one thing doesn't work go to the next one. Just know that in the short term he will hate you he will rebell he will do everything he can to continue on this path, but you have to keep trying. Sending the angels to help.

Brandi - posted on 03/07/2012

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I think that everyones replies are helpful. However you have to keep in mind that your son had all his innocents stolen from him at a young age . What he needs besides rehab is support and love . My daughter was raped when she was 14 years old and she went down the wrong path , but now she is 17 and she learned how to control her pain with poetry and meditation . Maybe what your son needs is a hobby that takes the pain away . Boys are different from girls , so it could be soccer or something a bit more physicall . Just let him know how special he is to you . He is craving attention and the out come of his future depends on what kind of attention that you give him .

Annmarget - posted on 03/05/2012

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Please never give up on your son.You are the only one he has. He needs help and he needs it now. His psychiatrist is not doing his job! Heroin addiction is an extremely serious condition. Please get him to rehab. as soon as possible or you lose him. Show him your love.

America3437 - posted on 02/23/2012

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I sure can't say I know what you should do however I can tell you what I WOULD do! First I would become way more involved in his life! I would be his shadow! There would be no more "hanging out" to do dope! His friends are his influence and to break an addication you have to change your life style. School would be the only thing he did! I would for certin have him hospitalized to deal with the process of detox. With all that he is faceing from his past professional help is the starting point. Love him no matter what! zUnderstand that the person he has become is not who he is.The drug changes him so your sweet baby boy is still in there....go find him!!!!

Jennifer - posted on 02/22/2012

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I am a former addict! You name it, I did it, meth, coke, crack, pot, heroin, ice, pills, alcohol, all mind altering substances and I also eventually became a needle user. I have lost many and I mean MANY loved friends do to drugs, overdoses, suicides and accidental, it is the hardest lifestyle chosen for one mane reason, to cope with the stresses of whatever I was feeling at that time, I cannot believe I have been clean for 8 years and the ONLY thing that helped and saved me was gods good grace, I no longer believed in god at that time and still for whatever reason he saved me and I would not be here now if I hadn't of found him

Jennifer - posted on 02/22/2012

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I read this post and I thought this is my brother and let me tell you that he is still young enough that you have the legal right to put him in a boot camp somewhere, you must do this to save your son, my mom was in the same position as you and my brother was also molested by family friend at age 7 , my brother also started using drugs and sex and there was nobody to help my mom and ultimately she did nothing because she didn't know what to do and now my brother is 34 and he's just now trying to get clean because he got stabbed and almost died, I also was a drug user and my baby sister is a heroin addict so please take my advice, #1 most important ( find god and pray) for you and him and #2 get tough, he needs you to be tough with him and live him this might be the hardest thing for you to do but I promise it's much easier then going to his funeral!! Please be strong, god is never far away, he's a prayer away and believe me I know he's always listening

Valerie - posted on 02/22/2012

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I have twin daughters addicted to marijuana, alcohol, cocaine, meth... you name it, they do it.. the above mentioned are what they do "normally".. One is in juvenile hall right now, she was arrested again yesterday and was on probation so she may be in for quite a while.. the other has many court dates upcoming.. it's a horrible road to go down but some choose it. I called the back of my insurance card when I knew there was problems and they directed me to an out-patient drug rehab.. they went there for a year, continued to relapse, went in to in-patient, got clean, came out and went back to out-patient, and have continued to relapse... I know something will work eventually and I won't give up.. but you can't "fix" him. He needs professional help. There are many resources out there in all communities. Call your local police station and ask them for referrals for help. Get him help ASAP! His life depends on it! Good luck and hang in there!

Sue - posted on 02/19/2012

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get help now, I don't want you to get he visit from the police a good friend of mine did, her daughter found dead due to an accidental overdose. I don't care if you have to take a second mortgage out on the house to get treatment. He can't do it on his own even if he wants to. Don't take him to the hospital, they will send you home with a quick fix to help through the detox and NOTHING else. It's been over 5 years and I still tear up thinking about it.

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