15 year old son tested positive for marijuana and cocaine

MIRIAM - posted on 12/29/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )

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I'm going out of my head. I don't know what to do.

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Tracy - posted on 01/01/2010

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GET HIM HELP!!! Don't let him get 18 and then it's his decision. I'm in prayer for you and your son!!!

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Kambul - posted on 06/25/2012

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I have a 15 yr old son who smoke up,stays home lazys around,lies,steals but he's still my son.I have set boundaries for him,which don't work.which makes me feel like I've failed.I took my son out of school and moved him out of province.sometimes it's the pressures of the crowd he hangs around,and sometimes they just want you to spend time with them.I try to take time for him every day and found that when I did move ,and took him from the city,and spent time with him I found that the times I took for him were the days he didn't use!It hasn't fixed the problem,but it's a breakthrough!I also found my son,was able to open up during those times and tell me some of the things he's hiding.almost like he was looking for that out in the world,and why I say that is cause I found him online talking to his friends about home life.I hope that helps.this for me is still work in progress!

Dawn - posted on 01/17/2010

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Treatment Treatment Treatment at least if he doesn't stay sober after treatment he will at least be educated and know the sobriety program and have that with him always!!!! You can't force him to be sober but at least you can guide him in the right direction!
What about attending al-anon? http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/

Regina - posted on 01/02/2010

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I am so sorry .. I have been thru this for years with my own sons..It kills you as a mother.. My sons have been in and out of rehab several time also jail..One of my sons just got home from rehab ( He did a 6 month program at the salvation army ) It is totally free..He is doing good so far..Knock On Wood....My other is in jail at this time..I have tryed everything.. The nice mom, The bad mom, And even the one who sent both to jail..I don't have answers because I'm still looking for the solution..But it is a day by day event,, Draw your line and if they are crossed..Do what you need to do to back them up...May god look over you and your son..I will pray for you Miriam and your son..Please Pray for my sons as well..

Sharon - posted on 01/02/2010

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How did u manage to get the teen tested, I have a 17 year old, and need to test him,

Shelly - posted on 01/01/2010

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Miriam,

First kick his ass...then call a drug councelor and get him some help...Now that you know you can't just put your head in the sand and say "No I don't think he is!!!" It's time to be pro-active...talk to him and find out whats going on with him and why he's feeling like he needs to be doing drugs and what else you feel like he can't talk to you about!!!! Get him help!!!

Andrea - posted on 01/01/2010

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He needs professional help, NOT the opinions of the rest of us. Get him help quickly, and follow up diligently... I've been there, and it's never too soon to get help (or too late).

RHONDA - posted on 12/30/2009

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My nephew was on cocaine too I really feel for you I would get him in a treatment center RIGHT AWAY !!! It only gets worst when he is on that stuff! He put my sister through hell for years because of this drug. He's off of it NOW but he has been off and on for the last few years! Good luck Miriam my prayers are with you.

Dawn - posted on 12/30/2009

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My son is 17 and started smoking pot last year. I just recently got him into therapy since he also suffers from anxiety issues. He is totally honest with me and talks to me about it. I don't agree with it but, I can tell him NO you can't smoke pot. Is he going to listen? The issue that scares me is pot can lead to different drugs. He is self medicating himself from the depression he is feeling. The therapist wants him to go to the psychiatrist to be put on anti-depressants. So we are in the process of that right now.
I feel for you it totally sucks. But one thing my son doesn't even compare to me when I was that age!! I was "out of control" as a teen!!!!
I deeply believe in finding a good therapist, that's what saved me, & hopefully will save my son:):)

Susan - posted on 12/29/2009

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Hi, I am so sorry, I have been there with 2 of my sons. Obviously there was a reason you or someone had him tested and now you know for sure. What is his attitude about it? At 15 they are super rebellious and can be so difficult to get through to. If you can get him to agree to outpatient there are several programs around. Do you have ins. that will cover that? There are also free things like AA which focuses on alcohol but most have dual addictions. If he can find a good group with young and older guys sometimes that works really well. He would need to go several times a week usually for an hour and it is encouraged to pick a sponsor, someone to relate to and go to with questions and help with staying clean. It can take several years of being clean and picking up again. It all depends on what he chooses. All you can do is lay down the house rules, stick to them as much as you can and pray, pray, pray. Miriam, I will keep him in prayer. This is a very hard time for all of you but it is possible to come out on the other end. I have 3 sons, 2 who have been drug and alcohol abusers. My older son is now sober/clean for more that 10 years and is now an engineer and my youngest son has been struggling but doing very well this past year. It is a day by day victory and if they fall, tomorrow is a new day. I hope this has been helpful. I know so very well the terror you have now, you can also look into Al-anon for support. Susan

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